An ex who betrayed you in the past is now befriending you, would you accept him?
By carline76
@carline76 (56)
Philippines
November 3, 2009 6:53am CST
If you have broke up with an exboyfriend/exgirlfriend because he/she betrayed you for somebody else, after a year or two, he/she is communicating with you again, being friendly and all but do not intend to revive the relationship, would you entertain him/her as a friend?
I have had one. It is my nature to be forgiving and not keep ill feelings to others. But he just used me for emotional comfort and I regretted the day I talked to him again. He just dragged me back to the pain I've once had with him before.
5 responses
@carline76 (56)
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
Raisur, it's not about losing trust. He has no intention to come back to me. He's just communicated with me for emotional comfort even though he has already a new girlfriend who is not the one he betrayed me for. He also dumped the girl after me. But he no longer communicates with me now.
I'm just trying to figure out how others will deal with the situation. Thank you for your response =)
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
4 Nov 09
There's alot of ex's that I would not any longer befriend after breaking up. There was a time that an ex did come back and I had told him that I no longer wanted to be with him and then he stated that he just wanted to be friends. And come to find out that we wound up right back together. And then he betrayed me again and then the realization came back to me why we broke up in the first place. So, no I would no longer want to be friends with him, even if he had no intentions on getting back together and then plus on top of that, because I am now married.
@carline76 (56)
• Philippines
5 Nov 09
Good thing that you have finally found the right person, it's hard to find some good men nowadays.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
3 Nov 09
hum i think if they tell me sorry for the things they have done, yeah maybe just limit to talking once awhile at first. forgiving to the key we need to learn to do
@carline76 (56)
• Philippines
5 Nov 09
He did tell me that he's sorry but I feel that his apology lacks sincerity. He just apologized to me through SMS. We have not seen each other since we broke up or should I say, since he forced me to broke up with him.
What I wish is to see that he really regret hurting me. But as what it seems, he doesn't care for me at all.
@mtsarraga (56)
• Philippines
3 Nov 09
Over the years I've learned that people don't change. Not really. And unlike you, I'm not known to be forgiving. I can carry a grudge for years. Not that these are admirable qualities. What people should do is acknowledge that everyone is different. They should remain open minded but at the same time keep the ex at arm's length. That way they are able to determine their former partner's intentions and gauge the sincerity of the offer to reckindle a friendship.
@carline76 (56)
• Philippines
5 Nov 09
Thank you for your response. You know what, I wish that you would also learn to let go of those grudges, do it for your own good, not for the people who have hurt you.
I agree with you when you say "gauge the sincerity", true, that's what's missing from my ex-boyfriend. Moreover, his intention is undefined.
@josephtthomas (1)
•
3 Nov 09
If he/she is for real, then i guess you can always get back. But how you gonna make sure, is whats tricky. If you cant deny, you feel this sincerety that this guy/girl is expressing, i guess you can always give it a shot. As long as he/she is true to you, its fine as heaven for a freind. Everybody makes a mistake or two sometime!!!
