If your friend was cheating on their spouse would you tell their spouse about it
By Rondita
@Rondita (92)
United States
October 30, 2009 1:50am CST
alot of people cheat sometimes in a marriage but if it was your friend cheating on their spouse would you tell their spouse or what would you do?
7 responses
@Picquarian (724)
• United States
15 Jan 10
No, but I would encourage my friend to be honest with the spouse. It's not my place to "tattle" on a person, but cheating is wrong and people don't deserved to be lied to.
@corrycrystal (1775)
• Malaysia
9 Nov 09
It is a difficult situation because sometimes I don't know the friend's spouse very well and how she/he will react to it. I could end up being accused of busy body or spreading rumors. So, I guess I will just remind my friend about what she/he's doing is not healthy to the marriage. If she/he wants out, it's best to do it the right way.
@OrangJuice (687)
• China
30 Oct 09
Hi, rondita, I think I won't be the truth teller.
You know, telling truth to the spouse always makes it worse.
But I will try my best to persuade the cheater to tell the truth by himself/herself. Sometimes, they have to cheat before they cannot find better way, which is there indeed. So I will help them to find the better way.
In another side, maybe I also help to talk with spouse. But unless it's necessary, I won't do it.
Coz I don't think it's a good way, as I don't want to involve in other's family too much. You know it's always troublesome.
You know, telling truth to the spouse always makes it worse.
But I will try my best to persuade the cheater to tell the truth by himself/herself. Sometimes, they have to cheat before they cannot find better way, which is there indeed. So I will help them to find the better way.
In another side, maybe I also help to talk with spouse. But unless it's necessary, I won't do it. Coz I don't think it's a good way, as I don't want to involve in other's family too much. You know it's always troublesome.
@buping (952)
• China
9 Nov 09
hi rondita, it really puzzled me with this problem. i have a friend, and i know she is cheating her husband, what's worse, her husband is also my friend, i do not know what i should do, i can not make a decision that no harm to both of them. i have not think out a good idea untill now even some friends on mylot gave me good advices. but one thing i am sure is i would not tell her husband.
@Drsunny21 (556)
• India
30 Oct 09
Yes i will definitely tell my frnd spouse about it but first of all i will try to tell my frnd tht not to cheat and try to be honest and if he doesnt thn i ll tell his/her spouse....
@oinkgiz (863)
• Singapore
30 Oct 09
hi,
for me, i'll first tall to my friend.. i'll tell her that what she's doing is not right... and she needs to make a choice if she wants to continue her relationship to her lover to to her family...what is more important for her... as much as possible if her relationship with her lover is not that deep, she just need to give it up.. dont waste her family for something that is not worth it...
thanks for sharing this discussion... have a nice day and happy mylotting... ^_^
