Advices on How to End Stressful Relationships?
By getbrowser
@getbrowser (1708)
China
November 1, 2009 7:30pm CST
I guess most people want to build a strong networking relationship. But sometimes, we have to face various problems with our friends. When it comes to relationship and stress, I believe that I am not the only one in a relationship like this where sometimes we get stressed out at other people.
You see, stress in our relationships is something that we can no longer avoid. At one time we could keep it under control, but now that it is so difficult to make ends meet and to just plain survive, the stress can become unbearable.
What is your attitude when it comes to relationship and stress? Do you have some tips on how to end the stressful relationships? All responses would be appreciated. Thanks for you reply!
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18 responses
@lindiebiz (1006)
• Canada
2 Nov 09
The best is to come clean. If a relationship is stresful and you are tired of it, it is best come out clean and tell the person. It saves all parties a lot of stress and heartbreak. However, if you are willing to go along with the relationship in spite of the stress, go ahead
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@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
5 Nov 09
See first the reasons or what causes stress. If you can try to gradually get rid of it's causes. Then, little by little you can cope up and later stress could be totally avoided.
@artistry (4151)
• United States
2 Nov 09
...Hi there netbrowser, hope you are doing okay. Sometimes you have to be a little selfish. If you are in a relationship, someone unrelated to you, you must decide what is more important. Your life being lived without confusion and stress or being with this person who you may care about. It has to be weighed, and if is too much to endure, you should bid that person adieu. Stress will kill you, make your hair gray and age you before it's time. Life is short, it is really not worth the aggravation. There must also be an underlying reason why there is so much stress in the relationship, if that cannot be resolved then move it. Explain why to the person and end it. I wrote an article once called "Letting Go: Stop Chasing Ghosts", it was about people waiting, hoping that a person will be the kind of person one would hope they would be, but they never change, one would be chasing a ghost. They should stop wasting their time and energy trying to make things work out the way they think they should. Just move on, just do it, as they say, this is your life. Take care.
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@remaster74 (4064)
• Greece
2 Nov 09
The trick is to never let stress enter the relationship. But let's say that you couldn't avoid that. Saying that this is a stressful relationship, means that you realise the problem. First take action in order to make the relationship healthy once again. If even this one is not real to exist, then proceed to the ending of the relationship. Make the other "half" of the relationship realise that there is no point to be kept both of you in this ordeal and then help both yourselves realise the breaking, the cost and of course the cure.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
2 Nov 09
Well your question is kind of vague. I'll try to answer best I can. Ok? Ok ...I tried...I really can't answer this. You need to provide more information. Just what is causing the stress? What sort of relationship is this.....lover, family, casual friend, close friend....the list goes on. There are many types of relationships. I started writing scenarios on ending relationships here and realized that I could write a book and all advice would be different depending on the situation. So ya...more details and I'll try to give you a better answer. ok?
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@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
2 Nov 09
I personally think that 'friend in need is a friend indeed'.
I will try my level best to render my help. But if this request
is beyond my ability, I will be straight forward and honest to
explained to them that I just can't help. Perhaps they should
look elsewhere for the assistance. Perhaps I will sit down with
them and try to work out some plans whereby they can help themselves.
Many a times, especially during this hard economy crisis, it is good
that everyone learns to be independent!
Be honest, I believe they will understand one day.
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@buping (952)
• China
2 Nov 09
hi friend, tips to end stressful relationships? i think the best way to me is to hang out with friends. i like to stay with friends, we chat with each other about the fashionale clothes, we share the common interests, we talk about some one married last month, who fall in love with someone. i seem to forget some nuisances, this is my way, i hope it can help you.
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@solson (406)
•
2 Nov 09
Stress in relationships is bond to happen. As you hear many times in life that life everything that goes up must come back down. Relationships constantly go from bad to good. You as a person need to learn how to just bite your tough and even though you may be right just let it go. In many relationships i have seen people just hold grudges and we all need to just learn to let things go. Hope everything goes well for you!
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Nov 09
hi getbrowser well as a diabetic I must try not to get stressed by other people. Ihave a roommate who has a motor mouth and it gets started the moment I get on mylot. so I have imagined a bubble around me that keeps out stress, her voice will just bounce off of it. I cannot change roommates so I must live with
her and she with me,so if we can decide not to let each other's habits annoy us,no stress.simple. Ending a stressful relationship with others is easy. end the relationship as if its stressing you that much perhaps it is time for each to go their separate ways.
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@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Nov 09
Sometimes relationships can become like addictions. I believe we can avoid stress in relationships. We need to set up boundaries that we know are good for us. If a relationship gets out of control or is a co-dependent sort of thing then we most definitely need to back away. It is hard and hurts but it really has to be done. Sometimes getting some counseling for support is the way to go.
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@Laurie1986 (384)
• United States
2 Nov 09
That's a really tough question. If the person is family, it should really be at the point where the person is causing you serious mental and emotional harm before you cut ties, because I think it should really be a last resort to burn bridges with family. If the person is a friend or acquaintance, sometimes you can get away with just limiting your contact: stop picking up the phone, let e-mails go unanswered, say you're busy, be aloof. This doesn't always work, but with everyone's busy lives you'd be surprised how often it does work, because once it becomes a chore to keep in contact with you, many people will just stop.
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@solared (1207)
• United States
2 Nov 09
Yeah be honest and tell they are bothering you, and only making things worse, and if they can't change their ways then it's gonna be over, because relationships aren't meant to be stressful, this goes with friendship too.
@bluray (408)
• Singapore
2 Nov 09
If we talk about personal relationships than it is quite difficult to deal with.we have to carefully make a distance with the concerned person.It will be better to avoid talking to him and maintain only monosyllable talk.it will help in avoiding lots of conflicts.
Ig the person concerned is our long distant friend or relative ,it will be much easier.stop all contacts.delay replying back and talk limited.
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@lichee_china (506)
• China
3 Nov 09
Be honest and be direct,tell the problem you had,any advice for advance,or a break from you two.for me,it's difficult to say bye-bye evenif someting bothering.I just have no courage to do it.Time bear out it was wrong.when you are having misunderstands and stuff,handle it immediately,go on or break.
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
2 Nov 09
Though the case differs from person to person, it is better to end any relationship, if it is unavoidable, in a amicable way. This avoids heart burns and in future meetings, we will not get worked up for the heavy atmosphere between us. Further it will avoid unwanted comments from the other party.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
2 Nov 09
there are some stressful relationship that i can not end for it is a part of living already. i get stress with my siblings for sometimes they quarrel like kids. i am the first born and i am the one who set things straight. but if it is a relationship at work i guess we are pretty adult enough to deal with it. communication is always the key on anything that is very stressful. when it comes to networking.... i walk away. for example here at mylot if i have a friend on my list that i know is active then he does not participate on my discussion i delete that person on my list. but of course not right away. i give atleast 6 months. if i can not see that member in my discussion i delete. i notify all of the member on my friends list and response to their discussion as long as i know what they are talking about. so since that is the essence of the friends list here i expect them to do the same. just my style. thats the way i do it. if i delete i dont get stressed
@free_man (7330)
• United States
2 Nov 09
Sorry your going through so much stress. But when someone stress me out I cut the ties right off the bat. I have the ability to associate with whom I choose to be around and I can't stand people that are always causing things to make me get upset. So as soon as they start it I tell them that I don't need the stress in my life but if that is what they want then they need to stay away from me. We don't deal with it too much we both are peaceful people and don't want to be around any of the stupid stuff.
@winnieying66 (49)
• China
2 Nov 09
relationship is the one of the most complicate things in the world,when it gets well,you should to know how to keep it and warn yourself do not to do things to damage it and when it is hurted,you'd better to do things to mend it,but it'll not only take you much time but also things will not like before,the hurt will still between the relationship.so how to keep it is the point.
if you have had stessful relationships,first thing i want to recommend is you should let it go and do not mention it to both your friends and other people.just let it go and talk to you friends like you are used to.
second,if it doesn't work,you should do some special things if you want to mend it,do not tell your friends what you will do ,do what you want to do and show it to them,remember,trust is the best thing people give to you.