Ideas to feed a relationship

When we reach certain age in life and when the children have left the nest, life seems to have lost its glitters. This is the time to inject some creativity to the life we share with our partners. Life is at its best now when there is no longer little ones to care and all we can do is fill our life by going back to basic thing like gardening or doing some small time businesses.

Hello. First off I would like to say your thoughtfulness is very touching. I can understand your dilemma and it's very admirable of you to try and think up things to do with your wife. Not everything takes money. Maybe you can be the sweetheart, and cook her a romantic dinner at home, with candle light and soft music playing in the background. Things from the heart mean so much more to us women, then all the fancy stuff. Or at least for me it does.

Well, I think personally this is really an issue that many of us are facing concerning Finances where to go and do things that are not too expensive and to take the time to get out with your spouse and enjoy as well. I know that I have the same problem at times and a lot of it could be $$ for sure. But maybe what you could do is try and plan 2 nights out special a month, and plan what you are wanting to do, and then plan around that. It might be easier to save up a little more for special things ahead for sure.

Well, this won't help much in the winter, but picnics in a pretty spot is not expensive, even if its just to a near by park I once went to a park and saw a couple bring along a game of Trivial Pursuit they played a game and left.

The possibilities are endless! My husband and & I have three small children, work hard and don't usually have much money left over to enjoy. However, we take advantage of any free things in our area. We enjoy going for long walks, renting free movies from the public library, having a picnic at the beach, etc. There is also a website that you can get very cheap gift certificates for restaurants (www.restaurant.com). Good luck!

A holiday dilemma we all face after being in a relationship for a period of time is the "that special gift" syndrome. Depending on the circumstances you may even be wondering, what do the words "that special gift" mean? One of the guys brought up that his wife kept saying things about building a better relationship. What confused him was that she said they had a good marriage, but wanted a better relationship. The point is both men and women lose sight of what to feed a relationship. It is a normal part of the evolution process. Therefore, here are my suggestions of ten gift ideas for building a better relationship for both men and women.

my hubby and i manage to go out almost every week and yes we are both busy with our jobs and our kids (12 and 16) but we do manage to get out. we usually go when both our daughters have an activity (mostly every friday night). hubby and i will do errands, go out for a coffee or go look through a large book store. i love spending time alone with my hubby.

It does not take much money to go out and have some fun if both people enjoy being with each other and do not have unreasonable expectations, but the first thing you need to do is communicate directly with your wife and tell her what you have told us, that you want to spend some "quality" time with her to be together just you and her and then instead of asking "What do you want to do?" provide some options for her to choose from a list and if she doesn't like those let her know it is ok to add her own. Being the wife, here is the list I would like to see: 1. Sit or walk by a lake or river (or the ocean if it is nearby) 2. Picnic in the park (the two of you make lunch together or buy an inexpensive one on the way) 3. Visit an art gallery or museum. 4. Visit a zoo or botanical garden. When my husband went to Europe he learned something valuable that he taught me and we enjoyed it over the years. He learned that if you are in an unknown locality, you can always get an enjoyable and affordable lunch or dinner at a Chinese restaurant. So for the first 20 years or so of our marriage when we could ill-afford to eat out, when we did go out that is where we went. Of course it was convenient that we both love Chinese food! But I taught him something too! I showed him how to pack a delicious lunch to take along and have a picnic in the park. That was fun and quality time together and did not cost a thing.

The most important thing is to take the time to be together and wives love it when you have put some thought into it and suggest something you know they will like. It doesn't have to cost anything, maybe just a short walk or window shopping, which means no money is spend just fun wishes and dreams. We use to take turns reading to each other before TV was available or playing board games or cards, this was fun and we talked to each other about the day or the news, whatever interested us. It doesn't have to be a big deal just a thoughtful one, help with the household chores since you both work it often a welcome time spent together. Blessings

It is so lovely to see a man concerned with making more quality time with his wife! I can relate to the lack of money situation because my husband and I are in the same boat. We do small things that give us a little pleasure and don’t cost much. We allow ourselves a meal out somewhere once a fortnight and a lot of the time all we can afford is MacDonald’s or KFC and that is fine, we buy it take away and go and sit by the river or the park and eat it. Sometimes we go to MacDonald’s and buy a chocolate sundae and take a drive to the beach and have it. Picnics are a great and cheap day out. You don’t have to spend a lot to have quality time together.

Hello Aefrosa. It seems that being together alone is your main objective, as well as doing something away from the house that is inexpensive. Some of the types of things that I enjoy are: Just a walk together, maybe to enjoy a sunset Going to a park or a free museum Perhaps if dinner is out of reach of the budget, breakfast out together or going to an ice-cream parlor is more feasible Going to a spot to watch planes land or ships come into shore or a drive in the country-side An afternoon "matinee" is often much less expensive than an evening movie to view Walking around a town to window shop or people watch is also fun You could even go to the library and read a newspaper or magazine together and just discuss it Go to a shop to talk together and enjoy each other's company while drinking a cup of tea or coffee Easy and free romantic gestures: leave small notes that say "I love you" here and there around the house--on her pillow or tucked into a book she's reading for instance....give her a backrub or rub her tired feet....rent a free movie from the library and watch it together after the kids go to bed...offer to trade a chore with her that she hates but that you don't mind doing...copy a love poem from a book and give it to her or leave it somewhere as a surprise...fix her a special meal at home Hope some of these ideas are helpful and within your reach. Karen

there are so many ways you can feed your relationship, i do believe that getting more romantic in terms of buying even cheap and not too extravagant gifts is one way to step up the relationship , aide that you need to send her romantic text messages and make sure you are concerned about her general welfare

Hi there you really are a nice guy wanting to make your wife feel special, if you do not have much money, there are other things you can do. If you can cook, you can have a candle light dinner at home or take her to see wonderful sites around town, go to the beach, a picnic is also a nice idea. You can also seek her opinion indirectly and im sure with the help of my lotter, you will get a lot more ideas

I don't have much to add because I think everyone has already given a lot of good ideas. As someone else said, I love your thoughtfulness in trying to find things to make your wife happy and have some time together. I would be touched for my husband to put thought into something like that, it wouldn't need to be anything big or expensive, just the fact that he wants to go for a walk alone with me, giving me his attention, means a lot. A lot of people have said about walking or picnics - my husband and I are on a tight budget right now, as I was laid off from my job, but we often go for walks - we both enjoy photography so we take our cameras with us and take some photos. We quite often take the train into the city (for us that is either Providence or Boston, we are in America) which is a cheap fare from our home, and we will walk in the public gardens or just around town, we have found many cheap places to eat by looking in lesser known parts! We have found out a local art gallery is open free one Saturday a month, and a local theater company which works with some of the city's drama students charges only $5 for some student plays. I know you are in a different location but I am sure there are similar things you can do, to find things you may not have even known were available. I hope you and your wife enjoy all of these ideas!