What do you do when your Ex tries to get back in touch?

You are doing the right thing. Just delete him from our emails And let Brian know what is going on.Qustion, aren't you marrying Brian soon? I have lost track of time.

my goodnes,judging by the response,most seem to suggest that better course is to continue to ignore and let things take its course,to me that is the most fatal mistake one can do,dont mean to sound fatalistic,but if we read news about crimes of passion often enough ,can notice that a lot of these crimes happen because of precisely the type of advice being given here! There is NO CLOSURE,continuing to ignore is not a good idea at all,simply becoz the other side isnt sure ,keeping quiet may create the wrong impression,esp. to a hopeful person who may blind himself and in a kind of denial of rejection,he ll see what he wants to see, in this instance,doesnt seem like some freak stalker who may go to extremes but thats a question only you can answer,i think you should maybe tell Brian the situation and maybe ask him to send Mike an email on your behalf,dont be antagonizing,annoyed or angry and threatening ,just correspond and see what develops,like i said ,closure,your very silence may give him false hopes,you have to think of a way to convey to him a firm and final message ,its over,move on!

That happened to me also, its kinda weird at first but turned into something annoying. I think he wont stop until you speak to him. There's no harm in talking to him and make him understand that you are happy with you current partner and that there's no chance of you returning to him. I think he believes that you'd still return to him after all this years. At least that's what i deal with mean and thankfully he got the picture and stopped bothering me after I've made it clear that i am very happy with my present life...

i was just talking to my girlfriend of nearly 4 years about this yesterday, because the girl i dated before still tries to contact me every now and then, and i think she only does this to cause trouble. i either don't respond, or i make a quick, polite response. if she was friendly with my current girlfriend, i certainly wouldn't mind, however those two are not friendly towards each other. so i would recommend separating all ties with the person as best as you can!

That sounds really frustrating! If he is not getting the hint, I would email him or message him back and say that you are doing very well and are happy and that you wish him all the best. Then I'd block his emails and facebook requests (there's an option to block a person's friend requests on facebook), so you won't even see if he responded. That should alleviate the issue of him friending you, but if he escalates and starts calling or "running into" you, you might want to get a restraining order. I'd be very concerned if an ex started harassing me after 9 years! On the other hand, he could just be super annoying. I had two classmates from high school who kept sending me friend requests on facebook, no matter how many times I declined them. One of them was sending requests to mutual friends (we weren't even friends with him in high school - all three of us had to look him up in the yearbook just to figure out how we knew him!), so we knew it wasn't anything personal. He sent me over seven requests, all of which I ignored, until I finally blocked him. The other classmate was actually a friend of mine in high school, but I haven't talked to her in over nine years. I initially accepted her request, but she had so many updates that I wound up unfriending her (she is a stay at home mom who spends ALL DAY on facebook). Then she started sending me friend requests every day, all of which I ignored, until finally I had to block her too.

if my partner try to touch with me again i have no problem. i would like to touch with her coz i love her.

He says he just wants to see how I'm doing and talk. I ignore his emails and delete his friends requests but he keeps sending them. What should I do?Should I email him and tell him to leave me alone? I would, the next time he emails you, let him know that you hope he is doing well BUT you really would prefer that he leave you be and stop contacting you becuase you are happily involved with Brian to this day and have no interest in communication with him (the ex)..IF however he continues to pester I would SERIOUSLY consider gettin the law involved..its stalking straight up yaknow. OMG you and Brian have been together for 9 yrs?! AWESOME!!

i'd put blocks on your email and social networks and continue to ignore him. sometimes you have to do it even if it seems harsh or they won't quit.

I just recently wrote a similar discussion. I find it odd that after so many years and ex pops back into the picture. I think you should just tesll him that you are happy in your current relationship and wish him well but don't think it would be a good idea to pursue a friendship. It seems it could only cause trouble between you and mike eventually and who needs that ?

well..if you dont like the dude.. that is it.. tell him you cant accept him.. if he cant understand avoid him.. it is mean to avoid someone...but this time you cnat help can u.? so good luck with avoiding him...hopefully he will find another girl and be settled..

hi there, i think it would never happened to me. my ex betrayed me in our relation and it was very hard for me to get through those days, and he finally said that he feel ashamed upon me. and about this discussion, only two aspect, as you still love him, you can be get together again. but if you do not love him or you think it would be embarassed if you get together again, then do not get back.

Depends on who the ex-boyfriend is and how deep my feelings were for him. If I really loved him and I think the relationship could work, I would consider reevaluating the relationship. If there was something serious that caused the break-up in the first place, I would even consider getting back together.

I have experienced that before, but since I was already committed and I don't want to make my present relationship complicated, I told my ex that I'm not going back anymore. He got the picture and finally decided to stop. In your case, it has been 9 years. Don't you think Mike has already moved on from what happened and just wanted to really see how you are? I am like that sometimes to my ex, especially when I DON'T have feelings for them anymore. I don't think there's anything wrong of keeping in touch with the who was once a part of your life. Not unless Mike is bothering you in a way that he did years ago. Why not try and give him a chance? A simply hello won't hurt. But if ever Mike started to annoy you again, I guess that's the time to block him out.

I guess there is nothing wrong with that. It is your freedom after all. i know you surely don't want to hurt him but well the truth really does hurts so either way you have to tell him. Don't ignore him because he might turn desperate and do ridiculous things. Instead of running away, confront him my dear. It will hurt but its the right thing.

My ex and I are still friends up to now after a year of break up. I told him to limit times of keeping in touch already because I have a new boyfriend and I don't want him to suspect that I am flirting with my ex. Honestly, thinking about his ex girlfriend flirting with him hurts me so much so why should I have to make him feel what I feel about his ex? I should be fair with him.

Yes, I've experienced it before. The same story as what you did. When my husband courted me I broke up with my Mr.x because my husband was my long time crush and I been waiting for him for so long to love me back. And the time came that he fall in love with me I never let the chance to pass that if I'd do I know I will regret it for my whole life. Mr.x cried but he accept it. Then after a year he contacted me through my cellphone and told me that he saw me in a mall but I did not reply. He went to my place and it almost bring trouble between him and my husband. Another day pass he keep on sending text messages that he want me back and he is willing to fight for me and some of my friends told me that he keep on asking all about me. So what I did is I've changed my # so he can't contact me anymore and I ask my friends not to give my new contact # and gladly it works.

If the emails are that annoying put him on your block list or spam list. Them even if he sends them you won't see them. First though I would answer back once. Say thanks for wanting to see how I am but our relationship ended a long time ago and I feel no need to start it up again in any shape or form. Have a very nice life and please do not contact me again. Of coarse put it in your own words or use mine, no biggy. Just be polite but very firm, then block everything and ignore him. Some people need the actually telling to go away they do not get hints.

Hi Tee! I have been through something similar.. What I did is tell your ex, that you just dont want to talk with him.. It might be harsh but that is the only way that men understand things! After nine years, it makes no sense to catch up and talk especially of you are a very happy gal now! E-mail him, and tell him thanks for wanting to talk but you prefer for things to stay as they were! Well Good luck! Wish you the best!

I have experience that also before. It was really not comfortable. Knowing that if ever you talk to him somebody would be hurt. The name of my ex was Jude. After 4 years he try to keep in touch with me again, which I already have a happy life with my new BF James...That time was really tormenting. It is really hard to avoid Jude since he was doing a lot of effort, because he said that he wanted to ask for my hand in marriage which was really surprising. James and I talk to Jude personally and told him we wanted a peaceful life and it would be better if he stops bothering us. James is now my husband by God's grace...