Would you merry a man who don't have his own house?
By kekexinfeng
@kekexinfeng (1295)
China
November 2, 2009 6:54pm CST
House is a big big problem now,because it is so expensive,and we may can't afford it for a long time,so if a girl merry a man without house.They may move again and again, it is very troublesome.So many people choose the one with house.
What about you?
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7 responses
@rmorefield (941)
• United States
3 Nov 09
My husband (the guy in the pic with our daughter) didn't have a house when we met. I didn't care that he couldn't afford to buy his own house. I already had one of my own. I make more money than he does, so it naturally fell to me to be the one to pay most of the bills. I don't mind it because I can't stand the thought of having someone take care of me. I would rather be the one to take care of the people that I love. I chose him for himself and the fact that he loves me....not his money or lack thereof.
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@rmorefield (941)
• United States
4 Nov 09
Thank you so much for that wonderful compliment. I try to be the best and strongest woman that I can be for not only myself but for my children. I want my two sons to grow up with a positive opinion on strong women. I especially want my two daughters to grow up to be even stronger than I am. I believe that in this day and age, they have to be able to survive in a man's world and rely on themselves for stability. The "other person" in their lives should offer the emotional support they need, but I don't want them to be lost if something should happen to that relationship. I have seen a few of my aunts go through divorces, and then have to start from the beginning in their new lives because their husbands handled everything financial. They didn't think they could survive without "the man". I don't want that for my daughters.
@aprces (1082)
• China
3 Nov 09
I'm the one who is chosen whether have a house or not?
at least now i can't afford one in the f*uc china, but once i have one, i will not marry someone who won't marry me because of my not having a house. to be honest, rent is another good choice, most of chinese life is such a drag
at least now i can't afford one in the f*uc china, but once i have one, i will not marry someone who won't marry me because of my not having a house. to be honest, rent is another good choice, most of chinese life is such a drag1 person likes this
@kekexinfeng (1295)
• China
4 Nov 09
I think all the men like the girl that love himself not his money or house,however it is a social problem,most people are a bit impetuous,can't see the long-term,so most men have to buy a house to merry a girl,it is a pity of love!
Good luck,and wish you can merry a great girl!
@youless (112586)
• Guangzhou, China
3 Nov 09
I know house is a big problem. But I think we should marry to good men, rather than the houses. The life may be tough, but I think it can change one day by your efforts and hard working. Nobody will know the future. Perhaps the man you marry is poor today, but he may succeed and be rich one day. My husband comes to Guangzhou from another place, so he doesn't have his own house here. I don't think it is a matter before we got married. I have my house already. If I went to a new place alone, I would not have my own house, too. If a person is good, hard working and honest, why I should require him so much?
I love China
@danitykane (3183)
• Philippines
3 Nov 09
Hi! Oh yes why not?! I know some couple would love to own a house when they get married and that is very practical. But if my partner is not capable of providing me of such thing then I would still marry him. Because in the first place I wasn't fall in love for his money but with who he is as a person. Besides I could be a tool in helping him or us to have a house in the future.
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@kekexinfeng (1295)
• China
3 Nov 09
I am very happy that you are very rational,yes,it is the person we love not the money!
Good luck!
@alwayzzcitra (1861)
• Indonesia
4 Nov 09
You are right, house is indeed very expensive and not everybody can afford it. We got married at relatively young age and nope my husband doesn't have a house. Fortunately both of us are working, so it makes it easier to save some money. I hope next year we already able to buy one. :)
@mommyjewel (39)
• United States
3 Nov 09
My husband and I married young and neither one of us had a house or a dime to our name. For a time we lived with his sister and then we moved into our own apartment. After a year we were able to purchase a house together with my credit but both of our names are on the deed. In the end we did not move that many times except we will be selling our house soon and moving closer to family.
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@kekexinfeng (1295)
• China
3 Nov 09
You are a good girl,and I think if your husband look after you well,it is worth.
Wish you are happy!
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
4 Nov 09
When I was 19 years old I was single. I bought a little cottage and that became my home. I got made redundant and I went off traveling around the world. I met my ex-husband and he had the same wealth that I did at that time. Before we got married we signed a financial contract at a solicitors. We stayed married for six years and on divorce my possessions stayed mine. His possessions stayed his. I sold my cottage four years ago and with the money bought the house I live in. It is my home. I am not planning to marry again. I think that idea of marrying just because a person has a house is strange. It love that matters not money or possessions.
