What condition will you agree to marry with someone?

my conditions are:he has a great job or business that can support future kids,can cook well,has ambitions and pursues them,great with pets and children,very patient and understanding,financially independent,and won't stop me from pursuing my dreams.I don't want a guy who will ask me to stay home once we get married.I would like to earn my own money for myself.also,he should not be threatened by my success.we should help together to achieve our dreams for our family.

The decision to marry should be based on more that what someone has or what they give you. It should be based on if you love them, if you trust them, if you understand each other. Marriage should be based on the heart, not the wallet.

Love, trust and commitment should be the conditions for marriage. It is also important that the man understands that women are equal partners. It is also important that the woman is determined to have an education, a job and the abiity to support the family if need be. All material things like a house, car and furniture can be aquired together. If a woman insists on those things she will be treated like a piece of furniture or a possession. It is very sad that you get angry if the man does not give you roses and has an apartment. You are an intelligent young woman, well educated and well spoken. Get yourself a job, rent an apartment and buy yourself some roses. Then you are truly free and can follow your heart and marry the man that you love.

Love is important, but there are some other things, too. Faith is important. Nothing can break to people up faster than believing in different gods, and my God is very important to me. Common interests are somewhat important, too. I mean the important stuff, not like skateboarding or dancing. Do you look at things the same way? Are you willing to help a stranger, and to what degree? Do you both want (or don't wnat) kids? How do you think they should be raised? How important is his mother to him, does he give her money or spend a lot of time there? Will she continue to be in first place, or will you be first now? Those are the kind of things I want to know before marriage. As far as a job, he should be doing something!He should be going to school to get a job, or working a job, or actively seeking a job with realistic goals - which means he will soon have a job. If he is not a worker, you are both in trouble. As far as I am concerned that goes for the woman too. Who wants to marry a layabout? Gifts and presents are material things. A guy that is showering you with gifts and doesn't work is a shady person, stay away. I want to know that we are camptible, that we will always make it no matter what happens, that I and my kids will be loved and well treated. Everything else is gravy.

It's not about material things when you are committing to someone for the rest of your life. I married a man who I was and still am madly in love with. He is my best friend. I tell him everything. We share the same beliefs and we make eachother happy. I didn't care how much money he had or the type of vehicle he drove.

Love is important, of course. But it wouldn't hurt to be a little practical about it, since no one can live on love alone xD a stable job would be nice, with a very kind and understanding personality. What's also important to me is the preparedness of the person to get married and if he can stand up when ever he falls on his knees. To me, its also important to be assured that when problems comes during the marriage, i know I can count on him to support me :)

Hi lubeimao In my opinion a woman should marry a person when she feels the person respect woman, understand her feelings, both the girl and boy have to understand each other very well and they should know the importance of love. They should believe each other. Have a nice day.

in my coutry ,if you have a house ,you can find a girl to be your wife,if you want to marry a beautiful woman, you have to very good,you have to be very rich.

a settled boy with an appartment, a job and shud b loving as well

I am single. And still haven't found the one to marry. I think the first you need to know in marrying somebody is if you love each other. When love is there the next thing follows. You don't have to be rich, but it is important that both of have stable jobs for you to handle financial responsibilities in raising your family. Aside from your love and acceptance, it is also important that you know each others family, your belief, and culture. So when you get married, you will have less problems in dealing with them.

As girlfriend of mine,she won't ask me for the things put forward.she know we love each other very much,and it's the unique what he ask.let's back for a second,will you marry a man just for the substance,like motorcycle,bike,car?The era is gone,or the "motorcycle is gone".

i will only get married if and only if i have my own house, my own car and has done all the things i want to do as a single woman and my partner, i want a partner who won't bring me down. I want to have someone whom i love and my parents and family accept him. Getting married isn't all about love.

hi,lubeimao!I'm Chinese too,so I understand what you're saying and your feeling.Nowadays an apartment is a necessary condition to proposal to a girl,though the apartment price is so high that it usually cost almost the whole savings of a family.But everyone obey such a condition.If you married a man who couldn't afford an appartment,you would feel very unfair when he loves you less than before,and when some conflicts appear between you and his family.And I think a man maybe appreciate you and love you more when you accept his proposal without an appartment and some conditions else,but it doesn't mean after getting married he will look forward to you less than other men look forward to their wives,and so does his family.In a word,they pay less but will not demand less...so,be careful.

I am familiar with these situations that you mentioned and i agree some requirements are necessary for long-last marriage, but i think the most important thing is LOVE. before i decide to marry someone, first i should love him, also i must care whether he has an apartment or not, because house price is very high here!

He has to have a job, and he has to be love me and really want to marry me. I will never force a man to marry me. If my boyfriend wants to me then he has to really want it and he had to be ready for it. He has to have a steady job that pays at least 3% more than the minimum wage. I am not asking him to have a job were he makes 100K per year because I know that is very unrealistic, but just have a job that can keep him on his feet. I can take care of myself. I am getting my degree and I am going to have a job that is going to keep me stable. I do not need anyone to take care of me.

I don't think that people should marry for any reason other than love, but I also do not think that love is enough. I think when it comes to choosing a mate they have to be careful about that person do they have good earning potential? Are they responsible? I think there has to be love though, if you marry someone only for monitary things it is never going to work out. You need to love someone in order for a marriage to work out.

I heard alot of women having these conditions.But in the end they are unhappy.For me, love is the only requirement for marriage.If you love each other and work out for your future together then you can have those things.

Love should be the main reason to get married because it is only love that can help marriage lasts forever. Material things are secondary since you can earn and gain them by working hard. I do not believe that marriage can last without you being in love with your partner since it is very hard to love someone out of the desire to gain wealth.

My special requirement would be to accept my beliefs and don't ask me to change them and don't try to change me.

I think the only condition that will make me marry a person is that, I LOVE HIM and nothing else..Cause whenever I want to get married I want to be married the person whom I want to spend my lifetime with..