Do you understand communication?

@jndlponti (2402)
Philippines
October 28, 2009 12:50am CST
We are here in myLot to communicate with others. Build relationship/good relationship with others. But I was just confused, why is it that most members here are just busy posting discussion without even replying to the one who responded on their discussion. It feels like you are talking to no one at all since you haven't receive any response from your comment. How about you? are you just like them? Or are you replying the one who responded your discussion? don't you know that by responding back you are also been paid?If you will not reply your discussion will just be for nothing, you will not earn anything from it. What is the use of a good discussion then? I'll wait for your response.
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12 responses
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
28 Oct 09
Hi dear! You are very right that there are many mylotters who do not post their comments on the responses received. When one does not make comments, the process of communication does not get completed and it looks as a half cooked post. As far as I am concerned, I make it a point to post comments on responses received in response to my own discussions. I believe in ‘communicating’ with my friends and love to interact with them so that I could get closer to them.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
That is good. That is what called communication. The way that you were able to exchange each others opinion or thought on a thing. I hope that more myLotters will realized this thing. That to be able to keep the spirit of communication one should not just leave the other hanging on the air. And you are right as if the discussion is just half cook. Not being completed. Without set a period.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
28 Oct 09
Affective communication helps us understand each other better.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
that is true... In that way we get to understand each other better.
• United States
28 Oct 09
i think most people are here just for the money and not building relation ships or friends
• United States
29 Oct 09
I don't think you can earn any money on here unless you do build relationships and friends. The entire point of myLot, as I see it, is to learn about each other and converse as much as possible. If you are not responding to people I think they will eventually stop responding to your discussions. Just my two cents
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
3 Nov 09
I think I got your point there as that people are not building relationship. They are really responding to other discussions, make their own discussion as well but they were not able to make a connection with their respondents. it is because they miss the point that they have to wait on the responses and reply to the responses. Like any normal conversation. That is where a relationship is built.
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
29 Oct 09
Dear friend, I hope it all depends upon how well one could grasp the contents posted here. Moreover I could see that some contents may be making confusing if not read carefully. May it depends how well come could well project their throughs. I do agree with you at times it is entirely depends how well one project their thoughts while communicating. I do respond as I do feel I could contribute something.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
Ok then. But my point here is replying to those who responded on your discussion. So you mean you just pick some that you are going to reply back and forget the rest? Well that is your way. But their are really some whom I have notice that they have a lot of started discussion but did not bother to reply back to those who responded.
• Malaysia
29 Oct 09
Hi! This matter has been brought up many times before, but in different approach. Whatever it is, I always agree that a discussion means an interaction between two people or more. So, it means that when one posting a discussion, for sure he or she will expect a response right, otherwise why would he or she start the conversation and what will he or she gain?? As for me, I will respond to every discussion I create unless I have missed the notifications or the comments are just out of topics or vague, but still I will sometimes ask the respondent to elaborate so that I can respond back to what he or she is trying to deliver. However, some people are just wasting their time and potential to increase their earnings by responding back to the comments because they know better about the topics and have more ideas to reply. So, yes, if they don't reply, the discussions will serve no purpose to him or her, but those who have commented still earn. So, I get used to it already. If they don't respond, it's their loss because I can still earn.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
Yes that is true... But it is same as communicating with someone who is not anymore waiting for your response since they did not bother anymore to visit maybe their started discussion. Anyway thak you for that comment. And you are right, we earn by that still though they won't reply back.
@xiangd (63)
• China
2 Nov 09
That's right,I agree with you,communication is very important in mylot,it's a place just for you to talk to others in your opinion.If you like to reply to other guy's response,you will find many people who have the same view to you ,so you can find many friends. I'm just a fresh man in mylot,my response in mylot is more less than one hundred ,I hear that in this situation I can't post topic,so I must wait now,but if someone response my reply to his topic,I will very happy to reply back to him.I'm very glad to make friend with everyone in mylot.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
3 Nov 09
That is good. Thank you that you are able to join on this discussion... Hope you would learn a lot more here on myLot. Since everyone here are very willing to help you. You could just ask anything from us about the site and we would be very willing to respond back to you. Also if you start a discussion never forget to reply back. By that way you could earn from your started discussion.
@irene3184 (898)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
Honestly, I am here in mylot because I find it more attractive to earn a bit but I was amaze because I gain a lot of friends here and learn something.Maybe there are some mylotters can't prioritize to reply to discussions and response posted because they are eager to earn more.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
That is true. They are more focus of earning. But don't they know that by replying to those who responded on your discussion is also a way of earning extra cents? That is the purpose of starting a discussion also, by having a lot of respondents means having a lot of chance to earn more.
@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
28 Oct 09
When people are busy thinking about themselves they don't think about others. Its that simple. So, if you are only interested in what you do then that's all you will do. I only respond to discussions because I find that the interest factor just keeps me going.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
3 Nov 09
That is also right. It is inj short of saying that it is just being too selfish... They just mind what they wanted to do. I do not care about the others. So why are they bothering still to make a discussion. I do not understand that.
• Indonesia
28 Oct 09
Maybe tose people just think that creating duscussion will make them money. They just ficus on maximizing their earning without really engaging the community. It's a shame for those people who use myLot solely for that purpose..
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
Yah... It makes their discussion a waste. Since having it is a way of started a good topic to communicate with others. That was suppose to be the purpose for it which I think they do not understand at all. I notice that for I have been responding on their discussions and could not even recieve their responses back. They have been here for a long time since they already have more than thousands of activity. But did not bother to check on their started topics. I guess you are right. They focus more in making money than building a community.
• United Kingdom
28 Oct 09
I think there was another discussion relating to this topic and it was quite interesting! There are a lot of My Lotters that create discussions and then when they start receiving some responses they cannot be bothered to reply, I think that this relates to pure laziness on their part! I for one respond to every single person that comments on my discussions, I think that this is appropriate. There are some discussions that get so many responses, more than you can handle but there's still nothing wrong with responding to every single person, it will take that much longer that's all! Andrew
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
3 Nov 09
Yah... The plentiful the respondents is the better. Though this might consume a lot of time replying to each one of them but it is still worth it. since by this you are able to connect with the other members. You have started a discussion then you did not bother to listen and respond to them back of what have you discussed it will be as good as nothing. As if they are responding to no one. I guess you are right, some are just too lazy to do that. Anyway thank you for your response.
• United States
29 Oct 09
In my own discussions I will always respond back to people who respond - I appreciate them noticing my discussion and talking the time to comment, and I agree that it makes for a better community feel and makes mylot more fun if we truly have DISCUSSIONS rather than just posting our opinion and running! But having said that, there are often a lot of posts saying 'some people are only here to make money' as if that is a bad thing. I am here to make a little extra money and I wouldn't post half as much if I wasn't. I would browse and answer the discussions that interest me, but as I want to put up my earnings I try to formulate a quality response to almost anything! I am unemployed, and by spending a couple of hours on here a night I have earned enough to pay one of my outgoing expenses next month - a small one, but in my position it makes a big difference. I think some people don't realize though that even if you are here to get paid you get paid MORE for quality and for not just posting one line answers, and for responding back to people. So its in their interests to participate fully.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
Yes we are of the same issue here. I am also unemployed, a full time mom. But I find a way to earn extra money that is why I am here. But despite that I try to see to it that on the discussions I made I make a good conversation. This is also a way we get to find friends here. Yes you are right. Most members here thought that just by posting they earn an amount. They do not realized that posting a quality one (not just by it's quantity) makes a good deal of amount. By the way thank you for responding on this discussion and glad that you are one of those members that is keeping the spirit of communication alive.
• United States
29 Oct 09
I love seeing where the side discussions end up in my own discussions. Without replying there is not chance to see those and I think it is the best part of myLot. I love when people go back and forth and are eventually completely off the topic because they just keep communicating. I look forward to hearing back from people. It is where you gain insight into yourself and insight into others.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
Yes. It is something that we both gain. A two way process that both sides get benefited. And by that we are able to learn more things. This is why myLot keeps on growing.
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
I look forward to the responses to my discussions. But it seems that I cant get people to be interested in the discussions I've started so far the longest discussion I've had only has 22 responses so far, all of which I have responded. Cheers!
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
That is already a good one. For me The discussion I have that had lots of responses was just one. It got 37 responses and it took me almost a day to reply back their comments. Coz you still need to read it so you know what will be your response on that. Glad that you are one of those membrs who are really replying back.