Does conflict a tool to strengthens a relationship?

There are many advantages of a non-violent conflict in a relationship. However the benefits will only show when each one are willing to understand the needs of the other. Apart from having conflict there is a need for setting aside a time for recalling the points of the other side and if not to root out the wrong points of self.

i agree with you that sometimes conflict are necessary in some relationship, even in family. i also agree that through conflict we can learn each other and have tolerance for better long lasting relationship. But i think that all above are also depend to each person itself. if you are some kind open minded people, willing to learn and accept our self or others weakness, want to improve our self, then conflict are tools to strengthen the relationship. But if you or others don't, well, conflict are one of the best tools to destroy the relationship.

For the long run, conflict is really a good tool to strengthen the relationship for a couple. As you have said above, conflicts are necessary for getting to know each other. Perhaps some people hold the idea that the partners should treat each other with kindness, patience, understanding. But it is next to possible for a couple to keep friendly all the time and it is very common in family that the couple quarrel for some divergence of views. Through conflicts, people can get familiar with each other and enjoy a better life.

It is very much depend on the spouse how they handle the conflict situation... If the spouse can solve the conflict calmly, it is certainly a good tool in strengthening a relationship. This is because, communication increase, both of you understand each other more in the matter. However, if both party get angry whenever there is a conflict rised, no solution at all, it will be killer in your relationship. The wound is being digged deeper until everything broke down.