Why some people come at "FINISHING END"
@maygodblessu44 (7336)
India
October 26, 2009 8:41am CST
Hello everyone here Ji,
On many fronts, my hubby wants to do all work of his own, may be taht he wants ton earn credit. In case I approach him to complete un-finished task, he will rebuke me with some comments, "To complete any job, one has start from teh begining". He may be right upto certain extent. But why he does not allow me to complete the task. Specially, when we are in Kitchen, he will dress up all vegetables, wash them and make them ready for cooking, no sooner, I extend my help for cooking, he will tell me to start fresh. has anyone else come across such a thing. While working on Lap-Top, if I just want to see my mail, he will leave it to me , but he will properly shut-down and then only I can re-start. Please share your experiences in the family as well as with others. Thanks in advance.
May god bless You nand have a great time.
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
27 Oct 09
Hello my friend Lakota12 Ji,
I always feel boring when I work alone. At least, I want to give company to my hubby all the time. At the same time, he intends taht every single person at home as well as out side should bear individual responsibilities , so that 'individual's' work can be judged. Last moment entering may spoil the show and who should be blamed can be un-pleasin to both.
May God bless You and have a great time.
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
31 Oct 09
Well I dont know if I agree entirely with your husband .I would see it if there was a persons who wanted was always coming at the end of a job and then wanted to bask in the glory even more that the person who did most of the work .However if I wasnt dealing with such a person then I wouldnt have a problem with someone with genuine intentions helping out .I hope you are not angry with me psychoanalysing your husband but it may be how he grew up and never getting credit for his work because of"some johny come lately " who was always sucking up his glory .I hope he will grow out of it and learn to share in his tasks.
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
31 Oct 09
Hello my friend ronnyb Ji,
My hubby is not at all after glory or even for taht purpose praise, but he never likes anyone helping, till he asked for. He is purely of the view, if a particular job can be done by himself alone, why not other memebrs also try, so taht other people in the family can do some other jobs and tehreby man power could be saved a lot in addition to increase in new heights in achieving any goal. If at all , some one is interested, onen should do combined right from the begining and not come at the last moment. May God help you and have great time.
@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
28 Oct 09
Hello my friend riyasam Ji,
Wow! I appriciate your logic. But in all cases, my hubby wants everyone 's own work from raw till end, he does not want anyone to take overa t finishing ends and get credit. May God bless You and have a great time.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
26 Oct 09
Respect the wishes and privacy of the other partner. Though married, we are individual being and we should not intrude our partners territories. I share your hubby characteristics as I am very much a private and independent person. My hubby and I do not mingle in our individual private lives.
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
27 Oct 09
Hello my friend zandi458 Ji,
So nice of your expressions and marking clear line between 'two individuals'. In fact, my hubby is of the view, one should start the job and complete of oneself. If single person can do the same job, why to extend help and waste otehr's time. Outcome from each job will fetch appriciation or displaesure from others. last moment entering is not good.
May God bless You and have a great time.
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
29 Oct 09
hi may
and here i am doing my husbands homework, sitting with him typing his assignment, coming up with his project presentation ..
if his drinking water is almost finishing .. he is so smart to ask me to bring some so that i can take the last one and start preparing the next
He uses the computer to play solitair and asks me to feed him his meal.
But some other time - he is totally different, he will wash and clean the house and do the laundry ... at his own free will which is like twice a year or so
cheers
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
29 Oct 09
Hello my friend Ji,
You are Lucky Lady to be loved by your hubby very much. Your helping hand will surely bring laurrels in your life.
May God bless You and have a great time.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
26 Oct 09
In the field of studying mental and emotional matters, it is known that some people have a compulsive/obsessive behavorial thing going on in their minds. This might be what drives your husband to be as he is, that everything must be done just so, that all must be repeated until perfect and beyond.
Peace and joy to you, my friend.
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
27 Oct 09
Hello my friend PeacefulWmn9 Ji,
I think you have touched his character scientifically. It may hold true as well. He call himself as perfect disciplanarian. Even he wants to dispose off paper in dust-bin, he never throws them, instead he offers them to dust bin. I hope, you have observed his nature. So he wants everything to go by discipline.
May God bless You and have a great time.
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@charles_li (27)
• China
26 Oct 09
Make a mark, and waiting for the below comments...:)
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
27 Oct 09
Hello my dear friend charles_li ,
So nice of you for your participation in my discussion. Sure I will do it.
May God bless You and have a great time.
