Does your Partner Trust you???
By fler
@feodda (579)
Philippines
November 1, 2009 5:23am CST
There are things that totally overreacting. Afraid to hear what he might tell you.
But some relationships had experience that their partners checks their emails and texts is a complete violation of you personal space and privacy. And some instances, you can't really complain about that because you went and did the same thing without asking.
If you experience these, right now your relationship is in a dangerous place. There is a chance that he has stopped being suspicious because he doesn't want to be subjected to the same kind of scrutiny he put you through.
Do you really trust your partner?
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23 responses
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
1 Nov 09
Hi there!
I trust my partner and she trust me, there is nothing hidden between us and we enjoy each other's company and keep sharing our joys and sorrows with each other. You have mentioned quite correctly that mistrust could be disastrous for relationship.
@bentoyhk (202)
• Hong Kong
9 Nov 09
I do trust my partner. But oppositely seems he doen't trust me much. I discuse with him so many times. He try to change for the mean time. But after some time, he goes back to the original status. He checks all the time where am I? Where and who will I go out with? It makes me annoying!
@StarBright (2798)
• United States
7 Nov 09
We trust each other. I don't think I could live with someone I did not trust. If I have to go thru pockets looking for phone numbers or eavesdrop on telephone calls, then we have a serious problem. In 40 years of marriage, I have never felt the urge to "check up" on my husband. As far as I know, he has never felt that urge either. Each of us has male and female friends. They have never posed a threat to our relationship. In fact, they end up becoming friends with both of us. Trust is a high priority on my list. I have tried to instill this in my children too. Honesty, loyalty, trust and a spirit of sharing - all important in any relationship be it between lovers or just friends.
@euniceeleanor (5967)
• Singapore
6 Nov 09
trust is a very important ingredient in a relationship/marriage. main reason i chose my husband, is because i know he's the type of guy that i can trust whole heartedly. Though sometimes, both of us may have our own 'jealous' moments, we gave each other space in the marriage. we will definitely not snoop around and check emails or even text messages.
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
2 Nov 09
My husband trusts me completely. Once when I was newly married, a sudden auto strike was called on. My office colleague, who stays in the same quarters, offered me lift in the car. I was afraid what my husband will say as my friend's husband used to check her in the office always though he was from another office. Then my husband told 'see I know what you are, I will not suspect you. But do not cry coming to me that so and so has told like this, like that. If you can handle people then I do not bother.' I never cross my limits. If it is unavoidable, then I am the better judge.
@enola1692 (3323)
• United States
2 Nov 09
I know he dose an he can go though my purse or whatever an I trust him he has'nt given me a reason not to
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
2 Nov 09
I trust that my partner trusts me! My husband and I have been together for sixteen years and in that time we have never given each other any reasons to mistrust one another. I would imagine my partner would get jealous but it would have to be something really major before he would question my loyalty to him and I feel the same way.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
2 Nov 09
I do trust my partner but to the people around him, NO! Sometime i get insecure at them, maybe because I'm in a long distance relationship. I can't avoid to get jealous and doubt him sometimes. When you say does my partner trust me? my answer is NO. because i always restraint his decisions.
@buping (952)
• China
2 Nov 09
hi feodda, i trust my husband to be completely, and he also truste me. we have the same likings and share our friends. he is quite sincere to me, and me the same. coz i am the one that would treat one the same way that he/she does to me. he is so kind to me, and he would not betray me or do something made me sad. we the the perfect ones in others' eyes although we quarrel with sometimes.
@lichee_china (506)
• China
2 Nov 09
We trust each other totally and definitely.It's awful,how can your partner did this to you?it's not problem about trust,about respect!Anyone can't checks the other's emails,texts and stuffs,without permission.Maybe there are misunderstandings between partners,makes he or she suspect you,speak out in the teeth,everything will be ok.
@joandevil (58)
• Malaysia
2 Nov 09
Do you expect your partner to trust you? If you do, why don't you trust your partner? I always choose to trust my partner. I made the decision to trust him, I will need to bear the consequences, if he really cheated on me...I cannot do anything with him.
Same thing go to the other way, if you checked your partner thing and get to know that he's cheated on you, can you do anything to him? No...Except for yelling at him or cry in front of him...At the moment, he actually don't deserve for our love, no need cry for him...
@penshopers (9)
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2 Nov 09
definitely! because i love her..God didnt give us the power to read peoples mind so that we will have the previlege to trust and be trusted
@jcooper342 (19)
• United States
2 Nov 09
My husband trusts me and I trust him completely. Neither one of us has any jealously of each other. We have been married for 25 beutiful years and it just keeps getting better and better every day.
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
2 Nov 09
I have a hard time trusting anyone completely and fully. I've had a lot of problems with people in general just being really rude, mean and terrible. Also, my partner in the past has given me a reason to not trust them. However, it's been several years and the trust has slowly started to come back. I'm a lot more trusting now than I was and I realize now that even if something does happen, it's not the end of the world. The chance of just putting an end to the relationship as a punishment for whatever happens can happen and it can really be therapuetic.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
1 Nov 09
I think we trust eich other, we have been together a long time and you can't do that if you don't have trust. If you didn't you would be very unhappy.
@xannebull (1793)
• Philippines
1 Nov 09
my husband have trust on me, he never gets mad whenever i would like to go because he knows me a lot. everytime i am with the rest of my friends, he knows that i never flirt to boys...
@deeorchid (24)
• Indonesia
2 Nov 09
In my opinion....Confidence is the key a relationship. Without trust it will be difficult to establish a lasting relationship. It caused distrust one partner acts disappointing that it's hard to believe their partner again. Of course this must be fought with the cooperation of both parties to re-found confidence.
Distrust protracted will make each pair tried to distance himself from his partner because he felt unloved by their partner again. When you find it hard to believe the couple, show a good feeling.
If the couple doesn't believe that a sensible thing, you do not force him to believe you. Try to reassure and help the couple that he was more relieved and you didn't lose him.
This is what I do with my partner so we can trust each other. And this has been running 15 years.
@victory12 (348)
• Nigeria
1 Nov 09
Very good question, your question is mostly asked by some religious and righteous pastor here in my country. most people do not trust there friend even me i don't trust my friend because they are not God and i believe the same thing apply to others