Is this just shallow attention seeking or more?

In the past I have gone through stages where I have lost interest in Mylot, got bored with it, even got annoyed at how it was run etc, but I have never ever started a discussion about wanting to leave or kicking up a stink, personally I think it's being a drama queen in doing this, unless you have a real legitimate grieveance or you are being harrassed. It is not really a discussion topic is it, to say that you are leaving? I am fortunate in that I have a lot of quality friends, even adopted a few sisters along the way, if I have had enough of Mylot and I have in the past I just leave it and I always come back! Like the proverbial bad penny.

I think I happen to agree with you. What better way to get people to respond to your discussion than to say you are leaving?

The last type you mention are indeed seeking attention in my opinion. Those of us daft enough to respond on those often lose a point too I remember one that was saying he was going and several didn't read past the first line. It was a discussion taking the mickey out of those like you mention and the Lotter concerned was indeed going - to the fridge to get something to eat

Thea, I'm thinking of leaving this site, because I am just too in awe with everyone here; with the fun discussions that all of us have had that I just feel I have the need to leave. Truly2x...it has always been my fantasy to be happy and once that I have found it, even online, I'll leave my mark now as the going rate of happiness is high. How about that?

Hello, Thea. I think you've hit the nail on the head again. If I was really going to leave Mylot, I'd PM my best friends on here (including you, obviously) and tell them what I was doing and ask if they wanted to keep in touch through regular email. I may allow friends to persuade me to stay after talking it over, but I wouldn't act the drama queen and put up a discussion. I've answered a couple of those for people I didn't want to see leave, but I don't do it now. Call me cynical, but I think they do it to get lots of responses, because let's face it, most of us are curious enough to at least take a look. I've hardened my heart to it now.

hello thea, And I know exactly whom are you referring to. well, i don't believe them unless they really meant it. the only person that has really said good bye and come back was dbu, at least he was honest enough to tell it to us, i'd rather believe him rather than some people who seeks attention in their discussions. frankly, i could have reported that as a double discussion thingy

Well, for me, I think a lot of it is to see how many people really care about them, and maybe to encourage them to stay, as from time to time I have seen people who start this type of discussion who often do end up staying which is a Great help for us all for sure. But if it is someone just looking for attention and is constantly starting these type of discussions often I will just ignore it, and sometimes them from now on as well.

What can I say, except that I agree with you, and I am not thinking of leaving the site. I think some people thrive on drama.

I don't think these people who wanted to quit and broadcast their desires to quit to the world are attention seekers. There are just mentally exhausted and want to find an outlet to vent their boredom. Half of those who say they wanted to quit never really quit. They will come back with new username as newbies. The point is many have found mylot to be too addictive and could not totally abandon this site.

Some people think that talking on here is all about money. I honestly feel it shouldn't be. People are reaching out for answers to major life questions and I feel that if I can help in any way, it is the best. I come here for info too. No I do not feel that I use it for attention seeking. So not everyone is only out for the money and attention. Keep the faith.

This is just my opinion. I think people like this, is only seeking attention, however in the case of posting something like that on myLot or another social network site. It is a matter of getting posts posted, or views brought to them. I tend to simply ignore such postings.

Hi thea. I don't know about them my friend. I also started with those feelings like that but it only lasted for some weeks. I came here first for extra income but it doesn't mean i needed it badly. I just tried to make more discussions, of quality and to pull more responses, I keep adding friends. These friends help discussions a hit and thereby, keep earnings moving. When i get mylot older, shall we say, i do not think much of the earnings. I think this is shallow.

I have often wondered the same thing when people say they are leaving, ALOT OF PEOPLE WILL DO MOST ANYTHING FOR ATTENTION.

I agree with you i think that all they are looking for is a little bit of attention, or they just can't think of any other quality discussion to start.

Reading a discussion like that for the first time my first reaction would be to encourage the poster and often give advise on how to deal with the problem of giving up for the reasons cited. If I notice that the same poster would again post the same discussion for the same reasons, I will start to think and doubt his sincerity. If it is done again for the third time, then I can be sure that he is just trying to get people's attention and therefore points. But what point can he get if he doesn't even make efforts to type a comment to the responses which is the way to earn points. After the third, he is history and perhaps he is better off leaving unless he change ways. just a personal feeling. cheers!

I don't respond or even read discussion like that... even if it was started by someone in my friends list... i feel that if they need to take a break from mylot... then they are entitled to that... it's not like they are beinf forced to stay in this site...

It could be attention seeking. But some may have a real grievance. I will usually avoid posts like that. That way if a person stays I don't feel like advice has been disregarded.

Maybe they think that if they talk that way 1. mylot will change their method of calculating payment per post to something higher 2. drama 3. complain for the sake of complaining. I don't see what the point is. I think the reasons you said were understandable. As well as just being bored of the site. One gets bored from time to time even if there are new posts all the time life online can eventually lead to a lil burn out and a nice dose of reality is the cure ;0)

Hey thea! I must say that I totally agree with you! I do feel that alot of the time that when a mylotter makes an announcement that they are "leaving" the site it is usually about attention seeking in most cases! It is in some cases that there really is some sort of problem that they are upset about, like possibly someone that is stalking or trolling them and they are fed up, but alot of the time I believe it it just a cry for attention and they want reassurance that their friends want them to prove that they want them to stay and need them to say so so! I know that when I was missing for 11 days and no one seemed to notice I felt kind of badly myself that no one wondered where I was considering I am here every day and that is a long time for me to just disappearing without saying anything! I even announced when I was going on vacation! I couldn't announce when my computer was killed! But, I didn't get all whiny and sappy. I did start a discussion that no one understood the point of! That was enjoyable to me! If I decide that I am leaving the lot it will be a final decision and that will be it!

I'm not planning to leave mylot... at least for now...