If you caught your husband lying about a minor issue,

A woman I know had a husband who lied about a woman he had been seeing. He said he wasn't seeing her anymore. Eventually she found out they were. Even when she asked him if they were, even though she knew for sure they were, he still denied it. I guess that isn't a minor issue. I know there was never any trust there again and it ended in divorce. My husband lies about little things like whether or not he gave my stepson money, whether or not he ate a donut that day (he's supposed to be dieting). I know when he is lying. He's very transparent. He's never lied about anything major that I know of, but I trust him because I know his personality. I know why he lies and when he lies, and it's all minor stuff. My stepson lies too, and it's obvious he's learned from his father, even in the same fact that he's really BAD at lying and is under the illusion that he's good at it. Someday it's going to catch up with them. As for advice in your case, if you keep paying attention you will know the lying behaviors. Don't sweat the little things. I think pretty near all human beings tell lies about little things. As for smoking, that's a pretty big lie, but mostly he is hurting himself, and you can be sure he is aware of that.

Well, I'm not married but I'll try to voice out my opinion regarding this matter. If we will focus on he trying to deny smoking, I think he just did that to avoid any arguments since he knew that you are concern about it. Maybe he also wanted for you not to worry too much about him. It's not really easy to quit smoking abruptly. Maybe he is also in the process of quitting but taking things slowly. And that's very advisable. If I'm in that position, yes I'll get mad for the lies but I'll also try to talk to him why he did that. I wouldn't want to think about anything else though because it might affect the relationship. Maybe it's better if you focus on the issue of smoking other than any potentials since there's really no assurance that it will happen. Don't stress yourself too much about it. You don't want to argue about things that may or may not happen. Trust is very important in marriage, the same as with other relationships. So as much as possible, have faith in him. He is your husband after all.