Why beat a child ?

Well, for one thing, the slapping in front of everybody doesn't work. She was humiliating him in front of other kids thus causing ill-effects on the child's self-esteem. But I do agree with slapping or hitting (as long as he knows why he was punished). You see, ever since a lot of child's rights have been pushed to the limit, parents have stopped disciplining their kids (well they do try but words are not enough), children have become aware of the rules and they're more out of control than the kids of yesterday. I think there's something good that would come out with punishment. I mean, we were punished when we repeatedly did something wrong and when we were naughty way back when we were young. We were beaten up but not to the extent of almost killing us. It was a slap on the behind or the hands, that's all. I do appreciate how we were disciplined because it shows us parents should be respected. Who ever respected their parents or listened to them if all they can do is try talking to you or screaming at you?

Why should we beat a child? we shouldnt beat our children! EVER...spankings are one thing and if its with good reason then yes as far as I'm concerned a swift rap on the behind is a good thing..but BEATING your child?! oh hell no!! Do you think if someone beats his children it improves the kid's behaviour? No...BEATING your child will make not only their behaviour as a child worse but its also setting the tone/stage for the rest of their lives IMO..they will most likely grow up to be abusive adults to their children, partners and anyone who crosses them

1st of all, that wasnt beating. second, what did the kid do? third, I believe in spanking for the appropriate reasons, at the appropriate places and NEVER in anger.

What a cruel mother with a small brain. I do not see any good effect beating your children to take control of them. The scolding or slapping in front of everybody will only cause trauma to the child because of the slap and humiliation. The effect to the child with such kind of experience will be carried as he grows up. As they grow older, they tend to be violent towards other people or perhaps they lack self-esteem and sometimes introvert because they feel insecure and as if they do not belong. There are many effects treating our children with violence and cruelty. Hence, there are other ways scolding a child when they do wrong without hitting, slapping or beating them to the extent that there are bruises in different parts of the body. I pity parents who hit their children because they themselves cannot accept that there is a problem in themselves.

Violence begets violence and that teacher had an obligation in that moment to report that mother to child protective services for abuse. There's no excuse to hit a child EVER! I worked in child protection and I've seen the results of all kinds of abuse and there's no excuse to beat a child, hit a child, ridicule a child, or abuse a child in any way, shape or form. This kind of thing just makes me angry and wants to lash out at that mother. I hope that teacher did the right thing and reported that mother for abuse.

Well, there is never a good reason for beating a child or anybody for that matter. I raised my girl without using spanking as a means of discipline and they turned out beautiful. Still, there is a huge difference between spanking and beating. I think that one is a parent's choice really. If the teacher felt that this mother was doing something wrong or that the slapping crossed over the line and was abusive then it was up to that teacher to speak out in defense of the child. Not only that being in her profession, she is required by law to report any signs of abuse even if she only suspects it.

I grew up with being slapped around. At that time kids were not suppose to talk when adults were around. Any time I opened my mouth, which was a lot, I got smacked upside the head. Hard enough I might add to knock me right off my feet. Kid's don't become better they just become sneakier. If I saw a mother slap a child I think I would walk right up to her and smack her the same way. The only thing is that people like that would just take it out on the kid when they got home.

Beating a child does not change the child's behavior for the better. In fact, it makes the child respect the parent out of fear, instead of out of love and admiration. What the mother did by slapping the child in front of everybody is humiliate him. The child will remember that for the rest of his life and will never forgive her for shaming him in front of everybody. What that mother should have done is waited until she was at home and sit down and talk to the child, asking him why he was getting low grades. More than likely the child needed extra help. If this was the case the mother could have seen to it that the child work with a tutor after school to get him on the right track with his studies.

I was beaten as a child and humiliated in front of people in this way, and yes, it did make me behave. It made me the very model of good behavior,because I was scared to do otherwise. So, from my mother's point of view it worked just fine. I now live 3000 miles away from my mother in a different country. I like it that way. I have struggled all my life with low self esteem to the point of self hatred, self harm and eating disorders. I struggle in relationships because I am scared to speak or act and I huge anxiety if my husband yells at me for any reason because I expect 'punishment' (he is NOT that way, this is to do with MY stuff) I am a lot better because I put myself through treatment and worked on it, but part of me still hates my mother for destroying my confidence. So no, don't beat your kids. Use a reasonable controlled smack, as a last resort for a reason, and tell the child why. Talk to them. There are other ways.

Hi sagnik42, Whatever the mother did to the child was wrong, by doing so the child become adamant and he never listen to what the mother say. If you really want the child to read well just try to teach him how he has to concentrate on his studies with lot of patience and love, he will be controlled slowly. I can only say that being rude towards the child will not help the mother. Have a nice day.

No,beating is not the right way to improve children,infact i feel beating worsens the situation and sets in a different image of parents in the eyes of children.Children can be guided in a better way..by speaking politely and making them understand the importance of studies.Beating makes children stubborn.When kids are beaten in front of everyone they feel being humiliated and later they prefer to stay lonely and away from the crowd which is not a good sign for ones development.Often children can be brought back to right track by gentle care and affection.Parents should realise the importance of politeness and behave the same with their children, which not only helps children feel friendly with parents but also inculcates politeness and gentleness in their nature which inturn is important in ones character build up.

Hi Sagnik42, I think it's terrible for anyone to beat a child. I feel so sorry for that little boy, years ago I saw a women beating her child with a belt in the backseat of her car. This happend in the school parking lot, the child was screaming and she was ranting about how she would teach him a lesson he would never forget. I instantly went inside the school and reported what was going on outside. The school told me the child and his mother had just left the principals office. The child had apparently stolen a bologna sandwhich from a teachers lunch box. This kind of thing just sickens me to no end. I know stealing is wrong but, my goodness if a child is stealing food I would assume he must be starving.

In my opinion, giving sentence to the child, by beating, is the wrong action. I was not married, and of course, not having children. But I promise not to do such acts, for any reason. I agree, if the action hit the child, can have an impact on their habits, when they were grown. Perhaps there are many better ways to educate the children, without doing violence to them.

It may sound strange, but it is a fact, that there are very few parents who have never beaten their children, or have never thought of doing so, howsoever deeply and dearly they may love them.

My mom is a firm believer of the adage ‘spare the rod and spoil the child’…in other words, she beat me whenever she wanted to control me and keeping me in control was to her, the epitome of parental success. However, from my own growing up experience, I know that it did no good except for the fact that it scared me and made me hide things from her. Beating is a no-no with me…especially in front of others its very humiliating to a child, though as adults we may not want to admit it. It scars the child, makes the child scared and low in self-confidence. However, there are times when the child crosses the limit of acceptance or does something very very bad and in such cases, as an exceptional punishment, the child can be beaten but of course in the privacy of the home.

If the _only_ way she can get the kid under the control is with violence then she's already loosing control. Where can she go to next? I don't remember my parents hitting me more than a few times when I was growing up - and that was after I had been warned already. They didn't need to but I always knew it was an option if I was really naughty.