Is it true that after getting married after few years..there comes distance ....

I think I am qualified to answer this question, because I have been very happily married to my wonderful husband for 50 years next March. We would both assert that we are more in love now than at any other time. We had 5 wonderful sons and at no time did we ever think they caused a distance. In fact, the opposite was probably true. As we accepted the responsibility of training and nurturing these young lives, we worked together for a common purpose, counting it a privilege. I would say one thing. We became the best of friends and developed a mutual trust and respect for each other BEFORE we were married, or even talked of marriage. There was no intimacy or petting before marriage and thus marriage was the culmination of our two years of courtship and getting to know one another. At our marriage we committed ourselves to each other for a lifetime. I spend a lot of time with young people, conducting study groups and camps. I believe the biggest problem - and the biggest hindrance - to a happy marriage is the RUSH that young people seem to be in. Love is NOT an instant feeling. Genuine love will not come unless respect, liking, honour, trust and other qualities are developed first. Love that lasts a lifetime will NOT come by jumping into bed with a partner. Love in a marriage should grow and become stronger. Given a chance, it will.

If two people truly love each other, they are more tolerant of their partner's idiosyncrasies, if not even the smallest fault will set them off. So any time, there are new situations added to the equation, how they deal with it affects the outcome of the relationship. Two most common situations that happen in a marriage is children and finances, how the couple deals with them will certainly affects the outcome of the marriage, if they have a strong relationship, they will compromise and give appropriate sacrifices to make things work, in return it may even strengthen the relationship, if not it may be the straw that breaks the camel's back and the distance widens and the relationship falls apart.

All marriages have ups and downs. Before you get married, you tend to only see the good sides. Part of the reason might be that you are only together when you are having fun, or doing something romantic. But once you marry you see the negatives of the other person, because now they effect you. Loving each other is a choice. A choice to look at the good, and let go of the bad. A choice to see each other in the best way. Its hard, and there are no easy answers.

I don't think it is distance. It is just after you been married a couple years you become comfortable. You start learning each others flaws and try to work through them. I think after you been married awhile you get caught up in the everyday life and sometimes forget the most important thing each other. My advice is always let your partner no you love them even if you are mad and even if you have to be the one to give in sometimes.

I have been married for two years, no children yet. In those two years, I can safely say that my husband and I have not had any major fights that can cause us to break up. I think the stability of the relationship is dependent on how the couple will deal with their issues. As they always say, there should be a lot of open communication between them. Communication is the main key for a successful relationship.

Normally it really does happen but it depends on the couple is they do so. You see, after the wonderful wedding a lot of responsibilities come in. The couple becomes both busy because they have to work to get to pay the bills and support the children and everything. They quarrel a lot because they forgot the love that made them husband and wife they're just partners now.

I dont think its a distance, I think its a comfortability with each other. I have been with my man for five years and when we were first together we couldnt keep our hands off each other. Now its different but none the less special as it will always be. I we give in to all the rumors, talk, etc. we allow ourselves to be played. When people are miserable they want everyone else to be miserable. JUST remember that. Love is love no matter what. If you feel a distance, spice things up. Let each other know how important you are. dl

I've been married for two years this December will make it two years. I can say that some couples forget that they have to communicate and still get to know the other person , because things change over time, and in order for a couple to grow together they have to communicate and continue on working on the relationship with their husband and wife. I think some people forget that they still have to work at that.

Not all couples experience that, my friend. This is happen because those couples did not deserve their marriage being a good one. To avoid this happen I think couples should understand that when they get married they became one and if they hate their wife or husband they hate their own self...

not necessarily. when you have kids your love and affection get shared between them. that doesnt mean there is a gape between husband and wife

Having kids or married life is not what makes a distance. I know couples that have been married for years and they are still as in love as they were when they got together. What causes the distance is the couple themselves and nothing else, to blame it on things like marriage and family its just an excuse you search on when you stop taking care of your sentimental other and worry about other stuff that isnt as important. Quarreling is part of a couple´s every day life. What makes it bad is when you dont find a solution to the problem or problems and when you dont work as a team. Miscommunication can occur even between the most understanding couples, its just a matter of how you deal with it. When you distance yourself from your spouse its simply when you stop doing some stuff that you use to do, or things that you start doing that are irrelevant to each other. When you start with the small things, then the big things continue and so forth and so forth.. when you stop taking care of each other is what makes the distance happen. Ive always said, that just because you are married or when time goes by, that doesnt mean that you have to stop taking care of the sentimental other and begin to take him or her for granted, so its always important to keep that going.

My husband and I have now been married for five years and we've been together for about eight years. I do see that there is a certain distance between the two of us that didn't used to be there, but I don't think that this distance is something that will be harmful to our relationship in the long run. We've never really had fights with each other and I don't see that happening now either. Mostly the issues that come between us are because we know each other so well and for the most part we know what to expect out of each other so there is not as much discussion as there used to be.

Well I have been married for 10 years and I can say that we have had our ups and downs. Relationships, marriage, parenting...they are all hard. They are not easy jobs. You have to work at them. Once you get married and have kids you tend to lose one another sometimes. My husband and I have gone through this and now we are more aware of each other. We put forth more effort to have alone time and be sensitive to each other. Sometimes you just get so busy with life that you forget what brought you together to begin with. I do not think the love becomes less, but I also do not think that people put the time onto their marriages like they use too. It's too easy to get divorced.

No, that is not true. In my personal experience we are very happy. we are very close to each other, we have a kid now. we are very happy compared to past days. Having a kid it dwindle the distance of wife and husband. passing of years, develops the love and fondness, and they can understand each other. They can sacrifise any thing for their beloved ones. It is a great relationship. My partner takes lots of care for my part.

I am not married by now. but i have seen this many times between couples. there is a reason behind this. when they are at distance they dont care about the problems which can be faced by his or her partner due to their habits and they dont have to compromise with them. but when they get married and dont compromise with their habits for each other the problem starts. i think there must be a level of compromises from both side to make the relation lasting and beautiful.

We all know that familiarty breeds contempt and this applies to married couples as well. Apart from this fact there are scores of problems that a couple has to face day in and day out resulting in possible disagreements. There is also the fact that with time one drops the guard that shielded their weaknesses. Exposing them only adds to the mess. It is only inter-dependence that can save a marriage many a time and children are a binding factor too but not without bitterness.

As people always said, time is the best medicine to cure love injuries. This is because as time goes by, everything get diluted, including the anger, love, passion and so on. Therefore, in order to sustain the love after marriage, couple should always make some effort to spice up your love...elongate the feeling... This is same as what we do before marry, we go out once in awhile to have special dinner, share special interest...and so on... Couple tend to forget about this after marry...that's why most of the marriage die just like that...the love feeling is gone... love need to maintain too.

Before getting married,the relationship counts on love between the two;when two become husband and wife,the relationship depend on what persons they are.