24 months in the relationship = 2 years

You are right. Relationships are getting shorter nowadays. I'm not really surprised because many people are not giving 100 commitment anymore, such as couples who are OK with their partners fantasizing about other people. I think relationships would work out if people would give 100 commitment. My boyfriend and I are almost 5 years now. In fact, we're celebrating our 5th anniversary this November. After all these years I'm still very happy with him.

hi laydee well I am really the wrong person to comment here as I did not live together, I did not have four or five boy friends that lived in, I did not have babies from these four or five, so I was an old fuddyduddy. I married one man and had two children and we were married for 43 years. I guess since most cop out that marriages dont last , marriage is not popular any more. But yes I do think a lot of young people now days are shallow. If one or the other of the couple looks sideways at the significant other, he or she is kicked out, and the one left just looks for an new boyfriend or girlfriend. That thinking to me is pretty sad and really shallow. Of course I have known others like yourself that have successful live ins but they are the ones who dedicate themselves to the partnership.I realize times have changed and that living together is now the thing to do but I would love to see that these are more stable, and not so easily broken up.

Simply put, the younger generations don't need commitment. College degrees and higher wages have made it possible for people to live without making a marriage commitment. Everyone wants their cake and to eat it too. Marriage can definately be stressful and it does take a lot of work. I suspect that most younger people these days are slightly lazy and really don't want to be bothered working on a commitment. They don't have to. They are financially sound (either supporting themselves or being supported by parents). Our youth seem to be more committed to self then others. Remember the kandy stripers a long time ago that volunteered in the hospitals? People these days would rather fullfill their own desires, without commitments. Look at the work forc. Do you ever hear of younger people at a job for a decade or more these days? I believe everything has a turning point and we will return to a simplier life. More marriages, longer work histories..smaller houses...you get the drift.

I see monthsary in a positive way. I believe that word came up because most of the people want to celebrate their relationships more often. I think it is sweeter to celebrate your togetherness more often. Not because you are afraid that you will not make it or reach a year or two but because you wanted to reminisce and celebrate the happiness of your first time together.

No no no...Not at all. Relationships before and now are still the same. Only the dating have change since there were a lot of things on the places also where people used to date, or the kind of living have change that is why dating have also change. I guess that the word monsary was just made up by the young ones. Yes the truth for this was because some realtionship do not last for long anymore, atleast they have moments that they celebrated the moments of what they have. My husband and I use to be lovers for seven years and we are not so very particular of that monsary. We celebrated the anniversary.

When I was growing up marriages lasted a life time. I still get shocked at how free the younger relationships have gotten. Heck we know this one guy and his girlfriend they have been going together for over 3 years and still don't call each other boy friend and girlfriend. I think it is that some people haven't been taught the true meaning of a relationship. It is just another sign of the times don't you think?

Maybe the younger generation refers to months coz they are more into dating than we ever were and dating relationships don’t really last for years. However, when marriages are referred to in months, its really both shocking and saddening. The times we are living now is really very stressful and people just want to have a good time ‘today’ instead of sacrificing a little and waiting for tomorrow. Its not entirely their fault either…the overall situation is so shaky that it has made us short on patience and sacrifice. However, I am a firm believer in the commitments of marriage and family life and if we can teach our children to have a little more patience and compromise a little, life in the long run would definitely be better for the family as a whole.

This is true.. in a way. Nowadays, relationships don't really past the mark beyond 2 years. Some don't even touch 2 years, period. I admire people of the past; whom can withstand a relationship and be in say, a marriage for 25 years and beyond. Where's the love, where are all those faithfulness, those loving moments and anniversary moments that celebrate the 2 years and more. There are, still, but it's getting lesser, from what I see from my eyes..

I agree with you,perhaps it's just a fad that will soon fade!I alway use 'years'!

I know what you mean about relationships being more shallow, and I think you're right to some extent. People don't value marriage these days as highly as i think they used to, which might be why more couples are splitting up now than they ever used to. Despite this, I still think that I would say that I'd been wiht my boyfriend for a year, rather than 12 months (we haven't, but I'm just using that as an example..) I would be proud if I stayed with him for that long, as I'm really growing to love him!

it beats me as well but i maybe because we are used to using months when the time period is not so long

Yes I agree with you, the relationships in modern generation became shallow and mostly became short tem relationship. I dont know what is the reason behind this thing because nowadays communications is very accessible so the reationship can grow much stronger.

I think there are some relationship never last long because it really not meant to last longer.Its a matter of giving yourself sometimes a break when you are in a relationship.It needs refreshing up and do not too absorb with your emotions.

I think most younger people celebrate month anniversaries because when your young, most relationship don't last very long and you like to celebrate them as months just in case they don't last for years and years. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and we only celebrate our year anniversaries now. When we first got together we celebrated our month anniversaries but after a year we didn't.

Have most of the relationships nowadays so shallow that no one could really reach the 'year'? no not at all..but dating has changed as time has gone on...ppls priorities are different, ppl are overworked and underpaid which brings on high stress which of course puts a damper on relationships..I dont think that ppl are more shallow when it comes to relationships necessarily..just more realisitc I guess..nothing wrong with that.... as for goin by months rather than yrs I imagine its the younger crowd that does that..I can't think of anyone in my age range or older that would say "24 months" over "2yrs"..

In todays world some couples look at how many months they have been together rather than years. Months sounds more precise than years like 21 months for example. That would be between a year and a half to two years. Some young people have shallow relationships. They stay together for up for twelve months. I know a man that a friend described as a 'himbo' she meant a bimbo. He dates ladies for 8 months, 2 months, 6 months, 4 months and so on. One of his ex-girlfriends was devastated when he split up with her. He swiftly moved on to the next girlfriend and I doubt they will date for more than 6 months.

Hmmm... I guess at an early stage of a blossoming relationship, it's nice to celebrate it by counting the months. It really doesn't have to be that grand. I don't think it's shallow though. I guess it really depends on how both of you get to celebrate it. And so if it works well for both of you -- then grand celebrations would be counting the years... :)

yeah its truly fact that these days geneeration has been completely changed...Relations just lasts only some few months..and there after with a little dispute, they forget each other...Only those who has very gud understanding between them can stay together lifelong !!!