Pain management

@carmelbg (519)
November 4, 2009 6:11am CST
My husband had an accident at work over a year ago now which hurt his back very badly. After many appointmets and going from doctor to doctor it was discovered he has fybromyalgia. This causes him terrible pain which sometimes brings him to his knees. I now have to do a lot of the jobs he used to be able to do as if he tries to do them he is out of action for a few days. He has some very strong pain killers from the doctors, the next strongest are used for cancer patients. I am very concerned about him taking these strong medications all the time and I would like to learn about alternate ways for him to deal with his pain. All these tablets are bad for his stomach, liver and kidneys. He has a TENS machine which works sometimes - do you know of any other non- medication techniques of dealing with chronic pain? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
9 responses
@firemom31 (598)
• United States
4 Nov 09
Is the pain from the back injury or the fibromyalgia. The methods of alleviating pain will be different for each. I have fibromyalgia and can offer nummerous resources, if that's the source of his pain. I'll check back later for your reply.
@carmelbg (519)
4 Nov 09
Its the fibromyalgia that is causing the pain - any tips you have would be appreciated.
• United States
4 Nov 09
I can only tell you what my experience was, and each of us is unique, but maybe something that helped me will help him. When I was first diagnosed I was so bad that I could hardly get in or out of the car without falling (due to weak muscles), I was kept up at night with pain and muscle spasms, I was exhausted all the time, my feet were numb, I could barely get through combing my hair because the muscle in my arms ached so baddly. I went through hundreds of tests. I ended up on 13 prescriptions, each with it's own horrid side effects. One day I called my rheumatologist and asked him I could cause harm to myself by exercising even though it hurt. He said no, so I set off on a mission. I got a treadmill and exercise bike. I started swimming several days a week. I honestly believe the swimming was the most beneficial thing I did, because it was the one exercise I could do that didn't hurt. I kept going inspite of the pain, not because I am that tough, but because I noticed that over a couple of weeks the pain began to decrease. I then started going to a massotherapist, which was also an amazing therapy. I then started to wean off all of the pills and began taking a good multi- vitamin and using a malic acid/magnesium supplement. The supplement was incredibly helpful and once all of these things were in place my pain started to decrease daily. It took over a year of that routine to get something close to normal, but I went from having my Dr suggest that I apply for disability to being healthy enough to work as an EMT on the fire dept. Firbromyalgia is NOT a psychological illness, but determination and knowledge can go a long way toward overcoming the worst of it. I do still have flares and they can be quite painful, but other than extra sleep, I am able to push on through them and they are much shorter because of it. If your hubby is careful to not do anything to hurt his back, he should be able to find an exercise program that works for him. I highly recommend swimming for folks with back problems. Just a little FYI - many cases of fibro are started as the result of a back injury.
@TrvlArrngr (4045)
• United States
4 Nov 09
I had a bad car accident and crushed my heel in 2006. I was off my feet for over 6 months and it was a long (and is still) recovery. I still limp alittle. It swells and hurts with the changes in the weather or if I walk or stand too much. It has drastically changed my life. The first year I lived on pain killers - oxy, vicadon, percoset, you name it. I finally told my surgeon I did not want anymore. I had to take too many to even feel slightly better. My brother, who had back surgery a few years ago, told me about glucosamine. He told me to take it every day. its an over the counter natural supplement for joint pain relief. In just 7 days I walked an entire outlet mall (charlotte) and did not have to sit down once! I still suffer, dont get me wrong, but this has changed my life for the better. Have him ask his doctor if they think it would help him. I asked my surgeon why he did not tell me about it and he said it is a natural supplement and not proven. He and most doctors only like to write prescriptions. I wish you the best of luck. Keep your chin up!
@carmelbg (519)
4 Nov 09
Thanks for the advice, I am really interested in the Glucosamine, at least its natural. We will go out on the hunt for it, I am living in Eastern Europe at the moment and still figuring out where to source everything. We will certainly try it!
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
4 Nov 09
i feel him, i also have chronic back pain as well neck, shoulder and knees. i refuse to take strong pain pills after my operation on my back i got hook up them and had to take myself off of them. even now i refuse to take strong pain pills but i have some that are less strong and often will work good for me. all i can to him is listen to the doctors and dont do what he's not suppose to do. i didnt listen last year and was out doing everything i knew i shouldnt now i mess up my body even more
@carmelbg (519)
4 Nov 09
Hi, I try to warn him not to overdo it. He gets very frustrated with his lack of mobility sometimes as he was so active before. He is only 35 and finds the situation quite unfair. He is getting better at resting when he needs to but its taken him some time not to keep doing himself more harm. Its a learning curve for him as some days he can be fine and do work in the garden etc, then somedays just bending down to pick something up can send him into a pain cycle. We will keep pushing on though.
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
5 Nov 09
It is very hard to make any suggestion for it involved a very serious accident. It would be better that a real professional make a sound judgement on what your husband is going through.
• United States
4 Nov 09
As a licensed massage therapist, I have seen this too many times. The doctors continue to give him pain pills which only act as a band aid to temporarily hide the pain, not get rid of it. He has a physical problem, he needs a physical solution. And no and not one of those crazy out there massage therapist. I believe medicine has a time and place. I am antibiotics for a sinus infection right now. My first suggestion would be to try massage therapy. You want to ask around and find one that is good in your area. If that doesn't work, I'd move on to acupuncture. I think looking at alternative methods needed to be tried before they increase his meds. And a few FYI things, if he ever using a heating pad, make sure it is not a dry heating pad, moisten a washcloth and put it b/t him and the pad. Ice is always okay. And there is a wonderful product out there called Biofreeze. Similar to icy hot but 100 X better.
• United States
4 Nov 09
Massotherapy (and Biofreeze) helped my fibro tremendously!
@allknowing (136582)
• India
4 Nov 09
You need to consult a physiotherapist who can do wonders for those who suffer from fybromyalgia. He should be provided with all xrays and other images that will clearly show the cause and with regular exercises recommended by the physiotherapist your husband should be up and about soon. I wish him good health.
@carmelbg (519)
4 Nov 09
He did have a course of physio but after a while he found the exercises caused him morepain. It was found that it was not the correct treatment and the doctor stopped the treatment all together.
• United States
4 Nov 09
Oh dear, I am sorry to hear this. I have EDS, athritis and fybromyalgia. The pain is off the chart day in and day out. I found that pain pills only take the edge off, if at all. They make me sleepy, cause constipation, and hurt my stomach ulcer. I wish I had an answer for you. I took a med for the fybromyalgia fromt the specialist, and it made my mind confused and forgetful. I went off it, as it was horrible and I still hurt. I wish him well, and hope you can find something that will work for him.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
4 Nov 09
i was hit by a car 2o years ago and hurt my knees, but iwith wear and tear as well as pregnancies, i find that they are sore all the time. i have been to a number of doctors, but they dont want to do knee replacement surgery yet so am stuck with the pain. i would advise your hubby to know his limitations and maybe get a second opinion. also, check out and see if there are any chronic pain support groups in your area. they can provide a wealth of information!
• Boston, Massachusetts
4 Nov 09
Hi CarmelBg, Please accept my sincere prayers for you and your husband to be spared from other pains and God's healing be with your husband. I can't say more my friend... i just want to let you know that you have someone here in mylot praying for you and your family. Be strong!