Why do young parents get scholarship and young single people dont!

November 3, 2009 11:28am CST
I find the practice of giving young single moms and dads money to go to college - based solely on the fact that they have children - extremely unfair.I am a young adult , who works full time ,pays my bills on time , doesn't get into trouble and has been responsible enough to not have children before I am mentally or financially ready to have them. While I don't think I deserve anything special for this , as it is the way I am supposed to act , I certainly don't agree with giving money to young people who have been IRRESPONSIBLE with the birth control and have one or more children. When you think about who is more likely to excel in a college situation.A person who has no responsibilities other than themselves , who can dedicate and take away everything from a class? Or a person with 3 children who must take care of the children first , themselves second , and school third?The single person is much more likely to complete and finish the degree than the single parent who may not have the time. I think NO money should be given to anyone based on their race , religion , or child status.ALL scholarships should be merit driven and based upon the abilities of the person applying for the scholarship. What do you guys think?
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12 Feb 10
I am so happy I am not the only person who feels this way....I am over $30,000 in federal school loan debt. And still not making enough money to pay them back with my current degree. I wish I could get a break for going back to school. I need to go to grad school so I can make more money but how will I pay for that. But let me go have some kids and I have everything paid for. And I'll get a nice lil break come income tax time instead of the sorry $500.oo I get for not having any children. I mean seriously the government thisnks this is logical. People with kids who can't afford them already get free housing, free day care, free education, food stamps, a break on electricity...can I get a break?
• United States
25 Mar 10
I find this debate very interesting. I was a good student and a responsible young person but I came from such a poor and unhealthy home that I couldn't even apply for federal or state financial aid for school because I couldn't get any info from my father. My saving grace at that time was a minority scholarship at a historically black university (I'm white). The requirements were good academic scores, a full-time commitment and ...being white! Now I work as a community volunteer assisting teenage mothers. I admit that before I started working with these young ladies I was judgemental. I was annoyed with their lack of responsiblity and how they seem to get everything for free as a reward for their poor choices. Now that I know them and the reality of their situations, I am impressed by their level of responsibility and commitment to their children. I respect the hard choices they make every day. They don't get everything for free like I had assumed. They have to find childcare so they can go to school and work part-time to pay for diapers and formula. Some have free health care, others do not. Some get formula assistance, some don't. None of them get assistance with diapers and all the other things babies need. Any one of them who is willing to better her life and her child's life by seeking a college education is a champion in my eyes. I hope and pray others will continue to be sensitive to their struggles and offer financial assistance for them to go to college. Most scholarship require students to maintain a certain GPA, so they still have to work hard to keep it. No one contributes more to the betterment of society than mothers. Our motto is "Better Moms Make a Better World". Educated, self-sufficient women may make better mothers.
@coolcoder (2018)
• United States
5 Nov 09
I am a young adult, who works full time,pays my bills on time, doesn't get into trouble and has been responsible enough to not have children before I am mentally or financially ready to have them. I find your self-righteous attitude to be extremely nauseating. How dare you assume that people are "irresponsible" just because they chose to have children? Believe it or not, not everyone is going to live the way you choose to live. And then this statement: While I don't think I deserve anything special for this, as it is the way I am supposed to act, I certainly don't agree with giving money to young people who have been IRRESPONSIBLE with the birth control and have one or more children. I want to vomit at this statement. It's a couple's choice as to how many children they have, and if they want more than one child, so be it. There's nothing IRRESPONSIBLE about that. If they've managed to discipline themselves by setting a set time every night to study, which results in good grades and thus a scholarship, then who are you to gripe? And this business about acting the way you're supposed to act, believe it or not, not everyone follows your pre-determined course of living. But then, you're so busy assuming things and judging everyone, this would never cross your mind. Get over yourself, please.