would you give birth a baby when you are unmarried?

Well in my country where most of the people are still quite conservative especially in the rural areas, having a child out of wedlock is certainly still frowned upon by many, especially on the part of the woman . However, personally I believe that its not really a crime or a sin to become a single parent, and they are certainly not a "problem in this world" . For me choosing to be a single mom is way, way better choosing to abort your unborn child just because of the fear of having the stigma of being an unmarried mother. Actually, I admire those single parents who can raise their children responsibly even without the help of the father because its already quite difficult to raise a child with a partner so how much more if you're single, right? I think they deserve our admiration and not our condemnation if they are able to raise good, responsible kids despite their being single or perhaps maybe because of it. Having two married parents doesn't necessarily ensure that a child would grow up to be a responsible adult!

Not female, but if I were, my answer would be yes. I don't believe there's anything wrong with a single mother raising a child by herself. And I'm rather offended by your claim that mothers should give a complete family for the child. Not all single mothers are unmarried. Some of them marry, then their husbands die. Are you saying that they should grab any man they see to replace their husband? Just for the sake of having a complete family? If yes, that's bloody heartless. If no, then why is it only unmarried women who need a husband to complete their families?

I know unmarried mother really a problem for this world. whoa! hold on..why is it a "problem"?? I think that mother should give a complete family for the child.a complete family should have mother and father. So if a child doenst have BOTH parents living together with the child its NOT a complete family? I'm sorry but you are sadly mistaken....I was a single a mother and we were most definatley a FAMILY...children DO NOT need both parents in the same house in order to be a family..What if the absent parent was abusive?? Should they stay together just so the kids have both mummy and daddy there?? thats just ridiculous!!

i'm not married but do have a partner, some things don't last. depends on what culture you come from on how it is viewed. but with divorce rates rising, somethings can't be helped. it's not that long ago when the whole of society would shun you for getting preg before marriage. i say there's nothing wrong with it.

Yes, I would give birth to a baby if I wasn't married to the father. Regardless of whether the father stuck around or not, that baby deserves someone in its life who will love it unconditionally. I could never give up a baby or abort one, simply because that baby that grows in each and every woman at some point in time, is a living being, its a gift from God, one of the most precious gifts ever given to us. We were ALL babies at one time, and I think everyone has forgotten that, they view babies as a hardship. I'm sure we weren't perfect kids, and no child is perfect, regardless of their age, or how many parents they have, but its a life that should be given a chance. Its not a problem at all for an unmarried woman to have a baby, because she's giving that baby a chance at life. She won't miss out on the things that most women do give up when they choose not to raise the child. There's so much joy in just being around kids, there's really no way I could ever see it as a problem, for a single mother to raise her child. Its going to need a family regardless of how big that family is.

Yes. why not? each person deserves to live, even if that person was born out of a mistake. you would most likely refer to single mothers. We have a lot of that here in the Philippines but single moms here are all fighters. Even though they are alone, they struggle to keep their kid healthy and happy even without financial support from the father. Single moms face challenges physically, mentally and most of all emotionally. and i am proud of all single moms who were able to make it through and has never thought of abortion.

It really depends on the type of society you are looking at. Without going into the argument whether both parents are necessary for a completely healthy family or not, I would say that if the child is comfortable with a single parent and has the love and support of everybody around, then why not? In India however, society frowns upon unwed mothers…their children are looked upon as bastar*s so you can very well understand the mental agony the child grows up in. there’s literally no family support for unwed mothers and such women are looked down upon as of immoral character. While this is grossly anti-woman in nature, it does help to curb the instances of unwed pregnancy in society.

Being pregnant is a choice, you choose to face the consequences of your action and there's nothing wrong with that. You can't fix a problem with another bigger problem right? I know there's somethings that we are not allowed to do when were not married yet. But isn't it also said that we can't take someone else's life. Being a single mom is not a problem, in fact i admire those women who are able to support their child without any help from others. Its not easy supporting a child alone you know. I have a number of friends who are a single parent and they were able to manage just fine.

i think it's very difficult to breed a child by a single mother.she should know in advance how hard it is.if she has the ability ,may be she could.i think i could n't stand the difficulties.my husband and i have only one child.we feel it is really difficult for him to grow up healthy and happy.

As much as possible, I want to give my baby a decent family because it's what he or she deserves. I would love to plan everything. But if your question is whether I will continue my pregnancy when I learn than I got pregnant out of wedlock, my answer would still be a yes. The baby did not want to be conceived. I'm sure if she/he had the chance, he/she would not want to be in such a complicated situation. (Who doesn't want a close-to-perfect life?) But I would really try my best to be the best mother I can be and I expect the father to feel the same way. We are to be blamed if ever the child ends up unhappy in this world. It tkes two to tango, right? I also would not want my child to grow up feeling the guilt that he/she was just a mistake. I also believe that if the parents are not the best persons they are, then it is surely the time to get serious, straighten up their acts and change for the better. Instead of breaking up, I think the parents should try their very best to be the best parents for the children. I really believe that it's because of selfishness that the baby is conceived (the couple were only having fun and not thinking about the consequences) and it would even be more selfish to breakup with a reason that the couple feels they dont belong with each other. (If they truly love each other and are truly serious of the relationship, then the baby would sure be a blessing for them.)I know some people would argue that children would be much happier to see their parents apart and happy than together but unhappy but in my humble opinion, that is why the couple should really work hard to make their relationship work. I honestly believe that everything can be worked out, we just need the urge to do so. Without the willingness, nothing would happen. That is also the reason why in my humble opinion I think that people should never be in a relationship without commitment. THey should be ready for everything and they should be decent enough to stand up and take the responsibility for what they have done. I am not trying to dictate anyone, I am just sharing my humble thoughts. This is what I believe and what I am following.. I know it's idealistic but I really value and respect my future children that I want the best for them. Happy MyLotting!!!

I'm a man at first, so I just post the response from a male's angle. For my own belief I strongly disagree with such foolish behaviour, at least in China where people are still kinda traditional and orthodox, parents won't accept such a ridiculous facts that their daughters have become a mother but without a father. And a young mother unmarried will bring shame upon the whole family, relatives will gossip about your story behind her back. How pathetic. So such phenomenon still seldom happen in China. Good day.

Well, giving birth while u r unmarried is immoral. I juz can,t understand how they can give birth to children wihout ever getting attached. It is juz for fun or a mistake. Hmmm, nowadays, i juz can,t wonder HOW CAN IT BE!!!!!1

I don't think its wrong for women to have children if they are not married. Things don't always work out between couples so why should they stay together just so the child will have both parents living together. The child would suffer more in the end. Mistakes can happen and unplanned pregnancies should not be aborted because the dad isn't around. Plenty of women raise children without a partner and if a child is loved and wanted I don't think it matters if there is only one parent to care for the child.

Personally, yes I would. I don't think my conscience can handle it if I ever I abort it. Anyway, I know how to treasure life, and in my status, I think I can raise the baby even if it's just me.