Movies and love scenes

My husband is currently in a musical, simply kissing his co-star twice a night. It makes me litterally physically ill, thinking about all of the bonding during rehearsals and backstage with her and fellow castmembers. It's like I have to compete with her, constantly trying to look and act my best during the few hours he's with me (usually the worst and ugliest parts of the day!) All I have is his word that there's no need to compete or feel uneasy... Which quite frankly isn't enough (though that may be my own shortcoming). Anyway, it's a sucky situation that I wouldn't wish on anyone.

I think for some it's not an issue because they know it isn't real. Anyone who knows what it takes to get a scene shot in a film wouldn't be worried about that. Others may choose not to watch, but either way it gives you something to think about especially when there is lots of skin involved.

I guess the risk could actually occur with any career? Affairs happen in all walks of life, whether it's captured on film or whether it's just working side by side in a fast food restaurant. In respect to love scenes, well I can think straight away of Titanic between Jack and Rose, but I guess neither were married, but I am sure their partners know what they take on board when they date a famous person. I think a lot of famous people prefer to marry one of their own because they both know the situation whereas if one was famous and the other wasn't then the situation could be a lot different and certainly harder for the non famous person. I think it would depend on the person's self esteem and security as to whether the old green eyed monster would play a part. But even famous people have the problem of their partners going off with someone, that's life, sadly! It's not only love stories that are glamorized and spread across the newspapers, it's affairs and they tend to be bigger attention grabbers.

Hi Karen! Your thoughts are appreciable and I used to also ponder over on the same lines. I think if someone is in film industry, these are the perils and hazards of working in movie. However, I have realized that Hero and Heroines going for steamy hot love scene is nothing but part of their profession. What we finally see on the screen is not exactly true. What I understand is that they take numerous takes and re-takes to complete a scene and repeating the same lines and emotions for a particular scene become mechanical for them. I think spouses of actors and actresses become used to this phenomenon and they don’t take it otherwise. If I happen to marry a woman whose profession demands enacting such scenes, either I’ll not marry her at all or if I do, I’ll keep myself mentally prepared for such perils and eventualities. Have a nice day! deepak

I would have a really hard time if my spouse had a job like that. I can't believe that either one would be comfortable seeing their spouse making out w/someone else, job or no job.

I think people are being really hard on actors! The implication is that actors are generally the sort of people who will have loose morals anyway, which is not true. Yes, there are affairs, there are people who meet on set, etc (as could happen in any workplace) but the reason you hear about it more is that if there is an affair with a secretary in an office, its hardly going to be in the papers, is it? Whereas if its people who are known to the public it will be. Most actors are concerned about their lines, their performance, the truth of the character, etc. About doing their job properly. Kissing someone else as part of a role has NOTHING to do with faithfulness or not, it was in the script and required by the director. Read throughs are not terribly romantic, usually everyone is nervous! Love scenes have a bunch of people watching, lines to remember while you're doing it, and you may not even LIKE the person. You see the perfect love scene on film - on set it is not like that. Actors are just people. For the most part, they love their families, and want normal relationships, just like everyone else. And when everyone talks about the 'lifestyle ' - theres really not that many who actually have, or want, the Hollywood megafamous type lifestyle anyway. They are a fairly small proportion of working actors.

i dont know, i have never been in such a situation. i think it would definately be difficult though. i would feel that it is part of their job, that they are helping to bring in a household income and that its not them kissing (etc) a co-worker, its their character kissing another character. at the same time, they are physical with someone else. i dont think that i would be able to handle it but like i said, ive never been there.

I believe that sort of feelings is exactly why Pat Boone wouldn't do certain things when he had an acting role. Respect for his wife's feelings. I don't think I would like it either...

Job or not, I would not be able to stand it. I suppose people who get into relationships with actors know to expect situations like that. They probably prep themselves for the experience. It's definitely not for me though. It's a good thing I didn't marry an actor. Not that one even tried to date me, lol.

Hi karen, well full stop I wouldn't want to be married to a film star who lead a celebratory life in the first place. It just wouldn't appeal to me. The ones who might be fun to live with, such as Rock Hudson or David Hyde Pierce, are both gay anyway so I'd have not the slightest reason to be jealous of their love scence with other women. I'm not the jealous type but really just wouldn't fancy being part of that lifesytle. As for them actually falling for their co-stars it's no different to real life where co-workers fall for each other, it's just that they have the cameras on them at the time.

Hi there i would not feel comfortable having my spouse in a love scene epecially a steamy one in fact i myself would not feel comfortable if i were an actress. Like you said it brings up feelings of jealousy and i would fell threathened. I would not like it at all

lol ...this made me laugh, its a bit close to home. I trained as an actor, but am not working now, and when I was,I did more theater where frankly I didn't get much action on stage in terms of love scenes....lol. But I was in a relationship with an actor previously, who did on occasion have to do a love scene. I did not deal with the idea of this very well, as I thought, as some of you have said, not so much about the specific scene, but about the fact that they were playing these characters and being on set sometimes for 14 hour days together. What got me over that was realizing that the poor man was basically terrified every time he did a scene like that - basically getting your clothes off and having a director telling you where to put what and when, while a load of crew watch....very romantic, it is! And if the director said 'just go for it' it was even worse. He said he always thought, what if I do something and everyone else thinks its not normal??! So, I guess it depends on the person but on the whole its not how it looks on screen!

may be the person being involved in these steamy scenes might enjoy the temporary feeling nd they often back it up saying the role demanded it(a gud excuse).it is always really hard to share ur loved ones with other ppl.they might find it really hard to digest when they come accross this r while watching on the big screen.bcoz of this we normally find ppl from film industry getting married as they work in da same industry each of them has an excuse(role demanded).ha ha ha.

i would like to share my points on it:i can't stand this way,i think it seems to fake.And the spouse will be hurt,i think an actor should play the best qualities of real and beaty life.I have no way to accept such a spouse,i have respect for the lives of ordinary people.

Karen, it is not easy to cope with such things in real life. When you love some one deeply you will get that possessive nature automatically.I will not advice my children to marry such people.

i can not stand it and i could feel sad.i donot like that.i'd like to live a simple life with the one who know me totally and it is enough.have a good day

it will hurt me seeing my spouse making love scenes even though it's just a job. if my husband really loves me and respect my feelings, he should reject those kind of scenes.

Quite honestly, it would drive me insane. The actor and actress spend so much time on the movie set, get into character and I assume sometimes it may be hard to draw a line. Me? I would be on set 24/7 with a beady eye because no matter what we all have a little green-eyed monster in us. However, there are those who are faithful to their spouses for all their lives - like Patrick Swayze and Lisa Niemi. But on the other scale - there's Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. Whom, I might add, is notorious for dating her co-stars. So if my husband was an actor about to star in a movie with Angelina Jolie I would kick and scream for him not to take the job - lol!

My husband is currently performing in a musical, simply kissing his co-star twice each night. It makes me literally physically ill, thinking about all his "bonding time" with her and fellow cast members during rehearsals and backstage during performances. It's like I have to compete with her, trying to look and act my best for the few hours he's mine (always at the worst and ugliest parts of the day!). All I have is his word, which should be enough, I guess. But it's really not. It's a sucky situation.