husband does not love anymore

i am very sorry to hear about this. I know you have a child, but i am not sure how old your child is. Have you got close family or very dear friends who are able to give you support? It would be better for yourself and your child, if you and your husband parted. If there is one person in a partnership who is unhappy that would make all 3 of you unhappy. But as he is the one who is making all the negative comments, perhaps he should move out and then support you financially. Please be strong and i wish you all the very best.

That is sad!It would be unfair to you if you will still stay together if he doesn't love you anymore.Althoug you still love him but i don't think you are still happy being with him while you know he doesn't have the feeling anymore.Maybe it would be best for you to let you and move on.As the saying goes,if he comes back then he is yours!Goodluck.I am sorry this happened to you.

I think you should know why.if he has another woman.i think you should leave your husband .if you don't have any child it's easier to deal.why stick a man who does n't love you? you could find another one who love you and you also love him.

This is really sad and I'm so sorry to hear that. I understand you must be feeling so low right now. I agree with the others, on one side, this is good because he told you frankly and that it is fair enough for you to know that. Although, for most women, what your husband did to you is a big blow, but we can't help it. The damage has been done and he already insulted you. But then, it is a good thing that he has been honest to say that, rather than you going on with the relationship without love. You see, for me, love and respect is important in a relationship. SO, if he doesn't love you anymore and he wants freedom, let him go. Never allow yourself to be treated as nothing by another person whom you valued so much. If there's no sense in waiting, then move on. If you feel you're not valued by that person like you do then let go. Give yourself another chance, to love again and for the person who will come someday to love you. You are still young at 28. Life goes on. It's not the end of the world. Get a life. take care

Do you have children? Share about this with them, regardless of how young they are, they deserve to know. Get their opinions too. And tell your husband, if he decided to stay as a responsible husband, then so be it. But if he is unhappy, he can't blame you or the family, it is his choice. If he decided to go, tell him you would accept it. Please indahfth, he is the one who chose to tell you he is not in love with you anymore. He is the one who choose to stay despite no feelings. It is HIS CHOICE. not yours. Don't make yourself responsible of his happiness, because his not making either of you happy with his choices. So, either said okay and then do nothing about it, or ask him what his point of telling that to you. You should be tired of the drama 'I'm being nice but I can;t lie to you' and stop it now, before it's too late and you became too dependent on everything he decide and said.

Oh that is so sad. I am sorry to here that. Do you have kids? If you have kids then better stay with him.. stay civilized with each other for your kids sake. But if you don't have kids with him... better go and leave him.. What is the point of staying if he doesn't love you anymore...

Well, personally this would be a rough situation to go thru, and it would be quite disappointing as well. I know many times people go thru times like this, and I often wonder what happened? All I can say is look at your resources and means in life, and then decide what is Best for you. If you have children together you need to find out what his thoughts and desires on this one is as well, and then do what is Best for you.

There is nothing much you can do to bring back the love that you once shared. It has met its expiry date prematurely. Make yourself happy and go all out to socialize.

Hi, I'm so sorry to hear that you're in that situation. I guess the first thing I would probably do is make him go to counseling with you, to see if your marriage can actually be worked. I would also get the truth out of him, as to why he thinks he's out of love with you. Ask him some questions and be patient and really listen to what he says. Do you think there's another woman maybe? Do you too have children together? That might be hard to leave someone if you have a family with him and harder for the children. I certainly don't want to tell you what to do, but like I said I'd first try the counseling and really think of all your options. If you were to leave him, would you be able to support yourself and your kids, how about accommodation, etc. So many things to think of. Good luck to you.

If there is no love anymore than i think one of you should leave as this will just add the the misery of being told that you are not loved anymore.There are lots of people out there who have left their partners to find somebody that they love as well as to be loved by another person.Good luck.

I am sorry to hear that but I can understand a little about your situation. Love isn't always as permanent as women expect. It's much shorter for men, remember this. one good thing is he is frank to you at this. At least he lets you know his feelings. It's better than hide, don't you think? If I were you, my first reaction to this would be talk to him , trying to figure out what is going wrong between us. If it is not my fault or nobody's fault, it's time for me to think over this. I need to find out reasons, good and just reasons to remain beside him. For example, I have to rely on him economically, have children to raise, no place to live in and things like that. If there are no good reasons, I can either wait for a while to let himself calm down and to return to my arms. If that still doesn't work, then it's time to say goodbye. A few years ago, a girl friend of mine called me the other day, crying on the phone. She suddenly told me that her husband wanted to divorce her because he was fascinated by someone else and wanted to be with that woman. see? there is no mistake in my friend's side. They had a one-year-old boy at that time. He must have gone mad, I think. Then, it didn't take long for him to regret. And from then on, they have been happily staying together, buying a bigger house, a private car.

if that is the case,that's good he has the guts to confess you. If you don't have a kid,that's easier,but if you have had kids,you can ask support. I know it would be so hard to accept things that easy,but you have to face the reality. It is harder to live with a person who doesn't love you at all. What is the reason for keeping him with you when he doesn't exist anymore. When love fades,it is like living with a person who doesn't exist. So,you have to made the right decision. Talk with him,clear everything,and settle everything in a peaceful mind and forgiving heart.

Aaw, that is really sad, but i think it is better to find love again, with someone who can love you back. Staying in a loveless marriage, will make you very unhappy, and that must be hard to deal with, being told that he does not love you anymore. I hope you find a solution, and find some happiness, from all of this...

Hi indahfth, Really it will be very critical situation that a person we love doesn't love us anymore.But one thing is sure , you should not give up your self esteem at any point. Show your affection and love to your kids. Be cautious , that your kids should not know that there is some problem between their parents. Show all of your love and affection to your kids. My opinion , if you have kids don't leave your husband atleast for their future. In my country India , mostly whatever the problem is the parents will adjust and start to live for their kids. If you don't have any kids then you can better a start a fresh , new life friend. Don't worry. Don't lose hope at any point in your life. You should be confident. Try to get some regular office job and meet many people and move friendly with them. You may get change in your mindset. All the best friend

Sorry to say but I have a best friend in this same situation. Don't get mad, but if he has told you these things point blank, then you are pathetic to just hang around and take what he has to give you. No love, no trust, no life. I really would be thinking about finding somewhere else to go. I know it isn't easy. Believe me, I have been in the same situation, but you have to think about you and your children. They should be your first priority right now. Yes I know reality sucks, but it is reality.

The bottom line is that you and your husband both deserve to be happy, to love, and to be loved. I think that if he told you that he does not love you, then, unfortunately, you both need to go your separate ways and move on to find love and happiness. Ask yourself if you really want to be in a marriage in which your husband says he does not love you. Make your decision from there.

i think also you should find out why?but if this is just something he is going threw i would try for help.i tell you staying married is so very hard in this world these days.how long have you been married? we all have diffrent feelings about one another as time gos on in our marriege and they do change but i think it is inportant to find out why he is feeling this and try to fix this.i think it is wrong for your husband to tell you he is staying with you because he has a responsability to you .that is bull you are not his child you are his wife.also do you have children? if so this is very hard because thier feelings must always come first.but you need to tell this man you are not a weak little kitten and do not need to be sheltered by him.but i dont believe throwing a marriege away unless there is abuse involved is the right thing to do.

hello, this is very sad, first he found some one else, now he's going to marry her too. it's the down for you since men are allowed to marry at least women under that darn law that i just forgot in my head. this law is surely a disadvantage to most women. but you know, why stick around when you can just divorce him and raise the kids on your own, you don't need some one like that.

There are no easy answers to this. Love really hurts sometimes and I have brought myself to the conclusion that humans just werent ment to be together for ever. I too was in this same situation 10 years ago. My husband said the same thing and because we had children involved we chose to stay living in a LOVELESS marriage and try to work things out. That was the worst mistake of my life. Now ten years later my husband is very happy in our marriage and all i want is out of it. Life is to short ive wasted so much years on a relationship with someone i just cant be in love with any more. My only advice i can give you is...try counseling to see if the marriage is worth working on.... then if you dont see no changes dont waster years trying to work it out because in the end you will only be living an unhappy life. Humans need to feel loved and cared for dont waste your life living like this like i have.

i am sorry to read what you write.if you feel not happy for a longer time.i suggest you had better leave your husband.once he could not live you anymore,but you still live with him,i think you will fell very pain.so doing what you like to do,you will feel happy.