How do you take unsolicited advice?
By careguarden
@careguarden (5670)
Philippines
November 5, 2009 5:28am CST
Sometimes it's not easy to give unsolicited advice because mostly people take it in a different way. Like when you advice to your friend or family to quit smoking or drinking because it will do no good for them. Or when someone you care stay in a abusive relationship and you advice her to stay away from it. Sometimes they take it in a different way, like it's their life, we don't have the right to tell them what's right or wrong. Even though we truly care for them. Do you like people giving unsolicited advice?
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8 responses
@mdmdeg (38)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
I think that is why it is called unsolicited. It depends on how a person will take it or if the situation calls for it.
In my opinion, I do not give unsolicited advice. I only listen to someone who complains and it is up to them if they want my advice. If they do ask for it that is when I give my advice.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
Yeah, it's good to just listen to someone who has lots of problem than giving advice but sometimes when you care the person and you witnessed how she ruin her life, you can't just listen and sit down. You can't help not to speak up and tell her what she's doing is good and bad.
Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
When people give you advice especially those who's close to you, it only mean that they care for you and giving advice not asked is the only way they know to show that they care. They said that those who take advice are more superior that those who give.
Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
6 Nov 09
Let me put it this way? What if no one gave you unsolicited advice and you were fired from your job because your personal hygiene was not good? It happened to me. I am positive had someone said to me, A- why do you not use a stronger deoderant or why not take a bath twice a week instead of once a week, I would have snapped their head off. After all then i was in my early 20s and I take after my father, I flare up and then it is all over. But the advice no matter how unwanted would be something that needed to be said.
And if it is who you are going with, maybe they are telling you to think a little before committing yourself. After all, if the other is a spend thrift, once you know, you will make sure that you save enough so that one can live in the style ---
@ally12 (1202)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
Unsolicited advice can be carried out in a light manner.If it was done with sensitivity then I think no mature person would not accept it with positive view.Unsolicited advice are sometimes rejected due to use of harsh and sarcastic phrases.I think it should be done responsibly with anticipation to the feelings of the recipient.
@Rainegurl (2156)
• Philippines
5 Nov 09
I look at it this way, the person giving unsolicited advice cares enough about me that he gives an advice. Well, I try to be positive as much as I can. There are just unsolicited advice, especially from people I barely know, that are just irritating. I try to be polite even in cases like that but I immediately walk away to avoid any more discussions.
Cheers!
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@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
5 Nov 09
I have nothing against those people who give me advices even I am not asking for it. I am actually glad because I know they are just concern to me. They don't want bad things happened on me. It is up to me if I would take their advices. In the end, it is still me who will decide. They are just instrumental for a healthy and wise decision.
