have you ever been in a relationship with a maniputator?

Yep...been there. I know how they work and now I run from them. It is not worth your time to be in such a relationship. I've learned over time to recognize control and manipulating. A couple of years ago I dated this man who constantly questioned me on just about everything...who I talked to and my past etc. Everything I said and did was cause for suspicion. Now if you knew me...you would know that I am very faithful and honest by nature. I don't and never have cheated on any man and I am pretty upfront about most things. Well this guy questioned me on every guy I spoke to etc...always sure that something was up. I work in the public and I'm friendly. It seemed he was always out to catch me cheating. It was pretty ridiculous. Well one nite we were supposed to hang out after I got off from work at 11pm. My daughter was staying at her dad's. At 9pm she called me and had changed her mind about staying at dad's...wanted to come home. I called him up and told him and cancelled out. He was ok about it. Then I got out of work and when I got there to pick her up...she was sound asleep. I let her be and went home. My bf called me and OMG ...wanted to talk to her. I said she was down in her room. Then he asked to speak to her but of course he couldn't...she was at dad's ...sleeping. I sighed and admitted that I lied. Why did I lie? Because if I'd told him the God's honest truth there would have been hell to pay..he'd not of believed me. If I'd told him the truth at the start...that my daughter ended up falling asleep...he'd of accused me of making excuses not to be with him. he'd have all sorts of suspicions as to what I really was doing when I was really doing nothing. I gave up....If I am finding myself lying to make peace with a person for any reason at all then the relationship is not worth my time.

Hi GreatLife4You, I find that manipulators tend to have a great deal of control of their emotions which is why they are so good at manipulation. They control their own so that they can manipulate yours. They can pick out weak spots in a person and work their way with that to the point where you end up doing what they want. These people can be very clever as that they speak and weave their words until you believe what they say. They will use their own emotions if that's what it takes to make you do what they want so it appears as though they are out of control. They can be critical if that's what is necessary to achieve their goals or they can be highly praising you so that you want to help them. It's difficult but the only way to "deal" with them is to be true to your own self. If you do not waver in your belief in your own values then it is difficult for someone to manipulate you. But sometimes, manipulators are so good, you wouldn't even realize you are being made to do something you didn't want to do.

hi there, actually i can not understand that why you still be with him as you know that he likes controlling and he is a completely maniputator. if i were you, he really wants to control other's life that made me angry about him, i would no communicate with him. and that's the way to protect myself and made myself happy. so that's my suggestion to you.:)

Yeah pathological liars are like this they make their own reality and have no consquences for their actions.

I'm in that situation right now...=/ don't have much to say about it though at the moment...

How would I interact w/ them? 2 words... 'Get Lost". Life is too short and their are way too many people in the world to choose from. Dont waste another minute, get away as fast as you can.

No, but I once worked for one and left that place of employment as soon as I possibly could. Mind you, I'm working for manipulators now. They seize on every opportunity to take the blame away from themselves and if you are the unfortunate one likely to fall to the eternal blame then you get it. But that is the world today and if you want to avoid these people totally you might have to go live on an island somewhere where there are no other people at all.

I was with a master manipulator and opportunist for two years and he played very clever mind games with me. He knew that at the time I was young and naive and he made the most of it. He picked up my weak points and used them to his advantage all the while behaving very lovingly and attentively. He was good I’ll give him that. He ended up being a liar and a cheat. There is very little chance anyone like that could manipulate me these days. I have learnt the hard way and wizened up.

yes, and indeed the relationship is very stressful. only that i have loved the person so much that i embraced the character and at that has only made it more difficult. i totally accepted and embraced it to the point that i thought i am weak and as a weak person,i need someone to manipulate me. too bad. i have to overcome and completely understand that it is not me, i am strong, i am not the one needing the attention but him. a manipulative person and having a relationship with a manipulative one is very stressful, one has to give way and obvoiusly, the manipulator won't give in so it has to be the other partner giving in and doing things just to make the relationship works. it doesn't differ to having the manipulated person always, and trying hard to please the manipulator. that is why, the other person allows, will allow and will continue to follow whatever is being directed. its so hard to explain, but really, it is habit forming. once you allow the other person to manipulate you, it won't just stop. it will continue and continue and otherwise, the endless quarrel, the headaches, and eventually the hatred would be there.

i was married to one,hence i said WAS,,he was violent due to him trying to manipulate me,and me doing my own thing,not what he wanted,,he had very strange views on things and the way he saw life aswell,if you can don't interact with them unless you are strong enough not to get sucked into their world,coz if you do it's hard to get out of,so i found out