Is this acceptable parential behavior?

The moms mother beat her with a curling iron whenever she would do something wrong.

That's horrible.. MY best friend is a child of an abusive parent. Her mom used to make her wake up at 4 in the morning (even on school days) to get her(the mother's) clothes ready for work. She would hit her all the time.. after a while mom didn't even try to hide it. my friend would say she got a fat lip from falling down stairs or something and a little while later her Mom would come out and say that she had did that to her "because.... " and whatever her reasoning was at the time. My friend has kids of her own now and has always expressed to me how she is so afraid she would turn into her mother. She's scarred for life emotionally and has never had any success in her life. Psychological abuse is still abuse.

learned behaviors are passed down through generations. Sometimes so many have gone by that its hard to say why the person does this. I'm afraid of becoming my mother too.

I don't know. But have heard that this is actually normal.

it's not normal at all,it may be in their household but not in anyone elses

The daughters a cutter

That is so sad. I hope she is getting some support from outside people. Perhaps a call to child protective services is in order. I would be very concerned if I knew of this going on and would make the call. She is already in a lot of pain and needs help from others to get her life straight. Best of luck to you!

The fatheris not a bad guy. He just never stands up to the mother. He wouldn't abuse his kids. But he also doesn't believe the mother would ever do this. The mother was badly beaten by her mother (the grandmother) as she was growing up. So I would assume that it would explain the behavior.

Okay, then it's his duty to protect his child. Whatever the 'mother' is doing is certainly sick. And that woman needs some kinds of psychological help.Good for the child that her father is there to protect her from these types of nasty abuses. Feel bad for her.

My daughter is 2, I help her bathe sometimes, but I plan to stop when she is 4. My son however is 13 and he is special needs so I sometimes have to be with him when he does things like change his clothes or attempt to bathe himself. I'm usually in there just to make sure he doesn't drown. My 2nd oldest is 11 and I took her bra shopping I helped her with trying them on, but if she doesn't want me in there I don't stay in.

He dnt chose to see it, the mom had her called in to show the dad that she hit puberty.

The father is whipped he wont stand up to her.

Mothers are the protectors so essentially they are in charge of taking care of the childs major needs. Bathing and dressing with the child is not unusual. However for a father, that is not his place, he is the hunter gatherer. That was the answer for the first part People assume woman would not do such a thing, we all hear about men so we assume only men would.