Could sibling rivalry be true?

Because we all have a false notion that brothers and sisters should be perpetually in love with each other we do not want to believe this thing about siblings rivalry and as you have rightly pointed out Cain and Abel the first siblings are clear examples that envy if any is worst amongst siblings. We as siblings have experienced it all.

I had two older brothers and we certainly had sibling rivalry going on in my house. My brothers seemed to always be fighting for my family's attention and for me it was easy. I was the only girl and got away with a lot because of that and because I am the youngest. I think birth order plays a large role in the rivalry at home.

Almost true, but we don't want to admit it. Sibling rivalry can't be helped because no two person are alike. There will come a stage in your sibling lives that rivalry will be very obvious. But when all of you grow up, you get to outgrow these rivalry issue. Some even become the best of friends. My say about this is that, ignore the rivalry. Always remember that whatever issues you have with your siblings, at the end of the day you will always be his or her brother/sister. You and them will end up still helping each other. Is it not blood is thicker than water?

Hello friend, I think a rivalry between siblings is common,but i also believed it can be prevented. If,siblings had a very close relationship,and treat each one as friends...rivalry won't be created in between their relationship. As an eldest of four,i always give my siblings equal treatment,and it doesn't mean that,as an eldest,i always took the opportunity to be at the highest rank..or,i don't see myself as always in the right decision. I always seek my siblings opinion and listen to them. In this manner,i teach them not to treat each other as superior than the other,and we are not into any rivalry,but,helping each other to achieve each goal and dreams in life.

I feel you are talking about me, i have never done something wrong with my brother, ( God is my witness) In fact i always help him run his business, but he always contradict my advises and do the other way around, By the way i am the eldest and more experienced when it comes doing our Family business. There was a time that he responded to me so very disrespectful, i felt like crying coz i never thought my younger brother would ever said that to me. The way we were raised, we all independently strive our way in providing support for our own family, yes, he could be jealous from where i stand right now, but i believe it is not Cain and Abel's fault but would it be logical to blame Adam as their father? As to how they were taught and brought up in this world.

Yes Ms. eileen, sibling rivalry is true. Good example is our family. We are seven 5 girls and 2 boys, but my parents' favorite is my eldest brother. Eversince we are kids he receives special favors from them like he had more allowance. More expensive shoes and clothes. When he got married, my parents gave him a capital for a business they could start from. My father shared a certain amount for building his house. My mother is always there to help his wife take care of their children. While with me and my other siblings, she does not do that. Up to now my parents shares with my brother's problems and do everything to help him. We feel hurt sometimes but we have accepted it already.

Of course its true…it may not go as far as Cain and Abel but its there in most sibling relations. We are all humans with all our evil traits and sharing every single thing is not something we all can accept all the time sportingly. My moms are eleven together and none of them see eye to eye…oh! They are a great bunch, if there ever was! Once they meet, they are like the perfect bunch of elderly siblings all talking and laughing and then suddenly somebody would make a remark and they would all jump into the can of worms of past incidents and then eat their way into it throughout the day LOL…its from these discussions that I have come to know of intense rivalry between them, of grudges and jealousies and supposed negligence and preferences of parents. It’s the same on my pa’s side, it’s the same between my hubby and his brother…I am a single child…sometimes I really feel the absence of a sibling and at other times, I’m glad that I am alone.

I have 3 sibling of my own and I'm only two years older than my other sister. I sometimes feel envious of her but its just like a passing thing. As we grow older we tend to learn more and not that we are close now she's my very best friend... Maybe their the factor of how your parents have brought you up. You see my i do admit that my sister is much smarter than i am and she often receives medal at school while i don't. I use to feel that i have to work harder and be better but our parents showed us that their love is equal amongst us. And the rivalry between us tend to fade as time passes...

my two kids are and been fighting but it's my son whos not trying to get along with my daughter because of his wife controls his every move and thoughts

I have 4 brothers and one sister and we get along most of the time their is never any major disagreements. My husband has 5 sisters, and one brother. and it seams that everyday their is some kind of drama going on, and they can never see eye to eye on anything.

I think it has a lot to do with how the kids are raised and treated. A lot of parents treat different kids differently - sometimes because of gender or age or sometimes just _because_. Where kids are constantly squabbling it is usually because their parents aren't giving them enough of the right attention. I've seen situations where kid pretty much have their noses rubbed in the fact that they aren't the favourite - or are even the least loved. I've also seen situations where the adults are attention seekers themselves and that makes for very anxious and wound up kids.

I’m well aware that sibling rivalry is, to a certain degree, inevitable and that it can even be healthy. But I’d like to believe that there’s something I can do to rewind this epic rivalry and get my children to be more supportive and kind to each other. I’d like them to know that if one of them does something fabulous, it doesn’t mean that the other is somehow failing. I’d like them to be able to admit that not only do they love each other, but that they like each other, too. Which by the sound of the uncontrollable giggling that from time to time comes from their room, I know is true. So if anyone has any ideas for reversing a trend of sibling rivalry, I’d love to hear them.

not alll siblings like that.. although they have a misunderstanding, the good sibling s must compromise, sit and talk..