How to recognize a marriage that wont last?
By ana3173
@ana3173 (420)
Philippines
October 28, 2009 9:01pm CST
lack of communication if over time your communication is deteriorated and you are no longer talk to your spouse about the issues close to your heart then something is wrong with your relationship. lack of affection physical affection is common, its normal, its not only about making love, but is also about a gentle touch on the shoulder as you walk past, a quick hug goodbye or a cuddle when you are feeling down. If you're missing these signs of physical affection your marriage could be in trouble, especially if this has been missing for a long time in your relationship. lack of quality time together,you may be busy taking care of your children, household chores or busy in your work but spending time with each other doesn't mean hugging with each other always as if living in each others pocket every minute, every hour. quality time is not just watching movies together, watching television together. going for a walk together, going out for a dinner with your children can be spending quality time with your spouse. how can you expect communication to happen if you don't spend time together, if haven't got one on one time together you're not investing anything in your relationship and you will be heading towards marital problems. another warning sign is SECRET, when one of you start to have secrets from each other things are not going well in your marriage. finance is one area where couple often have secrets. secrets could be about how you spend money, how you spend your time with other people and what you do during the day. every secrets you have from your spouse starts to head the relationship closer to a marital problems. BOREDOM with your partner, marriages begin to fail because you loose interest in each other. FINANCIAL ISSUES another common cause is money problems, when money is tight it can put a lot of stress on you and your partner which can start a lot of arguments. AN UNFAITHFUL SPOUSE, it can be very difficult to rebuild a relationship once your partner have been unfaithful. trust is a critical part of any relationship it can be very difficult to recover when it lost.
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8 responses
@xannebull (1793)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
you've mention all the factors that could end up a marriage, and yes you are right and i think the biggest factor is lack of communication, being open to what you feel towards your husband and talks about your differences with each other would help resolve any resentments between the two.
@marriedman111399 (1207)
• United States
29 Oct 09
Well unfortunately all of the things you talked about here is true with my marriage. We dont talk very much and if we do we just argue. She wont let me even give her a hug or a kiss on the lips. It has been over a year or more that we kissed let along do anything else. We never have alone time together for very long. Maybe for 5 or 10 minutes but thats it. I dont think that there is another guy but I dont know why we cant we husband and wife again. It just seems like we are just friends and not anything more. The reason I do not leave is because we have 3 kids. I am afraid of what might happen if I leave. I am not sure though what will happen. I dont want to loose my kids and not see them anymore. I am going to try and stick it out for as long as I can.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
29 Oct 09
good topic as counsel in a relationship, whether in marriage or romantic relationship
@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
In my own opinion, nobody can tell if a marriage will last because some relationship starts from a great beginning and ends up in nothing. Some started as a rock but then it grew stronger after a while. I believe that it is depends always in the partners if there relationship will last.
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
For me, there's no way you can tell or you can recognize that a marriage won't last otherwise people will not get into it in the first place. It really depends on the couple and how much effort they'll put in the make the relationship last. Marriage that ends in separation or divorce is caused by either one of the couple who for some reasons just no longer want the relationship to work, a lot will say that they've fallen apart... or the love was no longer there... has been tempted...and a lot more excuses but in the simplest term that person just want out.
@Catwife (54)
• China
29 Oct 09
Marriage is operated by two people!No matter how long together,no matter how the original two people a goood feeling!Should be good to run it because over time,families in all reasons!Make two people become more familiar with,so that did not have the passion in it!To regular communication,not to the other side has been known for years as a partner,the same should be like a new lover!
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
29 Oct 09
A marriage that has weak foundation will normally collapse at the slightest problem it encounters during the marriage. Both husband and wife need to work hard to make a marriage work and not to depend on the so called LOVE. The love portion will have its expiry date too. The signs you listed here are obviously an early alert that something is not right happening in the marriage. Extra care should be on the card to save the marriage from crumbling.
@valentinesdiner (1214)
• United States
29 Oct 09
Really it seems to stem from a lack of respect in either the other individual or in the relationship itself.
I have met many couples who face the problems you have listed, from boredom to financial pressures, but they have stayed in a loving relationship. If you have ethe best interests of your partner in mind and in heart, it will show and it will nurture the other person.
If the other person has the understanding that they are valued and that the relationship, despite miles apart or work or domestic pressures, is meaningful to each partner... the marriage has the real possibility of lasting.
In sickness and in health may sound corny, but it rings true. Two people may not be 'evenly yoked' as the Bible states, but if they are pulling in the same direction and stand close to shoulder to shoulder, they should be alright.
