Coping with stress in parenting
By sylviamak
@sylviamak (60)
Singapore
October 29, 2009 11:12pm CST
There is a lot of ups and dowm in our parenting and daily life. How do you cope when you are stressed up with parenting? How do you take care of yourself as parents?
I hope to hear from your view. We learn from one another.
Sylvia
3 responses
@raleyfamily (132)
• United States
30 Oct 09
I've been a mom for thirty three years. I have ten children, seven are biological, three are adopted from the foster care system. I've also cared for fifty foster children over my adult lifetime. I am a homeschooling, stay at home mommy. My children range in age from thirty three to two years old. Four have left my nest for marriage or college.
Anything is stressfull, whether you work, go to school, or stay home with your children. I think I have a lot less stress than my husband does. What I have learned over the years is to make homemaking and parenting an art, rather thsn something you are just "coping with". Learn some new homemaking skills, spend some time thinking and studying about child rearing. Read your Bible, there's where all the wisdom is!
When I get overly stressed, it's usually because I am not doing my job right, and rather than making sure the children are behaving, I am being lazy. So I have to get up and get things under control again. I don't resort to thinking I need time out with my friends, although when that happens, it's usually really nice!
I have a blog where I try and share some things I have learned. It helps me to write about it!
raleyfamilysfarm.blogspot.com
@raleyfamily (132)
• United States
31 Oct 09
Try this whenever you are stressed:
Pray, "God you tell us in your word that children are a blessing and a reward from you. Right now I am feeling stressed and having trouble seeing it. Please show me that my children are a blessing and reward from you, and help me be a good mother."
It seems like everytime I pray that, they do something very cute or funny, and every thing is better again!
@sylviamak (60)
• Singapore
1 Nov 09
Thanks for your prayer. It is very uplifting and encouraging. I do use your prayer to help me see the blessinig from God. Thanks a lot.
@sylviamak (60)
• Singapore
31 Oct 09
Thanks for sharing of your wisdom and experience. It is amazing to take care of 10 children. You must have a lot of patience and love. I take care of my children, I will also be overwhelmed at time when they are naughty. I am glad to learn from you that moving from coping to learning of new skills of homemaking and childrearing. I love Bible and worship songs that lift me up when I am stressed up with my kids. i love to write my journal and tweets to share my experience with others.
http://twitter.com/pregnantcoach
@sylviamak (60)
• Singapore
30 Oct 09
I also like to read books that give me inspiration and new learning. Exercise and practise Yoga are the ways to help me to de-stress. I feel more relaxed after my Yoga class.
Playing and hugging my children make us feel the joy and satisfaction of being a mother. Just the smile from our children will melt our hearts.
In addition, I will write my lot discussion, tweet and blog to share my experience with others on my struggle and learning.
Thanks for your response.
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
..yes.. you're right.. actually, i'm a working mom and usually, I feel tired after work so when I go home, I play with my child and I feel relax and happy again.. but when she is sick, i took care of her first hand.. I always want to be at her side every time she needs me..
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
..hi sylvia.. I'm also a mother and yeah, sometimes, parenting is really stressful.. for me, I try to relax by going to some of my friends invitations.. It is nice also for us moms to spend sometimes our time with our friends to break our attention to our children.. The fact that our husbands spend time also to their friends, we could also do the same.. this is not for the reason that our husband do it so we have to do it also.. what I mean is, husbands need to refresh by spending time with their friends just like us.. sometimes, I also take a walk in the park with my child.. it helps.. when we giggle together, laugh together, I am very much relieved from my strength.. you could also try to watch comedy movies so that you can laugh and enjoy.. I hope this helps.. happy mylotting..
@sylviamak (60)
• Singapore
30 Oct 09
Parenting is at time very stressful for mother especially we have more time with the children than fathers. More initeracting will create more difference and conflicts. Joining your friends for some activiites or develop hobbies will definitely help us cope better. When we feel the support from our family and friends, we will cope better. We want to have listening ears from our friends and get emotional support.
Joining our children with activities will help us to de-stress and bond better with our children.
Thanks for your sharing.
