Why is my brother-in-law so concened about my body weight?

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My brother-in-law and I were in a conversation about general topics. And all of a sudden he told me that there was a product that I could use that would shrink my belly fat. He said that he told some girls about it and they have used it. and it has worked for them. Which I thought was great. But, I am somewhat confused... I did not ask of his opinion about my body size.. I felt offended after this conversation was over with. I told my husband about it. And he said that I should have stood up for myself. He told me that his brother had no right to approach me about my body weight. So, it bothered me and I could not just let him get away with being too personal with me. A week later I calmly and politely told him that he should keep his comments to himself. I told him if I did not ask of his opinion, that he should not give it. It is so many things that I can get on him about, about himself. But, I don't. He does what he do. So, I try to keep my personal comments to myself. It bothered me because, if he saw my belly, then I know that he has been viewing my rear end.. He is my brother-in-law, not my health doctor. I don't want him to come to me in that kind of manner. It is very uncomfortable. Especially, coming from his mouth. I told him about this, and he has never been too personal to me ever since.. My mother-in-law said that he was out of line for saying that to me. Honestly, my belly fat is not all that big, My brother-in-law has never accepted the fact that I have put on added weight. He is used to seeing me skinny like a string bean. But, since I had my kids, I have put on an extra 40lbs. I don't look fat at all. I am still a small medium size. When he told me that it made me feel fat and ugly. My brother-in-law is very tall and skinny. He eats a lot of empty calories, which are sweets.. I guess to his eyes I am a little plump.. But I am not. He should worry about himself. I am not at the risk of being unhealthy with my added weight. I wondered.... He is always on the phone texting and talking to all kinds of girls all day long.. When I was in college 12 years ago, he claimed to have seen me on campus.. I wondered if he had some kind of attraction for me.. Not that I wanted him to. And one time a couple of years later after that, he was trying to talk to me in the mall.. He wanted to get with me... I was not at all interested. The guy looked just like him.. I turned him down so fast... This was before I met his brother, which is his brother, whom I have been married to for eight years.