Is marriage the answer?

I think all situations are different but I do not believe that you should marry just because you are pregnant. Sometimes this can make the situation worse. I think if they are in love and want to get married then they should but it should not be seen as an automatic solution.

Every situation is different and I don't think pregnancy alone should be the driving force to marriage. I was 17 when I became pregnant in highschool and my parents were disappointed but supportive and I did not marry the man. I would have been very miserable had I done so. Shortly after having my child I met a terrific person and married him a few years later and made a family, including the child I had prior to meeting him. We are all happy and I have never asked for any help.

In my opinion, earth2jacq, both of them are over the age of twenty-one, and should be capable of making such a decision for themselves. It is the parent's job to give advice when it is asked for, but not to issue ultimatums.

I think me and your sister has a same situation, I am also pregnant and my mother forced me to marry my boyfriend because she was afarid that my neighboors would say something from us. I refused because i said that i want to get married at the right time, and I believe that marrying a person because she is pregnant is just an obligation.

Marriage isn't the only career for a woman.

marriage is not the answer...coz i've proven i'm wrong when i got into marriage at such a very young age. i've just lost my virginity, i am not even pregnant at that time. and i'd just graduated from college and starting to find a job. but when my mother learned of what happened to me. she asked my boyfriend to marry me. at that time we are very much in love..so he married me in civil rites then in church because we are catholic. my life suddenly changed, i had 2 child to take care...i stopped pursuing my career. but because life is hard and the future of our children is at stake..my husband migrated to U.S.with plans of taking us there in the future. but years passed he found another woman and marry her. NOw, that my 2 children migrated also with him..i've even learned that he's telling stories to my children that he was just forced then to marry me...that he was just very young back then so he just followed the olds. its so hurting...until now.. i'm married but i was left alone.

Years ago, once a girl gets pregnant, the parents would ask the man to marry their daughter right away. It will be a social disgrace once the news spread around. This will not be a problem if the couple love each other. Other than that, their lives will just be miserable especially in our country where there is no divorce. Some parents nowadays are changing their attitudes about this, first and foremost is their daughter's future and they would think twice before they ask the man to marry their daughter. She might be into a lot of trouble after marrying the man. What is important is the support they give to the daughter and some even are willing to take care of their grandchild and advise the daughter against marrying and get on with her life. A mistake done can not be corrected by doing another mistake. No, marriage is not the only answer.

Yes it was this way for me to.... You are right but it seems at young and tender ages ,we tend to still let mom and dad rule our lives. Will they also live with one of the 2 parties mentioned? Can he afford to support her and child? Do they even have the foggiest idea what they are getting into. When you are mature enough to know all this on your own without mom and dad. Supporting or helping is the day you are ready to commit to another fully.And we wonder why the divorce rate and child abuse is so high.Not that this means them,My husband and I had just graduated high school when my daughter was born.We did it on our own ! 25 years and counting.But lots of trying times that's for sure.

It depends on the situation.Although nowadays lovers won't get married until the woman is pregnant.Some are just force though even they were not yet ready because they want to take the responsibility standing as a father.Some are really in love with each other and been planning for it until the woman gets pregnant.But pregnant is not definitely the answer if one is doubt about the relationship or lets they will just get married because of the pregnancy.I was one of that and i tell you my marriage never work out.I just stayed because of our child but theres no harmony in the relationship.It ended up him beating me up infornt of our child.Until our child decided for me.She told me to leave her father which gave me strength to do so.

If you were to ask me...i think marriage is not the answer. They are not young at all,she's 27 and the guy is 22,thu your sister is a 5 years older than the guy,they are not minors anymore. If they really wanted to get married,they will not wait till she gets impregnated before doing so.It just happen that,she get's pregnant before they planned of getting married,so,i guess,they are not yet prepared to get married. Let's wait till the baby comes out,then,let them decide.

I think it is not a good move to get married because your sister was being pregnant by her boyfriend. They will done a mistakes and it will be another mistakes again if they get married just because pregnant. But it's a matter of choice, if they really ready to settle down and love each other then no need for them to think twice.

i think marriage is not the answer..they might face lots problems in the future tha make them in divorce.....i was there before i married to a guy that i thought i love him but not but i was forced 2 marry him coz of my mom decision coz i get pregnant from him and what happen were into breakup...

Let the couple decide. Their both old enough to be able to decide what's good for them. If they want to get married it's because they want to and not because they are forced to. They have to realize that there's no divorce in the country and annulment is an expensive process. They have to think long term, a wrong choice will end up in all of them living life in misery and regret. Cheers!

Marrying someone just because the woman is pregnant, in my opinion , is to marry for the wrong reasons. I know someone that got pregnant and the advice that both grandmothers gave was not to marry out of pregnancy but to marry only for love. I know this other person that got married because she was pregnant and not out of love and she admitted that it was the worst mistake of her life. Neither one of them was in love with the other. Perhaps during the 1800s or something, it would have been noble to marry a woman because she was pregnant, but I feel that that thinking is outdated in this time and age.

Every situation is different. However, I don't really think that pregnancy is the only reason why they should get married. If they were already planning the wedding when they found out about the pregnancy, then by all means, they should get married. However, if this wasn't the case, if they weren't really planning on staying together, then I don't think that they should stay together for the sake of the child. I think that it could only make things worse. This is why I think that it all depends on the situation and that pregnancy shouldn't be the only reason for marriage. It definitely can be one of the reasons though.

Getting pregnant is not the reason to have marriage. Any wrong doing could never be corrected with another wrong thing. It would be added to the complexity of the situation. It is still their choice if they got to marry. Yet it won't give any credence if the couple will be forced to get married just because of pregnancy.If they are not prepared yet for a married life they wont function well for their coming child. The child will be the one to suffer the consequences of their choices.

For me if they love each other very well then it's the time for married so that there child not became illegitimate child.

I also believe that when there's a baby on the way already, it is the time tthat the couple stand up for wht they have done. It's not as if you can do eveything you want and not face the consequences. I may sound like an oldie here but I really believe that it's time they should be together and face what happened. The baby deserves a family so they should not just be together but also work hard to make a happy and healthy family. They shouldnt have entered in that situation if they weren't ready to do so. I really believe that not getting married when there's a baby already is a sign of selfishness and cruelty. It's selfishness because the couple only thinks about themselves instead of thinking about the baby. They only want to be together during "happy/fun" times but when responsibility is in front of them, they suddenly dont want to be together. It's not the baby's fault to be born so why let him/her suffer a life without a family. I think the situation is a call to people to start acting as adults and not think of themselves for once.. This is my opinion and maybe this is because I am a bit idealistic..

Yes, you're right earth2 jacq. But parents still has this value on their reputation. They would not let their name be tarnished and they would fear what other people will say.Thats it. Let youre sister be the one to tell the oldies. She might change their minds.

I definitely think they are old enough to decide by themselves, however people, especially relatives, always want to have a say on these matters. Personally I don't think marriage is the answer, honestly, what does it change? It was different several years ago when if a couple wasn't married the kids would not get their father's surname and as well have no family rights but now? Now that laws have changed, legally it doesn't change a thing if they are married. Emotionally, the kids won't see the difference, dad is always dad and mom is always mom. If marriage is just to bind him with her to not have to go through pregnancy and parenting alone...I think she'd be better off without him! Try and be with someone hat doesn't want to be with you, for the *rest of your life*...sounds heavy. Definitely, I don't think pregnancy should be the driving force, not nowadays.