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I'm figuring since that's your second marriage gone bad, it may have something to do with how you meet these women in the first place. Anyhow, all things are done and we only have regrets, but I'm betting you told her about what happened in the first marriage, and still she did what hurt you most. Same here, I don't get it. Was there any complaints as to how your lives were different and such? Perhaps there's a symptom you could point out for that disease (cheating) to have happened. Anyhow, it's best to lay off relationship for a while I guess and start just living your life as a single man again. Oh by the way, do you have kids?

cheating is painful for anyone, however, may be useful, to be material reflections why she did it. Sometimes, at first she did not want to do things that hurt her partner, but because it did not get a response or attention as she expected, she did and did again that it becomes embedded in her mind to leave her partner. Remember, love easily attainable but difficult to sustain. Maintaining love to continue to blossom at heart, need special attention

Both men and women cheat when what they really should be doing is trying to work at what is wrong within their relationship. You are right when you say that you have to live & learn. The thing is that you need to be careful not to fall into the trap of thinking that ALL women or even MOST fall into that category. Don't go into your other relationships fearing this even tho it could happen. You can't base all women on one or two poor relationships or even more than that. I guess what I'm saying is that you don't want to be overly suspicious of someone that really would never do such a thing. I have been with men that have been skrewed over in the past and the constant grilling and suspicion over nothing is a real real turn off for me. In fact it was kind of insulting because I would NEVER cheat and NEVER have no matter how horrible a relationship was.

It looks like if you did not have bad luck you would have no luck at all. You need to figure out why you are attracting these kind of women and then marrying them. That kind of behavior can be financially devastating as well as emotionally devastating. I certainly hope you do some work on yourself before you venture into marriage number three, I say this with concern not judgment for your own sake.

I saw your response that you are going into the army. That actually sounds like the perfect solution to your situation. If this is the second time the same thing has happened, either you are looking for that type of girl subconsciously and not realizing it, or like Ladee (first respondent) said, it may be how you meet these women. Most of the women I know that the guys cheat on, pick the guys up in clubs and then date for awhile and get married. They woman is looking for a "bad boy" figure that will miraculously change when they marry him. It doesn't happen. Maybe you are looking for a bad girl and you thought you would be enough for her. It doesn't happen! I think it is good that you can admit you made a mistake and are going to try single life again. I think under the circumstances that is a wonderful idea for you.

well this will serve you as a lesson. know the girl first before marrying her so that next time you will find a good one.

I'm single, yet engaged to be married by next year hopefully. I believe that marriage relationship is something to be taken seriously. It is not a mere girfriend-boyfriend relationship that when you are unhappy anymore, you have to break-up and find another. It is a relationship where you take each other as husband and wife with mutual love, respect, understanding, fidelity and responsibility. It is so because each has to observe that he/she has an obligation and responsibility to each and the family. However, a lasting relationship must depend on your relationship before entering marriage. If your relationship prior to marriage is something that is not firm, there is possible easy separation eventually. Friendships which is established and created prior to marriage will naturally have a lasting one because of the foundation. Perhaps, what happened to your marriage is not something founded with respect, fidelity and understanding. You might have loved each other, but not that much to consider it as prepared to be called as one. As married couple, both of you has an obligation to each other and not as you do your own and her own. There has been differences that were not accepted, there are flaws that were not taken. Because of those difference and flaws, both of you don't want to compromise. Cheating by one is of course hurting, but a separation is not always the answer to resolve it. Why? Because the fact that you know once or twice you were cheated, you avoided facing the problem by dumping or ditching your wife or your ex. Sometimes, it is necessary that we confront ourselves with the reality and ask ourselves, "Why is he/she cheating?"..Do not always consider yourself as the offended person because maybe something is also wrong with you. Work it out first before deciding to separate because if that is always your diversion, that you are cheated, it will always happen again and again. People deserve second chances. Think and talk it out all the problems, but never fight because it might not resolve the problem. Be willing to listen what's her side, then talk - that is more civil and more peaceful with good results. If after exhausting all the amicable and peaceful remedies and there is no compromise between you and your wife, then that is the time you decide to separate. Again, face the problem my dear and don't avoid it. Hope I was of helped to you. By the way, the advise is based on my experience. If you want to know the story, just send me a private message.

I am very sorry to hear that your ex was cheating on you but well done for being rid of her. I too had an ex that cheated on me and it was heartbreaking as I had just nursed his father who was dying of a brain tumour when the news broke. I would definitely say that you are better off without her and also I am sure someone wonderful will turn up when you least expect it. I now have a lovely, wonderful fiance who treats me like a princess and who I trust completely. I would recommend that you don't give up on love and also don't distrust every woman you meet because we are not all the same.

That really sucks man I am sorry to hear that your marriage did not work,and it seems like you have bad luck with women,even though we all told you she was not different then your brothers wife,and some people believe in a double standard they can do what they want but you can not do the same thing,and life does suck,all you can do is stand back up ,wipe the dust off,and keep going on,and I hope for your sake you have learned your lesson,and if your brother could learn his then everyone would be happy,you should mylot more,and Happy Posting.

Don't regret it just learn from it. Think of everything that was wrong with your relationship and take the next one way slow. If you see those things again than focus on changing them. Most problems in relationship come from lack of communication. Be open and honest right from the start with every woman you meet. Don't get too serious right away and you nor her will have a reason to cheat. Keep it open enough to where if you are not happy you can tell each other and move on, wasting no more time. Looks like you got something quite precious there to worry about rather than worry about the past. Focus on your future. Find yourself and what makes you happy before you even think of trying to find another serious relationship. Best of luck..........my hopes are with you. I am a great listening ear, strong shoulder, open-mind and opened heart, if you ever want to talk or vent or anything!

If this is your second failed marriage I would take a hard look at how you meet women and try really hard to change that pattern. Not all women cheat, there are many who cherish a special relationship with one person. I would really look for women who do not fit your normal area of attractiveness. You may just be stuck in a bad thinking pattern. Good luck to you!

I don't know what you did but I always believe in the saying that "it takes two to tango" and break ups always leaves a bad taste in the mouth but as they say " love is sweeter the second time around.." so just go on with you life and move on. The earlier you can forgive her the easier it is for you to move on. Good luck and be happy. Cheers!

Well sometimes it might be blessing in disguise. Although this 2nd marriage nv worked out too, but i believe u will find a better girl than her. Since you had experience in 2 broken marriage, i do hope you will not take ur revenage on other good girls u come across.

Hi shawn, It's sad to know that sometimes in life you just have to learn the hard way. I bet you're quite frustrated about what happened. I've seen a lot of couples, even my parents, got separated because of cheating. The only thing is, my dad was the one who cheated on my mom. I also don't get it. We hate being cheated on but there are just some people who can't help but bluff their partners. "Do not do unto others what you do not want others to do unto you", ring a bell? Perhaps, we're just starting to forget the REAL meaning of that golden rule. I'm glad to know you have a lot of upcoming plans. I am also hoping things will turn out great for you soon. Stay positive! Life is such an unending learning process. Enjoy your life as a single man.;)

Both men and women do that. But not all.. It is so sad to hear stories like that, who wants to be left behind? and who wanted to be cheated by their loved one. I think, everyone changes...and it happens for a reason. But it always had something to do with the choices and decision we made. After all life goes on, at least you learn a lot with these experiences which may help you to be a better and stronger person.