DO you have to look for love or will love find you?
By werdan88
@werdan88 (272)
Philippines
November 3, 2009 9:40am CST
Others say that you should not look for a partner in life, because love ould come knocking on your door when the right time comes.
Do you think that one should not look for love? or do you think otherwise that love is something sought for so that it can be felt and reciprocated by the other party.
If you answered that one looks for love, give reasons to support your answer. If your answer is love comes at the right time without looking for it, give reasons to support your answer as well.
"It is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all". :)
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14 responses
@gunagohan (3414)
• India
4 Nov 09
well, i'm a boy of 19 and i have not met any girl who crossed my feelings in my heart..it means that i have not found my love...i did not court for any girls, i do wait because, i'd let the love come and find me....it's because if i court for any girl to fell in love, the society and neighbourhood will talk about me in the second manner..so i think that i will wait for the time patiently to let love come and knock my door..
happy mylotting.
@penshopers (9)
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4 Nov 09
if you keep on doing what your doing, you keep on getting what your getting
@cheriezhao (246)
• China
4 Nov 09
i would waitting for my love,because i belive in destiny.everything was arranged early,my lover too,just be patient,need a little time!
@gunjanpri (603)
• India
4 Nov 09
I found my love when I really stopped searching for it. I though he is a geek first time, when I saw him. He seemed to me totally arrogant, rude and manner less. But soon I became cordial with him and I did not even realize how did I fell in love with him. Today for last two years he has become my heart and soul companion. We got married last year and now expecting our first child..
@ChrysanTflower (1607)
• Indonesia
4 Nov 09
Hi werdan88
Nice question. When I was in junior high school, I search for this topic in school library because..well, my puppy love life not really good,,hehe.
Then, I come to this conclusion. I think love will find me. There is always time for everything, also for love. No need to search or fight to find love, it is natural. Just like birds find its mate or mice or whatever animals. But, I don't mean we just sitt back and do nothing. I mean, open your heart for love, don't be so pessimist about love. If someone come and try to attract your attention, give him chance, show your respect. If you still don't like him/her, say it patiently, don't give fake hope. If you see someone interesting, give signals if you want, and watch his/her response. If there is possibility then do it (Well, I am a girl and personally I never try to attract attention from any guy, so don't ask me about attracting strategies or whatsover). It is a waste of time to insist your feeling to someone. If he/whe doesn't love you, just leave him.
To maintain good relationship, we need participation from both side. So, make sure your partner love you, that's my moto![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@getbrowser (1708)
• China
4 Nov 09
It is not a wise choice to wait the love knocking on our door.
According to what I know, or through my experience in person, to be active to look for a partner in life is more helpful than building castles in the air. For example, in my country, China, just for lagre amonts of pupulation, there are full of keen competition in many areas, such as education, work, house and love. If one tend to wait a true love coming all the time other than being active, he/she may not find their true love for ever.
It is next to impossible for us to wait the love comeing at the right time without looking for it. Action is the key to look for the real love.
@Linz1368 (13)
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4 Nov 09
I strongly believe that everything in this life happens for a reason, and that includes love/your soulmate finding you. In my experience my true love appeared in my life quite unexpectedly when I had sworn myself off men and relationships, as I'd had enough of being hurt and betrayed. We both knew from the start we were soulmates and meant to be together, we've been together 6years now and married in August this year. Love will find you when you least expect it, go looking for it and you may find it's not the real deal.
@jbrooks0127 (2324)
• United States
4 Nov 09
Using my self as an example this question cannot be answered with one or the other. You first must be open to finding love and then actively look for it.
Of course if your in no hurry and you feel like if you never have love for the rest of your life then you can simply wait for it to happen. But you may wait a very long time.
I am now in my third marriage. I am not a man that likes or needs to live alone. My first marriage was for 37 years and we divorced because she had an affair. My second wife I found because I looked for her on the Internet. Never would have found her otherwise. Problem with that is she had poor health and passed away after only 4 years.
When I recovered from that I was well past retirement age. Not likely any women would come knocking on my door and I am not much for bars and the usual meeting places. Church and senior centers just did not get it. So I went back to the Internet and a dating site.
I thought I was only then looking for a companion and not anything serious. Wrong. I found her within the first month and we married 4 months later.
In each case had I waited for love it never would have come. I had to actively look for it and then it come.
As for your final statement.....YES it is much better to have loved and lost than to never loved at all. It can be very painful but then, in the final analysis, it only gets better and better.
@Wizzywig (7847)
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3 Nov 09
No, I dont think you should actively look for love or a partner. I think many people make the mistake of thinking they have found 'the one' but the REAL love of their life is still out there. Its like most good things...nice to find but even better if it turns up when you least expect it.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
4 Nov 09
I think love just comes even if we don't look for it. My husband was an officemate, we never think will end up with each other as we were very good friends but we both found love in our friendship.
@TJenkins602 (142)
• United States
3 Nov 09
This is a real good question. I'd say that you can look for love, but you must be open to love when he/she appears. I would say the best thing you can do is to love yourself first, (do everything you can to improve yourself in everyway possible) have a passion, a purpose, and work to fulfill that purpose and you will most likely find love along the way.
@EARLZHAN (934)
• Philippines
4 Nov 09
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@shreyas1121 (1)
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4 Nov 09
Obviously love finds us..................
We do not need to run behind love ,because all the things are already set in the court of the almighty God.
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