Are u agreed stay with father in law & mother in law???

Hi, Celine! I would rather stay with my own parents or have my own house than staying under one roof with my parents-in-laws. Compared to man, it will always be a different environment for a woman when staying with their in-laws. Things can get complicated if you are not satisfied of something and sometimes you can't even say what you feel as if you have no rights to say anything and that you are always wrong if you stay at your in-law's house. They tend to make comments on whatever things you are doing. Sometimes it's just plain awkward that you have to be very careful with what you say and do. Yes, it can be hard for your hubby as well because he has to take care of both parties, so, sometimes, you will have hard feelings because you are his wife and you expect him to back you up no matter what. So, if you have enough financial support, discuss with your hubby. It is better to have your own house where you can live independently with your hubby and child. Good luck!!

if you stay with parents-in-law, there will be a lot of conflict. Without own house, you can rent apartment with your hubby. i do not like to live with parents-in-law because we have a different habit. now we live far from them. in the future they are too old to take care of themselves, and i think i will rent a house near my house for them. we can visit them every day.

It is Indian tradition that married boys stay with their parents along with their wives. They take care of old parents and in turn their kids benefit from the grandparents. So I too stayed with my in-laws for 10 long years. Yes, it was difficult but there were many advantages too, esp. for my child. My mother in law took care of my son while I worked at office. Its convenient for the boys too as they inherit the father’s house and don’t have to make their own house, which is expensive.

hi, i do not like to stay with my parents in law i think although we do not live together. it would have so many troubles. quarreling between people is so normal. if we quarrel with our own parents, that's ok. get better after days, but if women quarrel with her mom in law, that's the problem. it gets tense. and the husband, son would be hard to make a decision who be helped.

Stay with your mother and father until your lazy husband gets a job and supports you properly. If you go to the in law's house you will probably end up becoming their slave. What I mean is they will make you do all the chores and not even give you time to spend with your child or husband. Maybe I'm being a bit negative, but rarely have I seen anyone happy living with their in-laws. Why can't your husband rent an apartment? Does he have a job? I wish you the best and hope you find a good house where you can raise your child.

Hi Celineml. I have to agree with the rest that it's hard to live with the in laws. I'm married to with a kid and both me and my hubby preferred to rent a place than live with our in laws or even with my parents. In as much as I don't want to be pesimistic, I hate having issues with in laws and even if we don;t experience that right now, it's bound to happen that there will be conflict sooner or later. It's still best to look for a plac of your own. Goodluck with your decision.

used to live with the in-laws before i had my son. stayed there a few times since then for various reasons. but i wouldn't be staying the night if my partner or son weren't there as well. like last yr when my partner had the car accident, my stayed there so he could sleep in and i went home. even thou i'd be round there early the next morning to milk the cows. it just didn't feel right, staying there with out him. if you can get a house to live in of your own go for it, living with other couples can put a lot of stress on your relationship. cause everyone like things different.

i think there's a saying somewhere that when you get married you must leave your father's house and build one of your own. not just a house, i mean, when you get married, you agreed to build a new life together. but if you still stay with each others parents, problems will arise. i hope that your situation would change for the better since you now have your own kid. honestly, it's really your husband's job to support your new family. maybe rent an apartment or room or something

I eould prefer to buy my own home rather than have to live with my in-laws. I think that married couples, especially those with children need to have a home of their own to thrive. I know that there are some cultures in which it is the normal thing for several generations and their spouses and children to all live together, but personally, I think that in order for a couple to be able to be a couple and to raise their children the way they feel is best, they really need a place all of their own. There are some times when married couples with childrfen have to live with family (in-laws) for a while so that they can get on their feet, or due to health reasons. In those situations, things tend to work themselves out because it is necessary.

It is hard to live with your in-laws sometimes because it arises many problems and if you don't gets well with your in-laws it can cause fights and misunderstanding. I think if you want to buy a house for your family you should help your husband. You should go back to him and have a heart to heart talk if what his plan for your family. If your husband doesn't seem to care about your future I think you should think if you going to be with him or not.

Hi Celine, I am staying with my in-laws since I am married.No choice,that time my husband did not plan to buy own house.Stayin with in-laws has pros and cons. At least, the house is merrier and on emergency,we have someone at home to help up. Probably next year I will be moving to my new house.My husband has bought single storey terrace house last year.It is better for us to have own house as my son is growing up and our things are getting more and more.At the current bedroom,it is really not enough space to keep all our things. Actually staying with in-laws is not bad too,but some old folks are more on nagging type,so just bear with them.I am so lucky tht my in-laws are very kind to me.Not the nagging type.I stay with them happily.

Hi, For me, my first option is to buy a house that if there's a budget and money to pay the mortgage and my second option is to rent a place. Staying to my in-laws not part of the option as I find it complicated. Anyway, I suggest that you and your hubby should talk it over whats best for you both. You're a family and such decision should be discussed before jumping to it. br, jamzy

Hi Celineml I Suggest you to first stay with your hubby. And help him to buy a own home.U and your hubby are not different.Together you both can make big difference.Dont think father-in law n mother- in law are different,think they also as your mom and dad.Off course i agree some problems might some, but its that you how your are handling it.If your hubby is not co-operating with you,then i agree with you that you can stay in your own house.but before taking any decision be patient and be adjustable.

I think you should let your child to be taken care by your parents in law or your parents, then you should go to work with your hubby, this way, you both can earn money to buy a house, then after about a couple of years, both of you can move out with your child to the "new" house