Did you take your husbands name when you got married?
By catarina_rg
@catarina_rg (580)
Portugal
October 29, 2009 4:50am CST
I'm very curious about this, and I'd really like to know your views.
Did you take your husbands name or are you planning to? Is this even a tradition in your country?
Do you think that this is old fashioned or wrong?
I'd love to know your thoughts.
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5 responses
@dlr297 (5409)
• United States
29 Oct 09
Yes i did take my husbands name when we got married. I do not believe that the custom is old fashioned. I just believe that it is a final commitment that we are becoming one.
It is each persons decision to make on how they feel about it and they should follow their heart as to what they wish to do.
@dlr297 (5409)
• United States
29 Oct 09
If i had put in a hyphen with my name and his it would not have been the same it would be MR Wolf, and Mrs Brown-wolf. I wanted my marriage to be complete, and taking his name made it that way for me......I made a commitment to spend my life with him, And it was a honor to take his name.
What name would you use for your children....Wolf, or Brown-Wolf. and then when they get married what is their names going to be Brown-Wolf-Gorden-White, Your child has a hyphened name and so does he. and on and on when does it stop....When someones name is so long that it is impossible to keep track of.
@catarina_rg (580)
• Portugal
29 Oct 09
May I ask why did you take his name instead of maybe having a fusion, like Mr. and Mrs. Brown-Wolf?
I'm just curious, I'm not trying to annoy or offend anyone, I just wonder why it is the way it is, the man keeps his name and the woman changes hers.
@xannebull (1793)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
It's a tradition here in our country, once the two got married, the husband's last name will be the last name of the woman after marriage. I change my name to my husband's surname right after our marriage so that as a family we could have the same name ...
@catarina_rg (580)
• Portugal
29 Oct 09
I think that the idea of a family having the same last name is very pretty, altough i don't quite understand why it's always the mans last name to prevale. As I've said, why don't the two merge, like Mr. Mrs Brown-Wolf?
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
29 Oct 09
No I didnt and had no intention of it actually. It would have been too complicated really and my kids couldnt have nor did they want to change their names..
do I think its old fashioned..yes but I dont think its wrong by any means..To each his own I say
@samson1967 (7414)
• India
29 Oct 09
It is natural that the females has to use their fathers name before wedding and husbands name after wedding to secure themselves in the society. This customs will not become outdated forever.
@catarina_rg (580)
• Portugal
29 Oct 09
Sorry but I can't agree with what you've just said, I know many many women who kept her single name because they didn't see any good reason to give it up, and there has never been any knid of problem at all, society realizes that it's the woman's choice.
@abhikmjmdr (779)
• India
29 Oct 09
It is a tradition in my country India to take ones husband's name after marriage. My wife did so but was under no compulsion from me to do it. She did it of her own volition.Frankly speaking I do not care one way or the other.What is in a name anyway if there linkage of hearts and minds? In fact my wife retained her maiden name in a number of bank accounts and other important places for quite some time. Then, for convenience's sake she changed them all to her converted title.
