Are you happy where you are ???
By K.Rajib G.
@krajibg (11922)
Guwahati, India
November 5, 2009 5:47am CST
Many people are not happy where they are located at present. They would rather prefer to be in some other places as they think life would have been better there.
Though my home is in the city I live in a small town and contended that I have all the privacy and no disturbance from without. This is the place of my choice and would hate to exchange a flat in the city.
How about you? Are you happy where you are? Or would like to be in some other place of your liking?
Please share.
Rajib. 05/11/09
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77 responses
@metrobelle (398)
• India
7 Nov 09
I am happy staying in a city even though am from a small town. I do enjoy going to my hometown occasionly or for that matter any place to rewind myself. But that does not mean I dislike the present place of stay. The definition of being happy staying at a place is quite subjective according to me.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
7 Nov 09
Be happy wherever you are. But sometime this becomes a bit difficult. If the place is not suitable him/her life would surely become a hell.
@RawBill1 (8531)
• Gold Coast, Australia
6 Nov 09
I live on the outer edges of a great city. It is small and easy to get around and has an abundance of amazing beaches! We live in the oldest town in the area. It used to be a country town, but the coastal city has moved inland gradually over the years to meet it.
My town is also the gateway to magnificent World Heritage listed National Parks with heaps of massive waterfalls and amazing sub-tropical rainforest. The climate here is very good also, not too cold in the winter and a long summer!
The only thing that I do not like is that it is getting busier here all the time. This is the fastest growing area in the country as around 50 people per week move here from all over Australia and the world! I would like to stay in the region, but move out to some property in the country areas away from the crowds!
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@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
11 Nov 09
HiRawBill,
Nice elaboration of your location. While reading the piece I could well visualize the scene. This is a fact that all towns around the globe are bulging everyday.
I hail your decision to move to some property in the country. I love the country side better than cities and crowded suburbs.
@RawBill1 (8531)
• Gold Coast, Australia
11 Nov 09
Yeah, it would be great to buy some land, but at the moment the rural areas close by are out of our reach financially and we do not want to move too far away as the kids are pretty settled here in school and we all have loads of good friends here!
An hour or so south of us, the landscape is beautiful and the land is cheaper, but we feel it would be hard on the kids to move at this stage!
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
5 Nov 09
Need I ask for anything better than where I am now? Sure I am happy where I am now though I have just relocated myself to this place 3 years ago, a far away land from where I originally come from. The present dwelling where I am in is located some 200 miles from my home and it is the most serene place I have ever landed myself. This place provides me with the peace that I needed most. It is here that I enjoy the greenery of the still virgin jungles and the unpolluted air plus cost of living is much lower compared to my townhouse.
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@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
6 Nov 09
That is what is is most necessary for living Zandi. When the Industrialization was on its wheel in Europe poets like Pope, Yeats and Wordsworth loathed the urban life and started a search for a peaceful location where peace would fall in drops. I am brought up in city but now settled in a small town where the pollution of the environment and mental serenity is still far away.
Your home place might be far away abut the place where you are installed now is the source of your contentment. What else one should look for more than this?
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
5 Nov 09
Hi Rajib!
I am perfectly happy where I am now. In fact I am probably happier in my present situation than any other that I have been in before. I have lived in several different homes and different locations near to where I am right now and I have had different jobs during my life too. My situation came about when I lost my job due to the company closing a few yaears ago which meant I also had to put my home up for sale too. I then had to find a new job and a new home, both of which have turned out to be what I always wanted. My flat is small and my job is the one I trained for but had not actually done since I moved here to Italy due to not knowing the language all those years ago.
I am in the centre of town but overlooking a park so it seems that I am in the countryside. Iam within walking distance of all the shops, the post office, chemists and any other office that I use regularly so I do not have to use the car. My son's home is half way between my home and my work-place and all in all it is perfect here! At the time of choosing to come here it was a difficult decision to make as it was not the sort of place that I thought I wanted to be in but time has now proved it to be the best situation and it is a joy to return here each time that I come home.
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
6 Nov 09
I have usually been happy wherever I happened to be. I often wonder if it is wrong to say that I prefer life here compared to in UK but if I said I preferred it there then it would be absurd to stay here. I am sure that until someone actually leaves their own country and sets up home somewhere else they cannot understand how others ho do it must be feeling.
It is sad that those from Bangladesh do not feel 'at home' there. Are they unwanted and not made to feel at home?
I believe there is no point in crying over spilt milk Rajib. I had no choice but to sell my home so rather than be sad about it I decided just to put it down to another lesson in life and move on
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
7 Nov 09
Ofcourse there is no use crying over the spilt milk but the lesson one gathers is something top store for future.
About those Bangladeshis - most of them are uninvited guests and even after given a chance they do not show gratitude towards the country that has fed them and sheltered them. Ungrateful creatures I call them.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
6 Nov 09
Kudos to your spirit Diana. Though being an English you have so well adapted to the life style of Italy that you are no longer an English now and I think in the races of your mind there lies all the Italy in you more than England.
The feeling of belongingness is great but I lament the fact that this is not to be seen with the Bangladeshi migrants in India and particularly in Assam. They are born and brought up in India but their heart and souls are either in Bangladesh or in Pakistan. Is it justified?
I also appreciate your undying zeal for life that even though you had to sell your house you did not break and consolidated that life has many avenues to look for. Great.....
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@greenfeathers (1206)
• United States
6 Nov 09
Well, where I am is not so important to me. Who I am with is..By now some of you have been introduced to Liz, in various discussions and know that I will, when given the means, dote on her excessively..monetarily when its available or bragging on her here or whatever way that I can. She is still here when many of the things I thought were REALLY important have since gone away..So, if you consider who I am with as being where I am then you best believe that I'm the happiest critter on God's green earth and quite thankful for the opportunity to be where I am..Enjoy!
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
11 Nov 09
Hi,
very mystical as well as metaphysical response. Thank you very much.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
12 Nov 09
Hi Staraven,
I am happy to know that you are happy where you are now. Yes that is right things never get better always. We have to make the best of them.
@playwright82 (167)
• United States
6 Nov 09
I love living where I am now. I used to live in a small town in Florida. Now I live in a small town in North Carolina. Small towns or out in the country are my favorite places to live and visit. I love the privacy and the fact that few people know you are there. I just didn't like Florida because it was too hot. I'm loving North Carlina, I'm just going to have to get used to the colder winters.
@playwright82 (167)
• United States
11 Nov 09
I do write plays. I try to anyway. I start them and then end up with writers block and don't finish them for a while. And I do hope this new place makes me happy.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
11 Nov 09
Hi playwrite,
Do you write plays? Just curious.
Well your present resident at Carolina should bring you happiness as you are trying to get used to its climate and weather.
@KATRINKA (1624)
• United States
6 Nov 09
I think happiness is a decision, not a place. For the most part, I'm pretty happy where I am. I have a good job with good benefits, and I have the type of job I can leave behind when I leave the building. No one from work is going to call me, bother me, ask me to come in on my off hours. While it's not my dream job, it's good for now. Someday I'd like to be a full-time novelist. Until I'm able to do that, my job works. Where I live is decent. I live in a quiet, relatively safe neighborhood. I'd like to live someplace else eventually, a home with a chf's kitchen and room for my growing collection of books. But for the most part, I am happy where I am.
@LaurenInLA (2270)
• United States
11 Nov 09
Katrinka...What a wonderful point. I couldn't agree with you more. Happiness is truly a decision. It's a lot more about attitude than it is about where you live, what you have and who your friends are. Best of luck with your writing career. I have the same dream. I just finished my first mystery novel and am early into mystery novel number two.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
11 Nov 09
HiKATRINKA,
that is fine happy and still looking for the means of happiness to add in future. You should be happy that you are located in a safe place and you have your privacy. Just reflect how many of us do have that facility?
i guess you are a writer. yes I too write. I have not tried novels but have written a good number of short stories and poems.
@LaurenInLA (2270)
• United States
6 Nov 09
I live in Southern California and I like it here. The weather is perfect. It's almost always summer and where I live, I can be at the beach, in the mountains or in the desert in an hour or less. A couple of times, on the longest day of the year, I've done all three. I must admit though that I have wanderlust in my soul. If it were possible, I wouldn't live anywhere. I would be on the road exploring new and interesting places. I've always thought that there is probably some place in this world where I would love to live and I would hate to die without finding it.
@LaurenInLA (2270)
• United States
11 Nov 09
Yes, I do know the song, Hotel California. The Eagles are one of my favorite groups. To answer your second question, there are tons of things to do here. On the longest day of the year, it's become a tradition for DH and I to drive first to the mountains and then to the desert and end up at the beach where we spend the night. Since the weather here is always warm (we rarely get to anything cooler than early fall weather and that is very rare) you can do something outside anytime that you want to. If you want cold, you can go up to the mountains for snow in the winter. DH and I live in a college town and that only increases the number of things that we have to do. There is always a concert, an art show, or a dramatic performance and for the most part we can find something free or low cost to do every day. Today is free day at the Norton Simon Museum so that's where we're headed. I do hope that you get to visit one day. You would love it here. You might end up like me. I came here on a vacation and I never left!
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
11 Nov 09
Hi Lauren,
your place reminded me of the famous number "Hotel California" by the Eagles. Have you listened to this song?
by the way as you are happy in your place that brings solace to me too as one of the fellow lotter is happy. Is this place so full of variety? I would surely like to visit once in lifetime.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
11 Nov 09
It is America. States are just smaller areas of the country. We have government laws that everyone follows but there are some laws that are controlled by state officials and in different ways. Ex. One state may allow an execution for a crime while another state may not. On state may have a law that if you ride a motorcycle, you must wear a helmet but another state may allow their riders to ride without.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
11 Nov 09
hi Jen,
that sounds nice that you are happy where you are at present. but I could not make out how state is different from your place or world? Is it America?
@strawberrybaby39 (2086)
• United States
7 Nov 09
I am happy with my home but would rather live in the country with lots of woods and some land. I do not like town very much. I was raised in the country on farm land. Most of my family have lived in the country there whole life so it is very different in town to me.
@strawberrybaby39 (2086)
• United States
11 Nov 09
It is very peaceful out in the country. Very nice and relaxing and not have to worry about a care in the world. But in the city or town your always under pressure because of so many people around. To me there is nothing relaxing about town at all. I just love the country.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
11 Nov 09
Hi there,
youir choice strikes with that of mine. I too love the country side where peace drops like honey from the tree and there is the song of the cricket.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
Well! For me am not happy where I am located because if there's a chance to go in a foreign country I will be there.
Here in our area have limited opportunities and no improvement as life goes by. The price of goods and commodities is rising and the government haven't do anything to improve lives...
We live in miserable kind of life and going to a foreign land to work is an option to uplift the life condition of my family...have a nice day!
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
11 Nov 09
Hi,
In such condition of course one would wish to migrate to a place where the basic amenities are available with other things to support life.
@dens61 (130)
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
I am happy where I am now because I think twice before making a decision of transferring to another place.
Some people are natually like that- always looking at other places and thinking that the "grass is greener on the other side". And once they become settled to that places where they thought was better than the previous one they were in, they start looking for imperfections on the new place. They don't seem to be satisfied. That's human nature.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
10 Nov 09
ya, One should think of more but there is limitation of our choice as finance is concerned.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
15 Nov 09
Hi balasri,
what else one should ask life for more than that? Your place is of your choice and you are happy as well and yes this is abode for us. Rest the good days and bad days are there as they are there for everyone.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
16 Nov 09
Of course, even at my place we are surrounded with people we hate I am still happy where i Live. Because I am with the people I love. My place is not safe, there are so many people doing illega and there are many traitor surrounded us but I still willing to stay, because this is the place where I grow up. Of course I still want a place that I can have peace of mind and I want to be in that place someday. Someday I will be in that place with the people I love.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
16 Nov 09
Hi gracy,
Struggle against the evil is the essence oaf life. You do still love the place where you are and you know this is surrounded by rouges and traitors. But your zeal to go on living in the same place puts you for a prize. Go on friend fighting....
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
6 Nov 09
I am quite happy where I live. I am forever grateful that my parents immigrated to Australia all those years ago and this country has become my home because in my opinion there is no better place! I like my house and my suburb although my husband and I have the dream of one day buying a property in the country somewhere, maybe when we retire or if we win the lotteries!
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
10 Nov 09
Hi paula,
Winning lottery is not an easy task. You believe me, I have not won any lottery till date though sometime I am in the groove.
I can well understand your fascination towards Australia. There is no denying the fact that your country is one of the most peaceful one. Wait someday I could drop at your kingdom.
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
5 Nov 09
I am happy with my family as my companion as long as we are all complete and in good health. However, i desire to transfer from another provinces as the place is not too progressive and even like to transfer from a large city. As their are more opportunity abounds and one could be expose to lot of modern technology, all sorts of entertainment and wide access to a lot of information unlike in the small city where the knowledge one learn is limited with the available resources on hand.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
6 Nov 09
Hi neeli,
Well friend in my opinion you should not migrate to any other place as you are happy there. So far progress is concerned this is a relative matter. As you are harboring a desire to go somewhere else as the place you are living is not progressive, would not it become your obligation that you do contribute towards its progress? If people like you think on the same line and opt for going to different places what would happen to the place you are living?
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
hi krajibg,
I really like to stay in my place when their is a lot of opportunity but as of the moment even though I like to stay here their is no progress as many offices here opt to hire relatives and nepotism and graft corruption is very high. Thus, I like to go and venture in a fair places where I could find my own self. I would be happy in any places as long as my family is with me. It doesn't matter as I am lonely in my places though I am happy with my family but not with the place I live as even them like to transfer to other places. My family plan to relocate in the near future. Have a great day!
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
16 Nov 09
I like where I am for a lot of reasons but there are some things that could be better. Since Katrina hurricane season is tenuous and it would be nice to have another home someplace north and out of the path of the storms.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
16 Nov 09
Hello canellita,
Nice wordings. Of course it would be safe if the torrent is blowing other side of the hill.
I appreciate your love for the place where you are located presently.
@xyniece (77)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
i am not happy with my location here.i live in a small town and is very far from the city.it's about 1hr drive to the city.whatever transactions we have,we still have to go to the city and that is really very tiring coz its far...but now i'm excited because our family is planning to move to another place where i can be with my siblings who work there.we are selling our properties here.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
11 Nov 09
Hi xyniece,
You seem to be possessed by city life more than small town. but i am opposite to yours. I too am living in a small town and it is two and half hours drive to the city from where i have been living,. i have my home in the city too but i love this small city where i get most of the necessary thing in the nearby bigger towns.
Well still I hope you get there soon and be happy again.