I am so proud of me!!!

I got to talk to her, and I was reassured that I will be paid back the entire amount of the loan as soon as she gets her grant and loan money from the college. She feels awful about the length of time its taken to get the money to me, and I get the feeling that this time she really means it. She has grown up a lot in a very short time, and I think the email was the kick in the butt to get her going. I too have ditched some old friends that weren't worth the cost of a bullet. I have made new friends and love the new ones more than the worthless old ones. It is nice to hear that there are other people that "weed" their garden of friends and make room for new blooms.

Well I am glad that your "kick in the butt" email fueled your friend to get her butt into gear! It's great to hear when friends mature. My did and didn't mature, depending on who they were, so that's one reason why I weeded them out as you have said! Have a wonderful day, and good luck mylotting!

I think I got through to her that the behavior that has gone on is not acceptable. I spoke to her tonight when I got home and she was very receptive and apologetic. I think that she had gotten so wrapped up in her own problems and stress that she didn't realize that she was making someone else's life problematic. We had a good talk and I think that she is going to make a conscious effort to change and stop leaning on others for money that needs to be paid back. As I told her, her husband's attitude about paying back borrowed money isn't right. He feels that he doesn't ever have to pay back money that he borrowed. As I told her, that is the same as stealing. He feels that everything he wants is owed to him so he doesn't have to pay back borrowed money etc.

I LOVE your avatar! It is absolutely darling. Is that your Pye? How do you get her to stay still long enough to get the pix? I went through stuff yesterday and this morning and have a bunch of pony beads for you if you want them. I am going to be going through more stuff tomorrow and Sunday to get stuff to donate to a local charity drive, and am probably going to find more good stuff if you are interested. I called her when I got home from town (My BF took me into the Lowe's grand opening and also bought me a brand new dryer! I've been without one for the past 5 years!). I was amazed in a way because she wasn't upset about the email at all. She sounded like an adult for the first time in a long time, and she assured me that I would be totally repaid as soon as her grant and loan money came in from school. I told her that we would be getting my stuff out of the pawn shop on November 2nd, and she was actually concerned about the fact that I was going to be short on money because of my redeeming my stuff. As I told her, I don't want to chance losing it and I really need the digital camera because of an offer of work for a teddy bear broker. She admitted that what I had to say in the email really hit home, and that she wasn't planning to stay with her louse of a husband. As I brought up to her, if she was to try to follow through with getting a job as a kindergarten teacher they would do a background check and her being married to a pot head and a convicted felon would prevent her from getting the job. I am going to have a longer conversation with her on Sunday...I didn't hurt feelings yet got it across to her that I can't support her and her husband like I have been. I am impressed with how she took the email, I just hope that it sticks with her.

There are two schools of thought on talking to people about tough subjects. Some hate talking to people in person and some don't mind it at all. I have been talking to her for many months now, ever since she found out that her husband cheated on her. She is receptive about things, but I needed to get my message to her and I didn't want to wait until I saw her on Monday. I also was able to cover a large amount of topics in the email where talking face to face would give her the opportunity to change the subject. I have been reassured about the fact that I will get the entire amount paid back, which is a large relief to me. I have postponed major home repairs because of the lack of money. Plus I am treating myself to a Memory Craft 9000 sewing machine (used of course) that does beautiful embroidery on what ever fabric item you want to embroider. But the biggest thing is that I got a lot of stuff off my chest about the money, her husband and the fact that her self esteem is in the sewer and she needs to recognize this and make the necessary changes to bring her self esteem back up to where it was when we first met. I will say that it is a very cleansing feeling to let someone know about what is bothering you. I learned a long time ago to let the person know when they hurt my feelings or have done something wrong. I try to do it in a non confrontational or hurtful manner, unless the person doing the hurting is a real meat head. With this lady, I love her dearly and didn't want to hurt her, but wanted her to know what is going on with my feelings. We are like sisters and I don't want that to end, but I also want her to know that I can't keep doing what I have been. With the reception I received when she answered the phone, I know she understands and I can feel wonderful.