I am soooo annoyed with my 2 1/2 year old daughter!!!
By moonchild1au
@moonchild1au (6237)
Australia
October 24, 2009 6:44am CST
I have been trying/fighting to get my daughter to be completely off with breast feeding since she was 11 months old without success - she refuses to go to sleep unless she's on the boob. However my hubby (her father) can lie down with her & she will be asleep in 10 mins!!
Tonight, I had to drop friends off at their house & by the time I got back, it was about 9:15pm (it's now 9:40pm) & I found no one up - hubby had taken her to bed & they are both asleep!!!
This REALLY annoys me because my daughter won't do that for me...I have also tried talking to her & tell her that only babies have the boob (not in those words though) & she's a big girl & doesn't need it anymore....she agrees with me but when it comes to the crunch, she wants it.
Does your child do things for others that they won't do for you?
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@beautifulBrooke (191)
• United States
24 Oct 09
I nursed all 3 of my children. The longest one was for 13 months. Your daughter has come to know you as that "form" of security for her. Even thought she's 2/5 years old, she doesn't see it as dirty or disgusting. To her it's completely normal, makes her comfortable and loves you for it.
You will just have to be firm w/ her. I'm sure you're probably not lactating anymore and it is simply a means to pacify her.
Nevertheless, put her to bed, (no matter the fit she throws) and tell her "no more". She's a big girl now. Fortunately children's memory at that age is relatively short, and in due time she will forget she ever needed that from you. It will probably require a few uneasy nights, but it will happend. Hang in there. It's no different from any other weinning process. You both will get throught it.
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@moonchild1au (6237)
• Australia
25 Oct 09
Unfortunately, I am STILL lactating...I am hoping it will happen sooner rather than later coz I have wanted her completely off since she was 11 - 12 months old. I know she sees it as security but I just wish she'd just lie down & go to sleep like she does with her dad.
@beautifulBrooke (191)
• United States
25 Oct 09
Oh ok, well I suppose you will lactate as long as she nurses. You are just going to have to stop. Cold turkey. You may be uncomfortable while you dry up, but you have to do this. She will see you as "lunch" as long as you continue. Then in a relatively short period of time, this will all be over, but you have to initiate the beginning of the end for her. Best of luck.
@moonchild1au (6237)
• Australia
25 Oct 09
I am hoping that I am starting to dry up a little, I have just moved house & the past few days while moving & cleaning the house I just moved from, she hasn't had a day time sleep & then she went to sleep with her dad last night...normally I fill up on 1 side more than the other & that hasn't happened today yay!!
@fezman (260)
• Australia
25 Oct 09
gees darl i can sort of sympathise with you there, but 2 1\2 years!? wow, thats along time!
the missus and i stopped the "boob" soon after 1, it was a struggle, but it only took about 1 1\2 weeks as i can remember, and the missus did develope a slight bit of mastitus (i cant speell prooperly!)
but we havent looked back since, and both my 2 1\2 year old daughter and missus seem alot better off now./
if you can just get through the screaming and fighting you can pull it off, good luck to you!
oh a hint, if you spend 1-2 days and nights away while hubby looks after her, that will be a start, but just dont forget to feed her more! (normal food that is)
i hope everything works out for you darl, see ya round.
@moonchild1au (6237)
• Australia
25 Oct 09
When I first started trying to get her off at 11 months old, she was screaming until the sun came up & wouldn't sleep!! My daughter eats like a trooper so I don't think I need to feed her any more then I already do lol....hopefully I can get her off pretty soon
@moonchild1au (6237)
• Australia
25 Oct 09
Thanks for the vote of confidence...I have tried her with a bottle which she will drink after dinner but when she's ready for bed, she'll ask for gouk (the boob)...the only good thing about that is that she's asleep & off the boob in less time
@shell2784 (752)
• United States
25 Oct 09
What about a sippy cup of regular milk before bed? warm it up some and tell her you're sore or something. I know she's only 2 1/2 but she'll understand if you put it in her terms like "OUCH!" haha
We just took my 3 year old off the bink (pacifier) a few months ago and that was just as close to hell as I ever care to be again. But I love seeing her smiling face instead of the bink, so in th end - all worth it.
I ended up going to work a day or two on 0-3 or 4 hours sleep (her father drives truck... not gne for weeks or anything... but leaves at 4 and 5 in the morning. I'd much rather he be awake to drive... I sit at a desk all day)
She destroyed toys and movies, she'd unload her dresser drawer contents on the floor and everything else.
You'll be fine! I promise. But have that stiff drink ready *just* before you take her back.... lol
@shell2784 (752)
• United States
25 Oct 09
I never nursed my daughter... well, I did for the first week or so... but it was a comb of "the boob" (as you put it... which makes me laugh) and formula bottles... and it wasn't for me from the get-go.
I'd say one of 2 things...
#1 - Have her Daddy put her to bed everynight for a week or 2 or 3 or however long it takes.
or
#2 - just flat out tell her no. Make sure you talk to her about it during the day so its not a complete surprise to her. If she's anything like my daughter, I'm sure she'll scream and yell, possibly throw things, ect... but as long as her rooms set up so she can't get hurt, let her do her thing. She'll eventually tire out and calm down.
I hope you have good luck with this. I'm sure its quite old for you after 2 1/2 years... but sometimes you just have to put your foot down, tell her no and mean it!!
@moonchild1au (6237)
• Australia
25 Oct 09
I have tried telling her no & that's when the screaming starts...hubby & I have talked about it & we have decided to try & cut her down to a few nights a week until we can get her off altogether
