Choosing the Lesser of Two Evils

..hi.. maybe you really need a break.. although that is the situation of your mother, maybe you can leave her for a day.. take a walk in the park or anywhere where you could relax.. then focus on the positive things in your life.. maybe your mother is expecting other thins from you and you not able to meet that expectation.. you are young and your mother is already old.. if you could, have more patience and understanding for her.. At this point of her life, what she needs most is love.. Don't focus on the negative things that are happening in your life.. look at the brighter side.. I know you are in a very difficult situation right now, however, I believe you can overcome that.. just don't lost you temper and always do what you think is right.. People may not appreciate what you do but what is important is, you love what you do and you enjoy doing it.. don't let other people ruin or worst end your life.. Your life depends on what you choose.. If you choose to be affected by other people's comments, then you will really be hard up.. As for your mother, talk to her nicely.. Maybe she is just depressed and cannot accept the fact that she is dying.. am sorry to tell this frankly but we have to accept the fact that cancer is one deadly disease.. Your mother won't live long and you only have a little time left to care and show your love to her.. You see, I lost my mother at a very young age and until now, I would always tell myself that If my mother didn't die, I could have let her feel that I loved her but she can no longer feel that.. So for you, please take care of your mother.. Keep calm and if you believe in God, you pray.. God can do impossible things and I have proven that for how many times already.. if He did those things to me, He could also do that for you if you believe and have faith in Him.. Happy mylotting..

I think there is no lesser evil. When you do something which is evil it is still evil. God only made good and evil.

I pity you, but I won't be. I know that each one of us has to pass through trials and I can say that your situation now is one of them. I do not want to speak religiouusly, yet I want to encourage you that there is someone to hold on to in this kind of very depressing and stressing moments. Never think that you have options choosing the lesser evil because whichever you choose, it is against your will and God's. You need some rest - body and mind. This is the best time to talk to God and tell Him your worries. Ask for strength in undergoing all of the pains. The courage to voice out what you think is right. I tell you my friend, God knows what you are in now and also knows your desires. He is just waiting for you to talk to Him. I was then a stoned hard heart, but softened when touched by God's never ending love. Take some moment to be alone and talk to God and tell Him your desires. Have faith in Him dear. I know and believe you will get over this dilemma. Never let evils use you.

I pity you, but I won't be. I know that each one of us has to pass through trials and I can say that your situation now is one of them. I do not want to speak religiouusly, yet I want to encourage you that there is someone to hold on to in this kind of very depressing and stressing moments. Never think that you have options choosing the lesser evil because whichever you choose, it is against your will and God's. You need some rest - body and mind. This is the best time to talk to God and tell Him your worries. Ask for strength in undergoing all of the pains. The courage to voice out what you think is right. I tell you my friend, God knows what you are in now and also knows your desires. He is just waiting for you to talk to Him. I was then a stoned hard heart, but softened when touched by God's never ending love. Take some moment to be alone and talk to God and tell Him your desires. Have faith in Him dear. I know and believe you will get over this dilemma. Never let evils use you.

The first thing that you need to do is to pray and you will see that God will help you. If you don't want to believe this then I really cannot help here but I know this kind of situation and God is the one to give you real help - which he does. Then you get some friends. It doesn't have to be many, just one or two that you can rant to or at least let out your frustrations to - in an acceptable way, of course. Try getting somebody to be at home with you while you're helping your mom and so you'll have company. Learn to love some TV shows you can distract yourself with. Cook food you like. It can go on and on. But pray first and do that every single day.

I think you shouldn't quit job and choose to have a housemaid to do the household chores. Your mother should have to consider because I am sure that you can still give time to take care of her or your mother after work.You should weight things and they must understand.You have your life and no one can intrude to your own choices in your life. Do things that makes you feel better but don't kill yourself.

anne25 penn you are stressed out, hire someone or beg, borrow or steal someone to care for your mom for a couple of days so you can do some of the things you have not had time to do.Can you afford to get a maid for her, or hire someone on a reasonable wage to come in for a few hours and relieve you so you can refresh yourself? Are you the only child if not get a round going so that each of you takes care of her for a certain amount of time. she is ill and so she is probably hard to live with. or get all the relatives together and hire a maid or a nurses aide with the money each of you contribute, the way you are going you may just walk out and leave her, and that is also not a good choice either but you need help, so get it.

Anne, stop it! Listen to yourself! I feel so sorry for you, I wish I could see you in person right now! Listen, you need to get order in your life, or you are going to blow up. You will regret that for the rest of your life. May I make a suggestion? If a maid would be a huge help, figure out how you can afford it - or your mother can. Then install the change. You need to get back to work; you need the interaction with peers as well as the money and the career. This is necessary to your sanity. It sounds like your mother will not like it, but explain to her that you need this help in order to effectively be helpful to her. Try getting somebody on your side before you make the change. If your relatives won't chime in on your behalf, try talking with her doctor, a hospice center, a social worker, or your priest. An outsider may actually be more helpful, because they will be able to objectively see both sides. They can also help you confront your mother. Your mother may also not realize what a burden she is putting on you. If she has always acted this way, it's time she learned some manners. If it is because of the illness, she may truthfully not be aware of the change in her attitude. An outside party will be able to help you here, especially if it is someone from hospice who has dealt with it before. Nurses who work in hospice continually put up with such rudeness, but they are not relatives. It doesn't hurt them like it hurts you. You may have to develop a pretty thick skin and ignore a lot. Don't let relatives tell you anything. If they say anything, smile sweetly and say, "I'm just not up to the challenge. How about you taking a day for me?" They will either put up or shut up, and if they put up they will learn the truth! Most of all, don't give up! Make sure you take care of yourself, or you may lose yourself. Get your rest, and find time to get away from the stress. Good luck to you, and God bless!

Well you need patience, patience, and more patience. Its just a matter of time before she leaves so you have to make the most of it. Just imagine that your taking care of her is not enough to compensate for the love that she showered you with from the time you were conceived up to this moment. If it's hard for you, it's even more harder for her. If you're not going to take care of her who would? just imagine that when she leaves it's going to be for good. Let this be an opportunity for you and your mother to be closer, so you'll have happy memories to share to your children. Cheers!

Hi anne: i'm sorry to read this negative message. Don't kill yourself, maybe you think there's no solution but that's not true. Try to talk be sincere and tell how you feel and that you can't take this anymore. You're not a slave and even if you know how you mom's feeling about this and what she need you have you're own dreams you want to make other things and this won't make you the worst daughter. I perceive that you just need some therapy, it's not an insult, it's just that you need a better self-esteem to make an assertive discussion about the things are hurting you.