Dating online - YES or NO?

On line dating... A very interesting and controversal discussion. Though the internet would like to take credit for the "distance" dating, it started long before Bill Gates opened our "windows" and let the world into our living rooms. Known as Pen-pals, people have been writing to people they had never met since writing existed. WWII saw a huge growth in the pen-pal movement. Many people that began writing to those they had never met secured a love and relationship that lasted their entire life-time. The argument that on-line dating is so much more dangerous Because of the internet is untrue. The fact that their are millions mor people in the world today makes it more dangerous, The times we live in, not the means we use. When pen-pals wrote, they had their addresses on the envelopes. I can chat someone up and never reveal where i live. This being said, on-line dating is the pen-pal of today. It has with out a doubt broughts worlds together. It has taken 10,000 miles, the other side of the world and made it as close as your PC screen. While countries collide in anger and hatred and wars, the internet has allowed us to see people in a new light. I have experienced on-line dating and have been blessed to meet some very wonderful and beautiful ladies. I have met in person and experienced relationships that have been forever etched in my soul. I have also met some that, well, plain and simple, were scarey. lol. Certainly, I, just like many others, had to learn by mistakes about the false people on-line. I had to find out the j=hard way that some people are NOT who nor what they claim to be on-line. Shania look-a-likes turned out to be "coyote uglies" and sweet and shy sometimes was actually aggressive and wild. After many years of smiles and yikeses, I learned to take time to get to know the person I was going to meet. I learned to read slower and feel the person. It may be typing but if you are attentive to the one you are talking to, you can pick up on things that just don't feel right. Somewhere along the road in chating to one person, they will relax and then you can see them for who they are. On-line dating has become not just a popular thing to do but a lucrative business. match-me or Eharmony or whatever else is out there are raking in more money than you could fathom from the on-line dating. That means there is a huge ammpunt of on-line dating out there. Is it safe? It is as safe as you make it. There is for certain the opportunity to meet some very wonderful people. There is an interaction that has beautiful side to it. And though yes, it can perhaps close your mind to the world directly in front of you, the on-line dating can be a rewarding experience in Many many ways. Once again you have brought up a wonderful discussion and i love going to your place. Hugsssss for this one and whoever finds you in their quest qwill be a very very lucky man ,.... ;)

Hello my friend zandi458 Ji Inever had such experience in person as well for dating. It is not possible in our customs and traditions. We meet only during marraiges. Als so far it has not even enteredin my family. I have nil experience, except that we used to chat with our daughter and SIl, whentehy were in UAE. Now taht charm ha sbeen driven away by contact on cell. I tghink it is not perfect and fool=proof solutions to serve basic purpose of dating. Dating in person only should be encouraged, May God less You and have a graet time.

For some it could be a blessing of what they look for but for most I dont think dating on line is a very good way to go.

i have both positive and negative aspects of dating online. one girl i know fell in love with a guy that lived in the us (we are in canada) and ended up marrying him (they are still trying to get their residences sorted out between the two countries) and another girl i know drove to the us to meet this guy she fell in love with only to find out there was NO SUCH PERSON!

I’ve been married for almost 14 years and I have not even had Internet access during all that time let alone considered online dating! I did ask myself the question though; if I was single and looking for love would I consider online dating? I suppose I would… I know there are dangers and it is a known fact that there area lot of instances where people hide who they really are with the intention to deceive but for the most part people are genuine enough I suppose. I guess just like in the ‘real’ world care should be taken when meeting someone new to ensure safety at all times and to look at it in a more romantic way I suppose it ‘it’s meant to be’ it will happen on or off line!

Hi Zandi, Although i never tried out this kind of online dating, but i still prefer to stay away from it, even if someone telling me, the advantage of it. Because it's just very risky, as we never know the real intention of the person who wants to befriend us. I still prefer the olden days dating, where i can meet face to face of the person that i plan to date with, just like i get to know my hubby. During my time, dating online also seems not really popular yet, as most people still don't really have own personal internet connection at that time. Only in these recent years, then dating online had been a very popular site, for those who are lonely and no time to go outdoor to date. Anyway, better be careful not to fall trap into any unwanted issue and regret later on....

When I was on the dating scene it was something that I would have never tried. It seems so impersonal to meet someone on the computer, but times are changing and it seems as though more and more people are meeting and getting into relationships via the computer. My brother even did it and he has been married now for six years so I guess it works for some people.

Hi Zandi, I know some people do it but it is not anything I would ever consider. to me it is just building someone up in the mind and for me attraction is always part of it. I know that for me appearance counts, and certain traits to such as looking people in the eyes and carrying themselves with confidence. These things are unknown quantities without direct contact. Although certainly friendships can be formed on line, dating is completely a different matter, for myself at least.

Nothing is Impossible dear,, It all depends on our own decisions,most important is to have faith,patience, etc,, (Not easy though),, I do believe everything happens on the right time,, Do we agree?

I personally have not done any chat nor dating online. But I have colleagues who got married due to online chat, became friends, dating and happily married. Another friend of mine who is a Malaysian, staying in the US got to chat online with a Mongolian girl. Went to Mongolia to visit her twice. the chemistry is right and now they are married. I too have another friend who suffers from online chat and dating. This result in a broken marriage later and now she stays single.

I don't think internet dating is good because there is no interaction. Granted you get to know a person for who they are, but you can be whomever you wish online typing. I believe the more time you spend with someone physically, is the only way you're really going to get to know someone. A person can look like Brad Pitt online, but when you meet them they could be deranged Robert Downey Jr. You just never know....I like to see who I'm with. my opinion of course...i'm old skool

Dating online has helped millions of people find their loved ones. Some people just do not have the social ability to talk to others. It is a rather sad thing I would say, I have worked with a major dating site for a number of years and the one thing I thought was difficult was to speak to these heartbroken people who were simply desperate. Especially for elderly people having long distances between sites it can be very useful to have dating online. As long as these people do so with a website which screens members then I would definately recommend dating online.

Personally, I see nothing wrong with using the internet to broaden your horizons and meet new people; as long as you are genuine and do it with care. There are possibilities of harm from online dating but I think that if you are careful enough it could be a fun think. I met my fiance online. At the time I NEVER thought we would be sharing the rest of our lives together but we found eachother and 4-5 years later have a beautiful son together and are planning our wedding!!!! Life is full of surprises so if you have an open mind many great things can come!

I personally don't think I would go for online dating because I can't imagine myself meeting a random stranger through the internet for anything more than friends from the get-go. I don't think I would mind as much if I just met a really nice guy online and we just wanted to be friends but that later on, it could escalate into something more, but I just can't imagine dating someone that I just met over the internet. I mean, maybe that's just me right now and I'll change later, but that's how I feel at the moment.

You are correct, online dating opens more horizons, but also more dangers. In many ways it is just as distance dating has always been though, but moves much faster.

hi zandi, i have not ever tested by online chating so i dont know how it works in our day to day life. but i think it is one of the best ways to meet and interect world wide. but if you consider mylot as an chatting cite, then yes i do chat. thanks.

Before, I am not much with the Online Dating thing. But as the time goes by, a long time friend of mine who is now in abroad invite me to a site. For many years have past, I open it again looking for a chances to meet a friend or even to serious relationship. I got a lot of friends in this site, even my boyfriend I have found here. There are some sites are not good for online dating. It is still we have to be careful. I am just lucky to have my love.

Dating online is not safe because a lot of bad guys nowadays used the internet as a hub of their bad works. So you guys who like online dating just be careful. Much better if you have a date not online but personal date and it must be in public where there are a lot of people seeing with you. Like dating in Parks is safe than in a strange place.

[b][/b]On the internet as elsewhere we must be careful in meeting, use a common sens,trust must be earned and you can take your time before giving it to srangers,Be sure the integrity and sincerity of your callers before giving them your confidence.

for me theres nothing wrong on online dating because you only wanted to meet new friends we could also meet our soul mates there. there is nothing wrong if all on the people there are honest and truth to their words.