Confused: I thought people want us to respond to their discussions.

Ah but there are some types of hassle that I don't mind dealing with at all ...

Hi Mys, I see that Lamby is harrassing you with his BFH again. Some people might tell him to stop responding if he keeps doing that, but not I. It's rather funny though isn't it when this happens, there was that other one you'll recall who thought only friends were allowed to respond and everyone else had to come only by personal invitation. It's easy enough just to ignore those one doesn't like by not responding. I expect though it will make me want to respond more as surely some mistake must have been involved and I was misunderstood in my attempts to add quality to something a little lacking. You actually say what you want Mys, are you sure that's in the guidelines, I'd send my rejector a copy but unfortunately they aren't on my friends list.

MysD, you know that I always welcome hearing whatever you have to say, even if we have different points of view. Hearing different points of view is a good thing, because it gives us all a different perspective on issues, and that is definitely not a bad thing to have. It does not mean that you always have to agree with the other person, but you should always try to see things from another person's perspective, because it allows you to see the world in a different light. Anybody that crosses you off their list is only hurting themselves, MysD, because they will no longer benefit from your kindness and wisdom.

Just curious thea. Is "thea" a feminine form of the word theos? Is it the equivalent of the english word divine of godess?

Hi manong, what lovely comments you make, thank you indeed. Well you wouldn't have found the discussion from a bit of profile stalking I'm afraid as when I opened the alert to respond back to say I will respond where ever I choose, my response and the comment had been deleted. So instead I opened a discussion. Even if the poster had requested the response removed there was no reason at all for admin to do so as it was a just a pleasant response. However I lost not a whit of cool and was rather amused, and will look out for more such tedious discussions to respond to as I believe we have the right to respond where ever we like.

Definitely not, I didn't take it as a female god but from something personal.

Hi, I quite agree with you that the poster in question was extremely rude to say that but it seems to be a general tendency to shout at those who don't agree or more usually ignore them.

dawnald and paints thats a terrific idea wow. I would join in on 'that one.

that was my evil twin, but I fully support her in this

Hi Dawn and friends, well a few friends on here have already worked it out by me which I'd no idea one could do when a response has already been deleted so I picked up a new tip from that at least. You might cheer the poster up if you dropped in with your offers of coffee and brownies.

I like this reverse psychology theory,and wouldn't mind trying it to clear some of my own zero response discussions-the only thing being,there's a chance it would probably backfire on Me!

Ah ha, you perceive a cunning stratergy behind it, don't answer my discussions as an invitation to answer them. That's a bit of machiavelian thinking on your part rabbit and I'd agree if the person obviously hadn't requested that ther remarks were removed. Maybe they thought I really would stop responding and regretted it, either way I'm sure nothing will put me off responding in the future.I know for sure a little thing like that wouldn't deter you, in fact it would probably even send you off on a spree.

You know what Rabbit, I was thinking along those same lines myself - rather like reverse psychology. If you insist that someone should never respond to your discussions, won't it only make them want to respond more?

Hi wlee, exactly, did I not send you one of your first friendship requests even though we vehemently disagreed on the subject matter. It was rather amusing in this case though as there wasn't any particular substance to the topic so I simply posed a question hoping to broaden the topic, I can only presume that offence was taken by my initiative.

Absolutely thea, and I was very very glad I accepted that request. Since then I have done the same with people I disagree with and had good response. If we all agreed and had the same views what a dull board this would be. No one would ever stop and think and consider (even if we didn't agree) things from another point of view.

Well I'm most glad to hear that wlee, even if sometimes I may be a bit to frivolous for your taste. I also recommended you to the blue rabbit.

Hi Gerty, cool indeed, thanks my dear. Last night I responded somewhere and the poster accused me of having PMS but I must confess to being a bit annoying on that one as I thought it was one of those discssions which never elicit a response.

@muscles, surely you don't go round the place giving your own opinion, it is often much safer to just borrow the opinion of the poster and act in total agreement so that no possible offence can ever be caused. Of course I don't follow that advice myself but the over sensitive ones on here should give it a try.

True, so true about missing all those new discussions and the money that comes along with it.

Hi chertsy, well you're quite right to say we can respond to any discussion so I've been responding to a few more by the same poster but haven't received that response again amazingly. I've been ignored, I've been told that they hate that kind of response - obviously my response must not have been 100% in agreement, I've even had a couple of 'thank you for your response', but still nothing which shows the art of interaction is going to feature in future discussions, which are being churned out in large numbers. And to think if the person hadn't responded to me in that way I might have missed all those new discussions.

Hi Shirley, indeed it is true, but has now been deleted, and no I didn't report it as was amused by it. It is indeed absurd though when people complain one week that no one responds to them and then become fussy about those who do. I do recall in the past advising this poster to respond to their discussions as they were complaining then about no one resonding and not earning any money, but it just doesn't sink in with some. But hey, I got a response there which shows that at least responses are read, even if not appreciated. Now you know I like to chat with you Shirley but there's no need to go overboard with your compliments, you'll make me blush. I do know that not everyone appreciates my touch of humour, but its not going to stop them getting more of it. My foot is in the door now and I see a little amusement ahead.

MY GOODNESS...thea....YOU SURE "tweeked" the numbers out of this one, see it all turned out for the good. Congratulations...don't think I have ever seen sooooo many responses, since I have been here! One more blush factor...I love thata you have a sense of humour...this poor old world is far to devoid of hilarity! Am going to try your e-mail again, later today! HUGZ!

Hi shirley, I saw your name on the end and actually if I don't like you so much wouldn't have searched for you in this lot as there are too many pages. Yes the humour is there and this is actually my second discussion inspired by that poster, the first one hit around 67 responses I believe. But these kind get so long that it's really difficult to do the normal chattting back unless you can remember what page someone was on. (I have to say though I don't see any point at all to these highest rated discussions as this is the 4h of mine in 2 weeks and it still doesn't shift that little point up in the star which goes down with just a couple of hits on the negative button.) I do hope the email works, I'm not having any problems with it at this end, as I said though if you like JB will be more than happy to forward it on from the UK if you like as hers came through. send me a pm if it doesn't work and I will telephone OTE net before the phone line goes down in the storm.

Hi sid, it was a little strange but some posters just don't seem to get how mylotting works. I had to go to the bother of putting my post back in as it was deleted along with the comment made. I maybe straight talking but am never abusive and can only surmise that the poster took against some advice I gave a while back about needing to respond to their own discussions whilst they were complaining that no one responded to their high quality discussions. I do recall there were a couple of those but one get deleted as a repeat of the first one, it really would pay off for some if they acquainted themselves with the guide lines in the first place instead of blaming everyone else and complaining.

Hi OrangJuice, I wasn't disappointed, I was amused. I simply responded to a discussion which was on my home page, not by a friend. Still if people only want responders to respond and agree with their every word and not have opinions of their own they should really put a disclaimer on the top to make it clear.

I support you totally thea...i think everyone has a right to their opinion ..however at the same time we have elements here who think they only have a right.......

I never find it funny when someone acts like an a$$ on here.

Hi Aunty, I thought it was hilarious actually, except its put me to the bother of having to go back and respond as it was deleted in the night before I could respond to the response.

Hi JenBt, of course you must respond where you like and ignore those who tell you not to. There's been a spate of it recently. You should be safe though as new and by responding mainly in the first place you'll get an idea of which sort of discussions work and which type to avoid,and meet up with nice people on the way.

I am curious about what you mean about which discussions "work and which to avoid". Do people honestly try to exclude you from discussions or badger you when you join a clique discussion between friends? If so, I think this is pathetic... (not you- the idea of this). I would think most people do not know each other as I think it would be weird if a bunch of friends got on here together instead of talking to each other face to face. So under the assumption that we are all basically strangers- what gives people the right to exclude others who have just joined MyLot or with those whom they are not familiar with, but present a valid point in a discussion? Could you please describe more of what you meant by discussions to avoid? Thanks!

Hi allknowing, well I certainly wouldn't go so far as to agree with you, it's hardly comparable to a festering cancer, its just a case of someone not knowing the guidelines which allow us to respond anywhere we choose, just as they in turn can then choose to ignore our responses. I think the whole of mylotting should not be taken too seriously, although if someone is actually insulting or abusive then that should be taken seriously and their breaches reported to admin. I don't fall into that category though so will continue to respond at will. I think its more a case of some not knowing how to interact either socially or on line.

Better nip it in the bud and dont let it fester. This is my opinion not necessarily as a result of what you have stated but I know if things are not nipped in the bud they are bound to create bad blood.

Hi spicysweetie, no my comment was just a question trying to open up a discussion a little as there really wasn't much to say on the actual topic as its been done over and over anyway, but I do tend to answer things on my home page as it doesn't involve looking around too much, and as you say it puts things up in the lists for their benefit.

Hi jillhill, certainly an amusing response and such a shame it was deleted as one of the few times the poster does respond so could have earned a few cents for such a quality contribution here. I think the attitude alone though will lose them the few friends if any they have here.

Hi jambi, well it only helps earnings when the poster comments back but if they comment back in that way and their comment then gets deleted which it did then they really don't appear to have grasped the plot. . Still at least that poster is now beginning to grasp the concept of commenting on responses received, just needs to learn now that that's not the way to comment.

Hi Louc, I see you got the notifiers working. Pleasant and civilised disagreements are perfectly natural, but in this case I didn't say anything that was disagreeable, but I found the response fun. Of course if it had come from one of my friends it wouldn't have been funny. I'm often amused when I sneak a peak at someone elses friends list to find half of it jammed up with scammers, spammers and banned members so they obviously go for the number angle rather than a bit of social interaction.

Hi starsailover, I'm sorry if I gave you the wrong impression that I was worried about this, I was rather more amused by it, and at least the poster did manage a 'please'. On the other hand I do hate to see abusive comments from anyone as we should all be able to discuss topics in a civilised manner. If people only want their friends to respond they should stick a disclaimer on the topic but it really wouldn't make any difference as as you say we are free to respond to whatever we choose.

Hi mommyjewel, quite right, that is indeed the purpose of the board that we can all discuss and that we are not excluded by cliques. When you do start posting here always respond back and then people will return to your discussions. I doubt very much that you'll come across a rude response such as I did.