What is your greatest fear in life?

@jndlponti (2402)
Philippines
October 24, 2009 7:48pm CST
Everyone has our own fears. My greatest fear is that to see my family hurt, or thinking of the thought that one day my parents will already leave this world.I also feared that I might die without seeing my children grow up the life I wanted them to have. Thinking of the fact makes me wanted to cry. Though I know it is silly but that is the facts about life. we all live and die. How about you? What is your greatest fear in life? Don't you know that it would help you accept the fact if you learn how to voice out that fear? I would be waiting here for you to share with me your great fears and I know it would be one of the worlds greatest revelations...
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@zausiu (610)
• China
25 Oct 09
My greatest fear is my parents, my grandmother could lose health. That's terrible. I also fear I would get serious illness. There is too much things for me to do. Without a good health I could not realize my ambition and if my family need help then I could not take care of them. GOOD LUCK. jndlponti.
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@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
Hi zausiu and starsailover... Thank you for sharing those thoughts with me. That is always true. I notice that most of us here fear that we might not be of help for the people we love so much. That's just show that both of you, just like the other who responded here are so responsible and much loving with your family. We think of them first before ourselves. That is a selfless kind of love. And I a appreciate you both for that.
• Mexico
25 Oct 09
Hi zausiu: I have shared this same feeling you have expressed today when my great grand mother was with me here, because i love her so much and to acept that she was going to die was terrible for me, i loved her very much, she was an amazing great grand mother. I still miss the way she take care of me.
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@Jhaszy (234)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
hello!i think we both share the same fear..i fear i could not give my kids a better future than i have,i fear they would be like slaves bcos they didnt finished school..i fear they could be hurt in anyway and i am not there for them..i dont fear i die but i dont want it to be now bcos of my kids..my greatest fear is to leave my kids in a bad situation...
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@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
Same here. When the time I knew I have the signs of cancer. I really thought of these facts, I really am not scared of dying. But I do not wanted it to be as early as now. My child is still one year old. She is a girl and I wanted to be with her since girls really needed their mother most during their adolescent years.
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@Archie0 (5652)
25 Oct 09
My greatest fear is the act of dying. I think the pain of dying (unless you're asleep when it happens) would be very horrible and likely very confusing. I'm not afraid of what is after passing, I can deal with that whatever it is. Not knowing how it will 'end' is what scares me.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
You are scared of maybe you would feel much pain when you are already dying. That confuses me also. I was thinking of what might be the feeling of almost losing your breathe. Well we could never know unless it is already our time to. I hope it doesn't happen yet. Thank you for responding archie
@bucketkid (237)
• Australia
25 Oct 09
im just leaving high school and am lucky to not be connected to much in this world. i would be very upset if my prized people came to misfortune that i couldnt help. but at the moment, my greatest fear is not being able to follow through with my aspiration which is studyig medicine. its something that i am so wholly passionate about. i want to be able to get into my community as a qualified practitioner and do my part. now, i just have to wait for my test scores and see if i get any uni offers. i know it sounds selfish but sometimes you've got to do things for you to be able to do things for someone else. i'll be the first person in my family to go to uni. i want to help my family achieve and be able to support them.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
Wow that is then a very nice thing to do. I understand why you feared a lot of not being able to achieve your dreams. Since that dream you have kept means everything to your family. That is where your family's future lies to. And that thing is not being selfish. just have faith, we know you could do it.
• Australia
26 Oct 09
haha thanks. i know that my family will be happy with whatever i do. but i know that not only is this something i really want to do, it gives me a chnace to giv bakc to my family and community. and its a workforce shortage. so i guess it is a win win situation. :
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
25 Oct 09
My greatest fears are sickness for me and my loved ones and like you, I fear leaving this world before my daughter has had a chance to grow up and still needs me. I fear being abducted and hurt too due to the awful stories in the papers lately. I fear having no love in my life. I have learnt to be grateful for what I have though and focusing on that rather than what is missing.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
26 Oct 09
You're welcome, hope none of our fears will ever come to pass.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
That is true. See the other things in life. Learn to be thankful for what you have. We always have these fears since we love those people a lot. We always wanted them to be healthy, safe and happy. Thank you for responding on this topic and glad you shared with us your most greatest fear.
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@dipak06 (913)
• India
25 Oct 09
the greatest fear in my life is thinking myself alone in the world without my family,my friends and my love...i cant live with out these three most beautiful gifts in my life...
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
Hi dipak06... You are the third person who responded in this topic who shared that kind of fear. I think if you always show them your love they will always be by your side. If they too love you they will never leave you alone. Thank you for responding on this topic. And thank you for sharing with us your greatest fear.
• Australia
25 Oct 09
exact same thing, i would hate to see family and friends hurt. It makes me sick to think about it. Great topic by the way :)
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
Thank you for that complement paulvandriel91. I think so that a lot of people here, regardless of what race you are share the same fear. Since most of us here value more the people that we love than ourselves. Thank you for responding on this topic. and by the way WELCOME to myLot.
• India
25 Oct 09
Like you, my greatest fear is about the safety of my immediate family i.e. my husband and my son. Just the other day, my hubby was on tour and there was a call from the local police station…the moment I picked up the phone and the voice on the other side said that it was the police calling, my heart skipped a beat. I thought my hubby had met with some accident or something and they were calling to inform me about that! It turned out to be a wrong call but I was really scared. Same thing with my son, though he’s just a boy now and under my supervision all the time. But a time will come when he’ll be on his own and as a mother, my worries will begin.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
That is what I always feel also when my hubby is out of town for a business. Which he usually does every other week since he is in the sales. But I just put in mind that God is always there to protect him, I always pray for him. Also my daughter is still one year old now, I am always worried when I would leave her to my in laws whenever I have some very important meeting,but most of the time I am with my child since I am in a home based business. I think both of us share the same fear with our immediate family. that just mean we really love them so much as we think of them first before ourselves.
@flagella08 (5065)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
those are my fears too. i also fear that my family will be broken because of some wrong decisions. i just hope i wouldn't land a wrong one. i also dreaded the fact that my parents would leave in this world soon. they're in their retirement age and we still need them so that our family will still become intact and complete. i also fear if i can't already bear with my husband.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
Those are all serious fears. Glad to know that you have trusted me with those fears. I hope so that you will overcome those fears. Just be optimistic and always pray that God will always be your guide. just have faith. Thank you for sharing with me your thoughts.
@mrsbrian (1949)
• United States
25 Oct 09
My greatest fear is being alone. Although there are many -not being here for my kids- not seeing my grandkids grown- leaving my loved ones behind. I do not want to be alone, some alone time is good. you know they will return home, but being totally alone knowing no one is comming home to you is a very big fear to me.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
You and starsailover have the same fear. You fear that one day you might be living alone, no one is there for you when you needed help. But just like the other member here have said we must be optimistic to face that fear. You could always find some friend, just be careful though in choosing. But here in myLot we are always be one of those trusted friends. We are always willing to listen to you. I hope also that you will always be together with your family so you won't get lonely. Thank you for responding to this discussion and glad to know you trusted me the answer of the serious question I've posted.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Oct 09
hi jndlponti I think my one greatest fear is that anything bad would happen to my son who is my only close family living. I do so love my son, and hope to get back together with him in an apartment once he finds a job. But we should not dwell on our fears but keep up an optimist front to life and we will fare much better.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
I appreciate that very optimistic attitude you have. That is very much important in dealing with our fears. and also true that we always fear for someone we love so much. I hope you and your son will be together again soon. Thank you for responding in my discussion and glad that you shared your thoughts with me.
• Malaysia
25 Oct 09
I fear of losing those people I love and care about so much. Sad but always true, one day I have to let them go, but how I am going to accept the facts of life are not thinkable and could not be imagined of. What I know is that I will be in the deepest sorrow. I also fear that what if I am the one who will leave them and that will make me sad and worry as I won't be able to tell them that I will always remember them and they must move on with their life... Oh, I have teary eyes just by typing down these sentences... I guess that prayers always work to keep oneself in regain one's strength as time goes by...
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
That is good. Putting your faith to God, that he will be the one to set things for you is a very wise decisions. We really fear for those things to happen to our love ones since we love them so much and we always wanted them to have all the good in life. But if God let it happen we must accept the fact that God has a purpose and a reason for everything. Thank you for sharing with us your greatest fear. I really appreciate that you have trusted us here.
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
My greatest fears are usually those which involve my family. I fear that I would leave this world without finishing my responsibility to them. I still need to let them finish college and see that they are ready to have their own families in the future. When all things necessary are in place, I would already be confident to go. I just hope these things will be accomplished well before I go, so I still have time to enjoy it with them and their future children.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
That is true. Most of our fears here is the fear that we have for someone we love the most. we usually think of them before ourselves. have you notice that? That is a selfless kind of love. I hope that all your dreams will come true and that fear will be overcome. Thank you for responding here.
@gogos11 (67)
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
25 Oct 09
everobdy have fears, i have too fears, but its not bad...the fear is that thing that is keeping as from truble, if have fear from high speed, you never will drive fast, and you have never risk to die in a traffic accident, if you have fear from dogs, then you have smaler chance to be bitten from a dog........Fears are good thing, when they are normal, like the fear for the famalie, its ok and normal, you love you famalie.