Outcast!

how i wish my office mates before is like you, being sensitive to the feelings of others, because no matter how i try hard to approach them, they all seem so distant. I don't know, i think they are not happy to have me as their office mate. I heard that they want somebody else, someone that they know but sad to say, that somebody they know did not make it and besides it's not them that make the decision, and why would they force her if it will not qualify to the company's standard.

I always emphatize with people and if the feeling is negative-- i don't want others to feel the same so i will really exert extra effort to be responsive to their needs or to start up a conversation to make them feel relax. Why not? you can apply now hehehehehe- just kidding. Don't expect them to do it for you-- try to start doing it yourself, making other people special and comfortable.

I have also experience that in my office before. I am new employee so i have to reach out to them, but how can i reach out if they themselves have their own group and world. They talk about the things they bought: signature bags, shoes, and accessories and i can't relate to them. They want me to try buying it so i can be "IN" with the group but it seems that i don't have a lot of money and I'm on a tight budget. Because they belong to the " high class " lifetstyle and i don't want to level up to them. But mind you, I lasted 6 months because of contact.

I have also expericed the same thing in my last job, i was a newcomer there,and nobody talked to me, because they just spoke to the person within their group,they chatted, laughed but i'm alone. at that time, i told myself i appeared in the office was to work.i didnt care about other things. but in fact the job needed the cooperation of several deparments, and i had to get help from them, i tried to get a good relationships with them.as a result, i couldnt do what they usually do,at last,i decide to leave. i only worked there for three month which was not a good record in my CV,but i adhered to my decision that i think is great. i am myself again.

sometimes we do not really know where we place ourselves especially in this kind of situation. For me, it's a relief that my contract ended and hoping to meet friendly office mates on my next job. Thank you.

since i am not happy trying to fit their lifestyle, that's why i decided to get out of the group. You're right, when you are with the group, you seem to have the characters they have.As the saying goes: Birds on the same feather, flock together. When your group is acting too much beyond what is right, then i think better to move out before it's too late. Thank you.