family secrets

My parents are big on secrets and they consider the strangest things as taboo...They worry about what others think all the time so they keep certain things secret, if only they realised that others seldom care or think about them!

You must have a very interesting job. I have no idea if my family from both sides has a secret similar to what you're saying. Maybe secrets within just our small family. What I do want to do first is to create a family tree starting from one of my great, great, grandfathers and so on. From then, I might try to do a little research about any family secrets.

I do think the family on my mother’s side has secrets or rather a good mixing of genes which either nobody admits or are themselves unaware of. My mom’s are eleven siblings and you can see a distinct difference in them…a set has a particular complexion, height and mental setup whereas the other set has a completely different set up. Its so stark that if two siblings from the different sides stood together, you could not say they are siblings if not told. However, my grandparents were OK…I mean both of them looked as common as us so the difference has to be earlier. However, mom has never spoken of this so I gather either she does not know or does not want to speak about it.

No we really arent very secretive. We embrace our heritage. I come from a German line of gypsies. We never owned slaves, we never were involved in politics, but my great great grandmother was arrested for fortune telling!

i live in a very dysfunctional family in which everyone keeps secrets to themselves or among select groups. there is little trust and it makes it difficult to function as a family. i know i have a massive scret that i keep from my mother because i simply dont want her to know certain things about me. i dont know how she will react, although im sure it will be unwanted attention. although the extent of our secret hoarding is extreme, i think it is necessary for there to be some secrecy among families. other wise where does the surprise, awe and excitement come into life?

I think every family has some secrets. My family have also secrets. But that secrecy within ourselves. That is not harmful for others or criminal nature.As you are a genealogist my question to you : why great many secrets in older time?

Hi savypat, Our family doesn't have many secrets anymore but like you I've found some in our past. Sixty years ago some things were never discussed especially around children and secrets were kept very well. I was probably over forty before I discovered that my mother's sister had a child at a young age and gave the baby up for adoption. She later married and had three children with her husband. I don't think that either of them knew that they had a half-sister. Such things were considered a great shame at that time. Blessings.

i think family secrets from yrs ago would be great to listen to, as society was so different back then. we've got a black sheep of the family, but all families have them. i know my dads side are just weird, to me. but that's the way i grew up.

Well so far, I have no knowledge of whatever secret the family has.

every one has a skeleton in his cupboard. now perhaps it is difficult to keep one's privacy in this modern society but we do have secrets. we don't like others to learn the secrets not because the secrets are evil or harmful to others but because we just want to keep them to ourselves.