Tell Me What You Think

:D that guy is fortunate. There is a phrase for this kind of situation, Buy One Free One. :P I'd react as usual as during this day and time, this is nothing shocking anymore. If they are very much in love, why not? Some even worst, they wait until they have delivered before holding the ceremony...

Dear vingyan, Pity the bride, the bridegroom was not sensitive enough. To be very frank, if I am the bride, I am 'speechless'! Later, demand for compensation, this will be the 'weapon' in any future arguments However, just laugh at it as if it is a sense of humour. Words spoken cannot be taken back. Just look forward for a blessed and happy married! It is just the beginning, still a long journey to go!

if i were the bride, i would have slapped him on the spot & laughed. if further questions were being asked by the emcee, i would say that we like to joke around that way & ask the emcee (& audience) don't be too jealous about our chemistry.

considering my personality i'd take it as something to laugh about since i know many reasons why people bluff (if the guy is really bluffing): tension, stress, lack of confidence in speaking on a microphone even if it is his blood relatives and friends listening. though i also do believe that others would scoff at this remark of the groom. well, to each his own. as long as the wedding is not shotgun then if i were the bride that stupid remark is no big deal. after all it is just a stupid remark.

vingyan.. If I am the bride, I will surely give this groom a memorable day in his life.. First, I will walk to him (closer) and using all my life strength the give him a tight slap on his face! This is to tell him, if he don't know how to keep some face to himself, then throw it to the people. Second, I will walk out of the dining place.. indeed at this time, I think I have regret to sign the papers, however it will still have to get some pride to let a man know that he is adult enough to say what he should and what he shouldn't. Third, even if I am pregnant, I will still do the above, as I believe a man who don't know how to give you the basic respect do not deserve a kind treatment. and I will tell him, "he has a choice"

well that is terrible for the groom to say that, as a bride I would have to share equal respect and be cautious on the next move, see that is not the way to start your married life and is the first sign of disaster. I would have pull him to the side and question what makes him say that to me in front of all people? Well, I would have to have my wedding anuled the very next day cause I would have told him straight how humiliated I feel for his behavior and disappointed to learn he/ or she did not love me. I don't think that is funny and should never be room to break one's heart with such cold words, out of love or humor.

After my facial expression stopped cringing and my facial color went from bright red back to normal, I would laugh it off. If this was a man I really wanted to marry and thought he said this for grins, I would get over it. If I thought he was serious, again I would go through with the ceremony but the speech I'd give him later he might remember for a lifetime..lol

If I was the bride I would just make some joking comment back. I'm sure he wasn't serious, probably just nervous to be in front of so many people. You say silly things when you get nervous like that.

I'm sure he meant it in a joking way. That's how I would of taken it if it were me anyway. Another thought: I do know a man whose wife proposed to him at a ballgame in front of hundreds and hundreds of people. Pretty gutsy I think. Upon returning, I asked him what his answer was and he said "Of course I said Yes...What choice did I have?" Thinking maybe he felt pressured I asked him if he was going to go forward with it. He said " Of course I am. I have no choice in this at all because I am hopelessly in love with this woman.

He probably didn't. We just don't know how or why. Life does hand out these things to people. The intricacies of it are hardly ever known and I'm sure the bride, who knows, felt like a piece of crap. Maybe the emcee knew and just wanted to embarrass somebody. How de we know the inns and outs of the human situation ?

I would be upset if my husband reacted that way. My husband and I wrote our own vows and said how we felt about each other. I think the husband should hae said something like I love my wife, she is my best friend and the love of my life. I would have said I love my husband, he is my best friend and the love of my life. I am looking forward to spending the rest of my life with you.

Well maybe he meant that she was a dominant female...lol

Hi vingyan, I cant believe that here is such a wedding like that. Maybe it was arranged marriage. If that happens to me i will say, "i have no choice either" and walk away.

'and I thought it was me I had no choice...wait...we're still on time to give everything up!' sure this should give the 300 people something to laugh at.

Hmmm…mixed reactions, I guess. Firstly, it will have to do with how much I know the person I’m marrying. If the person always has such weird sense of humour and there are quite a few people out there who know about it, then I guess it’ll be OK to accept. Otherwise, I’ll obviously seethe inside but keep mum keeping in mind the occasion. I’d be too embarrassed to make a public statement but later on, I’ll definitely let my husband know that he insulted me. But of course, there can be another twist to the statement…’I have no choice’…can very well mean that I have no say over my heart!

I think this is the most embarrassing answer and a stupid one too. If I am the bride, I will act my part and pretend to faint in front of the guests. See what his reaction is. I remembered when Prince Charles was asked by the media about his love for Lady Di and he answered 'what ever love means?' The shocking response has indeed indicated the marriage was doomed from the start.

I would have said "You all must excuse my new husband. Since Daddy put the shotgun up alongside his head, he just hasn't been in his right mind."

vingyan06 I think either she married the wrong man or he just put his foot in his mouth out of nerves. If I were the bride I would be angry and hurt that he would say this on our wedding day. so infront of three hundred people I would ask my groom to please be more specific about I have no choice,that would put him on the spot and force him to be hopefully more of a gentleman than he had been previously.

I think the best way to not start an awkward situation would be for the bride to make a smiliar joke so she can laugh it off and everyone can be put at ease. Theres no need for an awkward moment anywhere in front of family and friends, especially at your own wedding! If hes laughing then its not meant to be hurtful, even when it may seem that way.