We can't please everyone but how can you live with people you don't like?

very often it does happen that one has to spend time with the ones we don't like. in such cases i prefer not interfering in each others work and i also make it amply evident that i do not like any interference in my work. the fact that this time will also pass makes it easier to cope with. i also keep evaluating my options to get away from such people.

Well since it's at work, you should try not to think anything you don't like in him, and try to be professional and worked together. Outside the office you can just ignore him as long it's not something related with you.

I just dont deal with ppl I despise...they are a none entity in my life..I refuse to waste time dealing with them even in the workplace...LOL and believe me there wre PLENTY of ppl I worked with that I just couldnt stand...If I HAD to deal with them on a work level for whatever reason I would try to keep it civil because after all it was work ya know...otherwise though I just didnt pay any mind to them..

Some people are just good in making our life in the work place miserable. Not only that they are hard to please but they are extremely difficult to establish a good inter-personal relationship with. At first, I will try to win their friendship but after doing my best and it just won't work, I will give up and leave him to his own devices. I would maybe just smile when I meet them but that's all to it. cheers!

This reminds me when i was still working in a company where a lot of "not so nice people" and people whom i really don't like to hang with becuase of their attitude problems. Well, what i usually did before was just ignore them and i keep going on. If they bothers me, i gave them a "do i know you" look. It is not nice doing like this kind but it just pissed me off that i am forced to do it.

Well, this is speaking through experience oasis_9. I also have an officemate whom i dont like. We had a very big conflict before and he got angry with me. It was all his fault. I tried talking to him but he ignores me. So why i exert the same effort again? I would not die if he wont talk to me. So i just ignore him as if he does not exist. Good thing, he resigned.

I've worked with and been around plenty of people that I don't care for. I don't feel any need to let them know how I feel. I don't go out of my way to be friends with these people but they are people and I can still be respectful and civil to them. As for your friend in the office, I would say that you should be polite...say hi to him in passing etc. You don't have to be friends with him at all but since you work in the same place, I think you'd feel better if you were at least on speaking terms.

hi oasis I just did my work and ignored the jerkess, as she kept insisting we were talking about her.well if she had just done her work instead of loafing and making us do it for her, we would not have said a word. but it did get old having to pick up her work that she had shirked.She hung around the clerks instead of paging the books she was assigned then she would come to me and whine, could you get those , I have a lesson from the clerk. well shucks am I your slave? She was the only one to get fired finally when the branch manager saw she was not doing her share of the shelving because she was watching the clerks and doing nothing.Then there was the assistant manager from hell that I hated so much that I just avoided her. I quit and just retired when it got so bad I could no longer stand her.

To me, I prentend to be kind to cooperate the despise people in work. Because if your personal feeling is involved in the work, it is not very professional. But when it refers to the private relationship, I will not too close to the despised one.

Hello, The earth is spacious enough to get away , fro troublesome people such as this co worker you have mentioned, even at the work place, just give him respect and you demand your respect from him, you do not have to talk with him, laugh at any of his jokes, or anything of the sort, basically keep it very professional, and keep in your mind that you are their to do a job , not to accumulate friends, I hope this helps. Happy My Lotting!

if in the office, I have someone which I not like, usually I will ignore her/ him and will continue to keep distance with him/ her. I do not want have a problem with people I do not like

We really can't everyone no matter how hard you try. But in your case that you are seeing the person you don't like in your office which is very hard to deal with. One thing you can do is try to consider him as an officemate to deal with though you don't like him for you not to get stressed. Then just ignore him if he do something that makes you more stubborn.

just dont talk to him or her for a few days or weeks. Sooner or later your feelings towards that person or the situation between the two of you will be resolve unconsciously. Have you heard of the saying time heals all wound. so i think that applies to that kind of situation. You cant make a conclusion that the two of you will be forever enemies.. right?

As everyone know that everybody in this world just love himself & he can do anything for their self respect. But I think that we can live a happy life with those whom we don't like. The only thing we have to do is to change our attitude towards that person. Every person wants love & respect from others. So if we pay some respect to those whom we don't like, then their thinking & attitudes among us will be changed & they behave friendly with us.

good question....i can't figure it out....