Do you say Sorry or rather saying a Sorry makes you ashamed?
By think_twice
@think_twice (553)
India
November 2, 2009 7:24am CST
Yesterday while in a shopping mall I watched an awkward incidence between a lady and a young man. Both the persons were picking things from the shelves in their cart, one after another and I was just behind them. Suddenly the lady at first made a wrong turn ,probably she missed any item behind, hit the man below his knee with her cart's end. Though the hit was not so strong still I saw the man bend in pain for a moment but to my astonishment the lady had no effect and she not even say "SORRY" but rushes away from the scene. I and others behind me helped the young man and expressed our resentment.
Is this our social ethics and morality that saying a sorry makes us so ashamed?
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22 responses
@xiaomianboke (46)
• China
3 Nov 09
Hello friend,I may say 'NO' to your question. As we all kown different person have different opinions.I think the lady may be fell shy for being looked by you.We could not be unilateral for others.
@think_twice (553)
• India
3 Nov 09
But the question is about morality. We are taking lessons from our very primary education when to say sorry, when to ask for permission, when to apologize. So the lady must have that same basic learnings. Though she is not so old, near about 35 to 40. Then what was her bindings to say Sorry when she too knows her guilt very well?
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
3 Nov 09
Yeah, I do think that we should apologize when we do something wrong. That's not a shame. If everyone can do it ,a more harmonious world willbecome.
@Prabhalini (79)
• India
3 Nov 09
As years and centuries pass ,people are turning into more selfish and cruel people.I find many losing the sense of humanity and morality and taking the wrong path in life due to the various problems in their life.Kindness & love have become scarce and slowly might become extinct if all the people don't realise their importance very soon.SORRY is one of the golden words which these days people find hard to part with ,they are very stingy when it comes to saying sorry,I've noticed.
@behappyalways (93)
• India
3 Nov 09
Hi
if mistake is from my side, defenetly i say sorry.
I dont hesitate or feel ashamed to say soryy.
If the mistake is not mine, i expect the same from the other person too.
As we have to maintain ethics and values as we are human beings.
Thanks
BHA
@xinguang800 (68)
• China
3 Nov 09
The people become more and more selfishly, they do not so sorry even as he know he is wrong.there little understanding and little including.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
2 Nov 09
Wow, reading your story, it's quite sad to see that instead of being the 'model' since she's a lot older, she didn't even say her excuses for hitting the guy. I guess she didn't think it was necessary, but it's really not normal. Else, the old lady must have felt she didn't hit him that hard or was thinking of something else.
What did the others say?
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
3 Nov 09
She should said sorry before you left the scene. She has no moral standard, and she should be punished. At least, catch her and make her pay for the medication cost. She has to apologize somehow, and express her regret on that incident.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
2 Nov 09
I say sorry with sincere apology when i meant to especially if the problem result from my own mistakes. In case of the feeling of being ashamed like in this kind of scenario in a class the teacher call a student and no one bother to reply then she call a silent type student when she could not reply the teacher says she should say this word like, i am a bad girls, sorry. The is the cases when having to say sorry becomes an insult.
@shadow41 (2351)
• Philippines
2 Nov 09
There's nothing to be ashamed in uttering the sorry word. It's more shameful if one won't even ask for forgiveness. In your situation, maybe the lady just missed to say sorry because she's in a hurry or maybe she even missed to feel that she hit somebody. Sometimes when we're in a hurry we really couldn't sense everything in our way.
But still I know the lady was wrong. God forgive her.
shadow41
@goldenteardrops (747)
• United States
2 Nov 09
no shame in speaking and It takes a stronger person to admit it or say it. We all have our moments and it is good to know when one is wrong and knowing helps to make it right...
@workingmommy (67)
• Canada
2 Nov 09
What I find is people are too wrapped up in their own lives and have this mentality that the world owes them well they need to wake up and smell the coffee because they may have had a hard life but guess what someone else has had it harder and don`t expect the world to pave their way. Also I find that not many people are very paitient this I can with authority as I am a single mother to an 8 year old boy with autism and he screeches and screams or he plays roughly without meaning to either me or my mother are there constantly reminding him to play quietly or play gentle watch for the little ones etc. and every now and then we will come accross someone so ignorant that they cuss in my sons face. Point and fact my son was about five and we were in an elevator and a woman in a wheelchair was on too and my son was asking her why she was in the wheel chair instaed of saying something like I can go faster than you or whatever she very rudely said you sure do ask a lot of questions, now that is the way to spread ignorance and resentment to people that have different disablities.
@cobrateacher (8432)
• United States
2 Nov 09
Why would anyone be ashamed to admit they've made a mistake? We all do it, all the time! Of course I make a sincere apology when an apology is in order!
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
2 Nov 09
saying sorry shouldnt anyone feel ashame but should feel good because it shows you or they can admit to own mistakes.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
2 Nov 09
I think that saying sorry just comes easier to some than others. Nobody is proud to have to say that they are sorry. Saying you are sorry means you have wronged someone. Now you owe them an apology. Pride is not always an easy obstacle to overcome to admit to saying you are sorry. I've never felt ashamed to say I'm sorry, but I have been ashamed when I didn't admit to something when I was wrong.
@gmatthews (154)
• United States
2 Nov 09
It's human nature to make mistakes. It is not okay to just walk away though. I would have said something to the lady. That is just rude. She probably did not do it on purpose, but she still should have aplogized. She must be an interesting person to live with.
@borhan (1338)
• United States
2 Nov 09
There is no harm in saying sorry. Rather it will depict your sense of ethics, your education.
I personally never feel ashamed of telling sorry. Saying sorry is a daily part of our social bondages. Many a times saying this small word "sorry" helps me.
Thank you.
@masterclaw (8)
• Philippines
2 Nov 09
i really say sorry for those strangers people.. i also say sorry to my family.. sometimes i say sorry to my family through giving their some accessory to make them feel special for me...