Secrets: What is you opinion on secret relationship?
By oasis_9
@oasis_9 (831)
Philippines
October 27, 2009 9:07am CST
Do you agree or not?
There's some company which strictly don't allow couples to be hired or on the same work group. And there's a very reasonable reason for it also. But what if you can't avoid it? So you have to result for a secret relationship...
You can't choose who to love what if your not allowed to be with that person? Its like a modern Romeo and Juliet without the tragic ending to the story. the only disadvantage is your actions have to be limited in public.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
I never really agreed with secret relationships because for me it only shows that there's no solid commitment on the person who is insisting that it be kept secret.
I mean, I would not feel confident at all because the person I am with is afraid of the consequences if we were caught. There are situations where two people of the same rank and company are not allowed to be together, but it should not stop people from commitments.
I could remember my aunt and my uncle. They belonged in such an organization where they were not allowed to have a relationship with their co-workers. Instead of keeping it secret, my aunt opted to quit her job and look for another since my uncle had a higher pay and a longer term there.
Similarly, I know of a couple who worked in the same organization, that time the girl was new to the company while the guy was there for a longer period. The ruling of the company was that there should be only one of the couple who'd become a regular employee while the other will always be contractual. She opted the option of never going full-time (regular) while he stayed with his job.
If there's a friction about jobs and relationships, it's actually a test on whether there's truly a partnership between the couple. They should decide who should leave or step down.
Remember that you can never hide a fire because smoke will always be present. How long would you keep the relationship secret? Should they be caught, then both would lose their jobs anyhow. So why not disclose the relationship and be allowed to look for another opportunity instead?