Part of what? The solutions or the problems?
By sharone74
@sharone74 (4837)
United States
October 27, 2009 7:43am CST
My mother used to always tell me when I was younger that if you are not part of the solution that you must be a part of the problem. I sometimes do not see things as light and darkly as she does. I do however believe that if you are not taking steps towards solutions in your life that you will continue to live in your problems and that as long as you are living in, lamenting, and counting your problems and sorrows that you will continue to live in, lament, and see only your problems rather than taking the steps to a solution. Finally that if you try to live always in finding, creating, or being a problem solver and you live in the process of problem solving that you don't have problems, what you have are solutions in progress and you are the same a solution in progress.
What positive adages do you try to live your life by?
A penny saved...
An ounce of cure...
Apple a day...?
What things do you tell yourself when your striving with your head down and on the grind to ease and/or minimize your mental, emotional, or spiritual burdens?
3 responses
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
27 Oct 09
what your mom is talking about is pretty much for me is ok we have issues with my daughter and daughter in law. no one esle will speak up to my daughter in law or son saying your wife is wrong and so is he how they treat my daughter they sit there and let it happen.
so another either you can help to make things better or sit there and let the wrong things happen.
i live my life like this: live well and love better. you live your life well by doing the right things always. but you love other better
@sharone74 (4837)
• United States
4 Nov 09
Most women have issues with their adult daughters and/or daughters in law ordinarily it has more to do with personality conflicts and with us holding them up to the yardstick of our generations, and the only girls that tend to make the grade with Mom are the ones who either agree with everything you say or who are just good solid, salt-of-the-earth type people with whom you can find no fault.
Sometimes however these situations can be made bearable at the least by agreeing to disagree with the other person. Often the difference within a simple difference of perspective.
Whatever the source of the conflict is, it may help to realize that the only person that you have the power to change is you. Accept the differences and allow them to just be them. If confronting their falacies is who you are though then they may just have to accept who you are and the fact that your criticism is based in a love of your family and the desire to see that they end up with the best of everything.
@annihilus (2181)
• Italy
29 Oct 09
Sharone, it seems you like to have a very complicated life!
Shortly I think that the best is:
saving a penny buying only an apple (for you, not for me! I need to eat more!)and for the time remaining after work, food (very important, you know I'm italian!), sleep, 5 minutes of TV, 2 hour of listening good music.....
for the time remaing... making LOVE!
oops... forgot travels... but you can do all of these travelling!
have a nice time!
@Caiyann (1)
• China
29 Oct 09
In My viwe
Hi sharone74,i have some same feeling with you on your topic ,especially nowadays we have so much problems in life and study and work ,which we can not sovle sometimes by ourselves while we are aslo trapped in .However i think we need not solve all of the problems that trouble us ,though,for we would not get a happy life if we always think of how to solve them ,what we need sometime is to relax ourselves .
After classes ,i will chose to do some running or other exercises with my classmates or my friends .which is a good way to forget some problems for me ,or i will chose to do some part-time job which i have got so that i can aslo change more optimisitic in life .
And my positive adages EVERY DOG HAS ITS DAY!and i can minimize my mental,emotinal,or spiritual burderns by eating some good ,calling my best friends who are talktive enough and can give me some wonderful advise ,aslo make me happy on the phones.if more i will climb up the top of the hill in our school ,we can see some beautiful scenery and the whole school ,at the same time i can feel the happiness living and studying in this place and the world ,and are there stil anything to make feel bad in life?
At last ,i am Caiyann ,your new friend .haha !i am so happy to see your message on my friends request when i am online .THANK YOU !
