Should I tell my friend that her own wife is spreading lies about him?
@pinkmagnolias (226)
Philippines
October 23, 2009 1:54pm CST
Should I tell a friend that his wife is spreading lies about him and their marriage. They are not separated but they live in different house/locations as work dictate the man (my friend) to live elsewhere but it's not even out of country or out of town. But the wife has been circulating other news like they were separated and that her husband isn't doing what he's supposed to, that he's not a good provider, etc. etc. and what's worst, she's telling it to those people who live in the same community as her husband. People now tend to gossip behind my friend's back be cause of the issue that was started and fueled by his own wife. Should I tell him? How can I do it, what approach should I use? Will telling him help or worsen the situation.
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@laglen (19759)
• United States
24 Oct 09
I would either stay out of it or confront your friends wife.
@pinkmagnolias (226)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
Aah... the stay out of it part is workable but the confront my friend's wife part is kinda hard - imagine getting myself involved and then being the bad person in the matter when all settled down between them, I could do that but I have to think about that a million times. But, if you'll come to think about it, it is logical - to end the problem you have to go straight to the root of it but what if their troubled relationship becomes weaker because of my meddling, I think I can't carry that in my shoulder.
@captainmorgan (773)
• Canada
23 Oct 09
That depends if you are 100% sure they are lies. Maybe he actually isnt being a good providerm and not doing what he is supposed to do, whatever that may be. So talk to him about it only if you are positive she is lying. I don't understand why you say its not even out of the country or out of the town? He should not have to leave his town because of a seperation, and not many people do. But just remember she may not be gossiping, she might just need someone to talk to about how she feels the relationship was going, and maybe these friends of hers are a little bit untrustworthy. Just look at it from all different angles before you take action.
@pinkmagnolias (226)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
Got it captainmorgan. It's actually my fault, I meant to write out of country, but I must have written out of town, I'm sorry if it makes the matter a little weirder than it already seems. My friend needs to stay in a different location because of work, they are separated by a few cities, approximately 2hours of travel time through the bus but they are in the same region, I hope that explains it a little better. And I can see your point, maybe she just needs someone to talk to or to reach out to, someone who can says what she wants to her husband? Actually, that's one of the points I have been looking at but I'm still doubtful, thanks for the advice, I'll try to know more details first before I think ill of her.
