Wedding rings (Part two)

No, honestly I did not want an engagement ring, I just wanted to be married. We lived together and already had a son, but my husband wanted to have a nicer ring than just a wedding band and he wanted to propose to me. So he got me a beautiful white gold band with 5 diamonds in it, it is more like an anniversary band. It is very beautiful and I actually love it.

I wouldn't care and I would tell them how rude they are to act that way. Love is not about how much money he spends on a ring.

I will tell them that Kiss my A** and just dont look at it. I dont think size of the diamond or gem matters. I know some girls do care about it but I dont. I like it and they are not the one who is wearing it so I dont care what other say!

My opinion, the size of the diamond, or the cost should not matter.

id wouldnt feel bad (mayby there wedding invitation would get lost in the mail:) i dont think it matters at all, myself i had only a ring made of silver and cubic zirconias when i first got engaged because my mother had told me she was going to give the ring my father had proposed to her with (they are divorced so she doesnt wear it and since it was given out of love between each other and i was a result of that love and the only result that lasted between them i was given it) and even them people would notice the ring and ask if it was an engagement ring and nobody ever said an unkind word, hopefully most of us are surrounded by people who wouldnt judge it either cause come on really how shallow do you have to be if you just got engaged and all you can think is oh crap my ring sucks

I think the size of the gem, or the cost should not matter to you or to your family and friends. Money comes and goes, but real love will last forever.

No.. I wear a plain white gold band..that's all I need The ring is a sign of out commitment...doesn't need to be flashy or stuffed full of gems...what matters is what was in his heart when he gave it to me...

When I was proposed to the size of the diamond did not matter one bit. It was given out of love, and therefore should be cherished. If my family would have said that to me, I would have thought 'how rude!' Maybe they were joking, and maybe they weren't, I don't know, but I do know that they should be supportive of whatever ring you get and should be happy for you. Personally I think expecting a ring that is out of my loves expense range is nothing more than greed. What matters is that he asked you, and gave you one out of good faith for the future to come. We have become too much of a materialistic society anymore, in my humble opinion.

I don't think it would matter to me. As long as you love the person, it shouldn't matter what other people have to say....Maybe that is all your partner could afford at the time. I think just getting a ring and a proposal is a big deal.....take it from someone who has had rings but never been married.....

To me I think it is the love for each other that really counts. The size of the diamond or even no diamond really does not matter. I would not be marrying the man I love just to get a huge rock out of him to show off. If that was the case for any woman, then she does not love her man and should not be marrying him.

Good question. It's not easy to answer. One the one hand, I don't think that people who can't afford a good ring should even be thinking about marriage. How will they afford children? And money issues can ruin a beautiful relationship. On the other hand, money - or the size of a ring - is not, or should not, be a gauge of love. And then there's that third hand, where the man has plenty of money to buy a reasonable ring and doesn't because he hasn't bothered to look at the issue from the woman's point of view. Oops, one more hand - and that's where the couple has opted to spend their money on a nicer place to live or furniture or even a longer, grander honeymoon rather than spending it all on a ring. In that case, I think I'd tell my family and friends to shove their rudeness.

no because it is the thought that counts, but a huge rock would be very nice.

My husband and I knew we wanted to get married and we proposed to each other in a lovely ceremony. I used a ring I already had which had significance for me. It was a very small garnet with some images on the side of the silver. I'm not sure anyone ever asked me about an engagement ring!

I was so in love and ready to get engaged to the man of my dreams that I didn't and wouldn't care about the size. Fortunately mine wasn't small but if a family member had come up to me and asked where the diamond was I would ask where their brain was and not to be so rude. At the time that I got engaged I didn't even care if I got a ring as long as I got my man. He was all I needed...the ring was just a bonus.

That is a tough one. It shouldn't matter, but I think that whomever is doing the proposing should choose a ring that they know their partner will be happy with. For someone who you know would want a big diamond, then you shoudl get one. Personally, I have small fingers so a half carat diamond looks huge on my hand. My fiance and I picked out the ring together and personally I wouldn't have it any other way.

One of the VPs I worked with married his wife right out of college. He asked his wife to marry him with a 1/2 carat diamond of questionable quality. He is now a millionaire a couple times over. They have a huge house in a ritzy DC suburb. Drive new Mercedes and BMWs, even the kids drive the latest German sports cars. But his wife still sports the small, sad diamond he bought her 25 years ago when he was basically pennyless. Obviously the ring is significant, and it is as valuable to the two of them as a much larger diamond.

One of the VPs I worked with married his wife right out of college. He asked his wife to marry him with a 1/2 carat diamond of questionable quality. He is now a millionaire a couple times over. They have a huge house in a ritzy DC suburb. Drive new Mercedes and BMWs, even the kids drive the latest German sports cars. But his wife still sports the small, sad diamond he bought her 25 years ago when he was basically pennyless. Obviously the ring is significant, and it is as valuable to the two of them as a much larger diamond.

oh my God. that is so mean of your friends to say that. i would really be offended and would tell them that diamonds does not matter. i know my mom won't look into that too. i saw her wedding ring and it has bits of diamonds in it. besides if a guy i love and will marry proposed to me, i am more excited about the life we are to share together and not some diamonds in my hand. i do not intend to boast the material thing that i got. but i would want my friends and family to see that i became happy with the person i married not with the diamond he presented to me... :)

Hey, I never even received a diamond when I got engaged! Come to think of it, I never received any engagement ring at all! :D Anyway, like they all said, how big, how little or in my case whether there is one (engagement ring), it doesn't really matter. What matters most is the intentions of the man who intends to marry you and the love you have for each other. Love is not measured by the size of the stone on the engagement ring, but the size of the heart your man has to offer. Awww.... :)

it is better that there is diamond, but for me simply a ring (gold or silver) is just the same as diamond ring, because simply a ring means everlasting love. so if someone dont have enough money to buy a diamond ring. yuo can buy a ring w/out diamond. the important is it does not fade.