Find Out Who Your Friends Are.

United States
October 29, 2009 1:15am CST
I know we all have friends throughout our lives,and some are better friends then others, and you never know who is truly your friend,and I am starting this discussion because of a friend or a guy who I thought was my friend,I met this guy in the sixth grade and we became friends and he lived like five minutes from my house,and we used to hang out a lot and people used to tell me he was a liar and nothing but trouble but I always defended him and said he is a good guy,and then a couple years ago I started to see who he truly was a liar and a user but then he said he changed so we started hanging out with him again,but it turned out it was a fake change and he was still the same person underneath I do not think people every actually change and I also had a no longer mutual friend of mine and my wives,he actually got us together,but then he ended up being a liar and he tried to break me and my wife up which was not cool,so we stopped talking to him too,and we have not talked to either one in years,and the song "Find Out Who Your Friends Are" by Tracy Lawrence comes to mind on this discussion,this is not a referral link http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3qPcmNdduVU so my questions are do you have any friends who turned out to not be friends?How did you find out?What happened?Do you still talk to them?Do you ever think about them?Please share with me your experiences but do not respond unless you are being serious,Happy Mylotting.
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@usemyname (640)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
I meet a lot of people like that. Me and my friends call them "friendly user". At first glance, you can't detect people like since they are so good with pretending. But, as you get to know them better, that's when their foul personality start to stench. I always try to avoid people like these since it would always end you being hurt or feeling used in the process if you continue interacting with these kind of people. Sometimes I wonder why they act the way they do, but since I have many problems of my own, I just forget about thinking about them and get on with my busy life.
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• United States
30 Oct 09
Yeah some people are good at pretending,and yeah it is better to avoid the creeps and the jerks,and yeah it is better to proceed with our lives and not worry about them,thanks for responding.
@minx267 (15527)
• Hartford, Connecticut
29 Oct 09
Well, your story reminds me of a friends of mine.. Now I say friend because she still is - after 20 years. However, when you mentioned liar.. I immediately thought of her.. because We became fast friends when she started working where I was back in the day (1987). I knew she looked familiar but I didn't know her. We went to the same high school, but did not run in the same circles she is a year younger than I am (almost to the day) -our birthdays are 2 days apart.. Maybe that is why we became so close. Anyway soon after she started working there we were like together every day for months. She was a lot of fun.. it only took me 6 months to realize that she was a liar. not maliciously, she just does it.. maybe we should say story teller, or creative about events (by stating them the way she wished they happened). lol I figured it out when we sent to see someone and she talked to them for maybe five minutes or more. Now I was about 50 feet away so I couldn't hear the conversation but I could see tat he wasn't doing much talking at all. So we leave, get in the car and she starts telling me a story as we drive. it goes back and forth I said, he said, I said..blah blah blah,, for over a half hour she is telling me this conversation.. finally I ask, "when did he say this?" she says just now when we stopped by.. UM- you have been telling me a halfo hour of conversation that supposedly took place in 5 minutes and I SAW him not even say more than 2 words to you.... (I never confronted her.) Unfortunately I have never believed anything she has to say about a subject unless I was their to witness it.. But all in all under all that she is mostly a generous helpful person, Yes she often does it because she has some gain in the outcome.. But not always. So yes even though most of my other friends don't like her much or don't trust her stories much either- we still put up with her.. If she was truly mean and deceitful I would have kicked her to the curb a long time ago though. And she really can be a lot of fun to hang out with.. :-) You have to take the good with the bad sometimes!
• United States
29 Oct 09
That is a very interesting story,and it sounds like your friend is quite a handful and I am glad that my story made you think of a good story,and I think we can learn from our mistakes with friends,even though you are one hundred percent right we do have to take the good with the bad sometimes,thanks for responding.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
29 Oct 09
I'm gonna tell you a story about a man named... Lol, okay so I'm not but that and a bad song popped into my head, so here we go. In any case, you know all about my friends or ex friends and how I feel / felt about them. It was hard to let them go, but they really weren't nice people afterall, and I wasn't about to go changing to try and please 'em... because I had already changed so much because of them... I wanted to be me, and now I am me... well kind of. I still dream about them, and yes I still wonder about them but to be honest it's more to see if they got married... I guess because it'd make me feel better to know if they had or hadn't, though it shouldn't matter, I hate that it does. I guess I can't let them go, though I want to. I love you.
• United States
29 Oct 09
It is hard to let some people go,and let some things go,and I am sure as more time goes by then they will become more of a memory and less of a thought,thanks for responding,I love you.